Wow! All I can say is "Wow!" I can relate to almost every single post here. I homeschool my 3 children, Dd1 is 6.5, Dd2 is 3.5 & Ds is 4.5 months - LOL, I suppose he isn't homescooling yet...
Boadicea, as soon as I read post #4, where you said that you scream at your kids & you see fear in their eyes & your mind is telling you that it isn't right to yell but you can't stop yourself - I knew I fit in here. I do that more frequently than I'd like to admit, as well as saying things that I shouldn't.
I also could relate very much to the "it takes a village..." quote. I have though a lot about this in the past year or so. Fortunately, I belong to a local chapter of 'Families for Natural Living' (FNL) & it is my saving grace. I think there are about 150 members in our area, some closer than others. Unfortunately, I have to drive to see any of them, but oh how I wish we all lived in a village & that we were all neighbors. *THAT* is my "comfort visualization" right now, when I'm stressed, I close my eyes & visualize a village with all of my AP friends surrounding me, our children playing together & the mama's (& papa's) making meals together every. single. night.
Maybe you can go to the main FNL site www.familiesfornaturalliving.org
& see if you have a local group...if not, try creating one? Check out this link to see if there is a group near you http://tinyurl.com/j42t7
I remember, after I had my Dd's, I was desperate to find some AP parents & I was at Whole Foods & I looked at their bulletin board & saw an ad by a "Waldorf Homeschooler Seeking Fellow Homeschoolers" & I called her! Now we are friends & our children play & we have tea & chat!
I am SOOOOO fortunate that we live with my mom & dad. I am a single, homeschooling sahm & if I didn't have my mom, I'd never make it. Never. That goes along with the village idea. I recently read that the reason the female human species goes through menopause (we are the only species that does, every other species can reproduce until death) is so that we are ensured enough time to raise our babies before we die AND to ensure that we have help from our mother's in raising our own young. Does that make you realize how far removed we are from the way nature intended??
I went camping last month with my mom's whole side of the family - she's one of 11 kids. Every other year we rent out all of the cabins (about a dozen) at a lake front camp. Each cabin is the size of a small room. They are spaced about 12 feet apart & have a community bathroom. Every morning we'd get up, walk out of our cabin & pop into each cabin to grab a cup of coffee, or berries for the kids, each auntie would offer us food & drink & we'd sit & chat & then move on to the next cabin. We made meals together & ate together as one big "village." I was in heaven! *THAT* is the way it SHOULD be! I was so sad to leave. I am constantly thinking of ways to make that happen, to recreate that village, it seems near impossible. I do dream of winning the lottery (it would help if I played it
) & buying a nice piece of land & building an eco-village for all of my AP mama buddies & family, wouldn't that be lovely?
Originally Posted by chrfath
Forget finding a homeschooling, vegetarian family with a child with down syndrome.
chrfath, I had to quote you, in our FNL group, we have a homeschooling, vegetarian family with a DS child! I absolutely adore this family, the kids are similar in age to my kids, almost 6, almost 4 & the baby (with DS) is 1.5. They are such amazing parents, I really do envy their patience & energy. I hope you can find a community that you fit in with. Have you tried searching for a DS group in your area? We are fortunate in that we live in a pretty crunchy area, we have a nice Waldorf school nearby, many crunchy folks, large homeschooling community, etc. It's hard to meet mainstream folks in any setting, but especially when you're looking for like-minded folks with a special needs child.
Boy, I really babbled. I will continue to read this thread, I definitely can commiserate with everyone suffering from "depleted mother's syndrome."