Have you told your family?

[RoadWorkAhead]

Just curious. DF and I were trying, but we hadn't told our families we were trying as they don't exactly support that decision *they don't believe I can go to law school with 2 kids* I was hoping to have a little while longer before spilling the beans, but I am getting concerned that the m/s and suddenly expanding belly will give it away sooner than later. Have you told your families? How'd they take it or why are you waiting?

[swtpesq]

We told our moms on Mother's Day, which meant that we waited 2 weeks exactly after we found out...we were very hesitant because of my m/c in 12/05...didn't want to get them excited for nothing. After my blood test showed that my hcg was increasing well, we decided we'd tell them. Still haven't told anyone else, tho, not even our best friends. We're just a bit more gun-shy this time around.

As for going to law school with kids...it can definitely be done. I didn't have kids when I was in law school, but a lot of my friends and classmates did. If you're disciplined and diligent, it's actually kind of an ideal time to have little ones because your schedule is very flexible (especially after the first year) and you can plan your classes around day care, breastfeeding, etc. As long as you can swing it financially, you should be fine. You just need a supportive partner who will take over all the childcare duties for at least a couple of weeks while you cram for finals. Best of luck to you!

[angel0123]

I just found out 2 days ago I was def. pg. No one knew we were trying after taking a while to concive last time> I couldn't handle "are you pg yet?" questions.
I will tell my parents next week. I bought a iron transfer from ebay that says "big news I am going to be a big brother." I'll put it on my ds (2) i'll see how long it takes. I would wait until early june to tell my mom for her bday. But ds needs xrays next wk so I won't be able to go in with him.
I hope they are happy, they will say we can't afford a 2nd but honestly they don't know our finances.
I am getting the pg confirmed at my drs a week today. But I know I am pg!

[meggles]

Originally Posted by swtpesq

We told our moms on Mother's Day, which meant that we waited 2 weeks exactly after we found out.

Us too! (Meaning that we found out on 4/29 and that we told our moms on Mother's Day). I wonder if we'll give birth on the same day, swtpesq?!
Everyone is very excited for us (and for themselves too) as they knew we'd been trying over a year.

[Jess_n'_the_bean]

This is our first and was a 'surprise' - tho a very welcome one...we couldn't wait - told our parents right away (about a week and a half ago) and a few very close friends. I have told my boss b/c it's hard to hide the puking!!

My rule for telling people has been - 'if something did go wrong, who would i want support from'. I have let that dictate the decision-making. Hope that helps!

[Kritto]

We've told our families (who are in other states), but are waiting on telling anyone here until I'm ready to tell my advisor (I'm working on my Masters, and not sure how receptive he'll be) around week 12 or so.

[Ahappymel]

I told my dad and his wife this weekend.
Was worried about their reaction since my partner and I are not legally married and this conflicts with their value system.
Got quite a bit of negativity from my dad. Basically him saying he doesn't want me to get pregnant from every guy I meet (this will be my 2nd child...have one son from a previous marriage). Honestly, I felt like telling him I am going for a personal record
He said he would prefer if his grandchild were "legitimate" and he playfully called it a little "B" (bastard).
His wife seemed very dissapointed in me...quiet and shocked so she said.

[swtpesq]

Ahappymel, I'm sorry their reaction was so negative - that's no way to greet news of a new little bundle-of-joy-to-be! Hopefully their attitude will soften as your belly grows.

[Ahappymel]

Originally Posted by swtpesq

Ahappymel, I'm sorry their reaction was so negative - that's no way to greet news of a new little bundle-of-joy-to-be! Hopefully their attitude will soften as your belly grows.

Thank you, Christina : )
Well my dad and his wife LOVE my son so I know they'll love this baby too.
It will just take a little time for them to get used to the idea.
*Sigh* Still have a great deal of anxiety about telling my ex-husband (son's dad) and people at work who are very conservative and likely to judge me for not being married.
I remind myself that this is my life, not theirs.
As my sis says, "Please yourself and at least one person will be happy."

[storychick]

Not yet. We only just found out ourselves, but we're going to wait. I feel cautious this time around, and I'm enjoying keeping our little secret. We have the opportunity to tell my parents in person this time around, since they are coming for a visit next month, so I will probably have my DS tell. Frankly by then as soon as they see me they will probably be able to, as early as I tend to show and this being #3. The other grandparents will have to be by phone as they are far away. We havent told the kids yet either because they have big mouths.

[earthie_mama]

Originally Posted by angel0123

they will say we can't afford a 2nd but honestly they don't know our finances.

I HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE that!!!! We were homeless when we got pregnant with our first, now he's one and we own a house!!! On top of that, we spend such a minute amount of money on him......KIDS ARE NOT EXPENSIVE, unless you buy all the sh*t that is marketed to make paretns feel their child would be 'deprived' without, and if you b/f and cloth diaper! Well, kids are practically free......lol

[Ahappymel]

I just got a call from my Dad who just wanted to let me know that he does love me, he loves his grandchild and grandchild-to-be and that he wants me to take good care of myself : )
That's about as loving as he gets and I am feeling so grateful for his gift of love

[swtpesq]

That's wonderful! I'm so glad for you!

[gr8tfulmom]

We had a BBQ the week before mothers day. I normally would have tipped back a couple, so it was obvious something was up when I didn't have my lovely dark beer It seems like half the town knows, we were getting out of the car today at the post office and an old family friend yelled out her window "I heard you're preggo - how cool!" Then at the bank, a girl that had a crush on my bro in HS "I just heard " I guess by the time you get to number 4 no one is really surprised

[MacKinnon]

We haven't told anyone IRL. I had a m/c with my last and feel very, very protective of this PG. My mom and sister are living with us and I haven't even told them yet! I lied to my mom about going to work early to go get my beta HCG done. This is all very silly because if I do m/c I will tell them! I just feel like I need the beta HCG levels back to confirm things before I tell them! AND-- everyone under the sun knows that we are trying, and are happy for us, so this isn't a big shock or anything...

[Mamita Mala]

I haven't old my family because I know all hell will break loose. Ha ha. Seriously . My boyfriend and I just figured it out this weekend and we haven't been together long and don't even live together right now.

His family hasn't even met me!!

I will tell my daughter next week probably before I have my first midwife's appointment

[annekevdbroek]

We haven't told anyone. Well, my husband's work schedule (he is a medical fellow) was set for the next year and so he had to tell to request some changes in late Jan.... Otherwise I want to wait until my first dr's appointment, which is another 2 weeks. We didn't tell anyone we were trying (with this one or the first) because I hate the inevitable questions that leads too. So in another 2 or 3 weeks we'll start spilling the beans.

[a_work_in_progress]

I don't have close family to share the news with. But, I did tell my cousin, and she was one of the few supportive people.