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If one more person says "socialazation" to me

post #1 of 53
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I swear I'll scream!!!! I already had ahuge fight with MIL than in recounting the story to my friend my freind said, "well she wont AS socialized as other kids" What...will my daughter only be partly socialized???? :
Why does everyone think that kids can only be social in school? You can't even be social in school...not really. after school maybe and maybe during some fun classes but mosly aren't kids there to learn...not socialize. Is that what teacher's say all the time???? I am sooo irritated!~!!!
post #2 of 53
I feel ya, mama! I think we all get fed up with hearing that. People think homeschoolers are gangly, desperate kids without friends. How sad that misconception is. I tell my family that my kids are BETTER socialized than school kids because they aren't limited to their own age group. My kids talk with people in the community of all ages, races, religions, etc. This helps them to be more accepting of others, also, instead of the cliques kids face in school. My daughter can converse with anyone now instead of standing behind me not interacting with "the adults". We have to educate these people about the misconceptions of hsers! I'm with you on that one!
post #3 of 53

ARRRRRRGGGGHHHH!!!!
I swear to gawd...WE are seriously considering homeschooling and every single dang person I mention it to I get the "Socialization" crap!!
I just realized this bothers me ..Can ya tell!?!!
Seriosly im getting really sick of people lately offering their unsolicited advice in terms of how to raise my kid!:
post #4 of 53
Even if that was true, if I KNEW Joe would never get any socialization whatsoever, I would STILL homeschool him, because... I graduated in 1991 & it is only within the last few years that I have really recovered from the "socialization" I received in public school. And I still have issues, they are simply no longer as severe.
post #5 of 53
Well, I have a chuckle for you that might help: The Interview. It's a fictional story, but fun. Lillian
post #6 of 53
Yep! My mom said something to the same effect--" You and your brother went to public school and you guys turned out fine!". I reminded her about how I came home crying just about every day begging to go to private school(I knew nothing of hsing then). I also reminded her of the bad socialization in schools like the things I've heard of kids doing on the schoolbus now, bullying, patronization by authorities, and all that other crap. Why torture our kids? Why make them doubt themselves due to the way others treat them? We can teach them about these people and ideas BEFORE we send them out in the "real world", and they will be more able to deal with it.
post #7 of 53
Anytime I hear this, I offer too send my dd to go chat with worried party. Ten minutes with my outgoing chatterbox , should convice most people that there is nothing unsocial about homeschooled children.
I also like too point out to people that one of the reasons I wanted to homeschool is that when she was kindergarten age she was so shy and withdrawn. I didn't think she could handle being in such a large group all day. But by being at home and being allowed too learn to socialize with people at her pace and not being restricted too just one age group. She has become a very outgoing, friendly, polite child to anyone of any age she happens too meet. When we are at a playground or park and she sees a child being left out she will usually go up introduce herself and try and include the other child.
I don't think any of this would have happened if I had sent her off too school.
JMHO
post #8 of 53
I really like that one, Lil. You're an endless resource! I actually sent that one to my mom!
post #9 of 53
Okay, they're socialized, but . . . how will they learn to take turns?












Seriously - I got to hear from MIL alllllll about how dd's cousin is being taught how to take turns in preschool - can't wait til she finds out we're homeschooling. Bwahahahaha.

I find that with the kids I know, they lost the ability to socialize with adults when they started school.
post #10 of 53
If anyone mentions socialization to me I simply reply with "One more reason I choose to homeschool."
post #11 of 53
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My3monkeys:
My DD isn't actually shy and withdrawn but she gets self conscious around people when asked to "perform" like in our singng class. she wont sing when asked...just giggle but she sings all the songs at random times at home or in the car. So people will say that she needs to be socialized...did people say that to you b/c your DD was shy? People seem to think that she should be forced to socialize. they think she needs to be dragged away from me b/c she is nrevous without me.
post #12 of 53
I just had that talk with the secretary at the preschool where I help out at times ( I usually take him with me ).....she was going on about him never talking or saying "hello" to her, he would not be such a strange child if he went to school...helloooo- he has Aspergers!!!!...and NO my child is not strange- he is a gift from heaven
post #13 of 53
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Originally Posted by hipumpkins
My3monkeys:
My DD isn't actually shy and withdrawn but she gets self conscious around people when asked to "perform" like in our singng class. she wont sing when asked...just giggle but she sings all the songs at random times at home or in the car. So people will say that she needs to be socialized...did people say that to you b/c your DD was shy? People seem to think that she should be forced to socialize. they think she needs to be dragged away from me b/c she is nrevous without me.
Yes, there were people who felt that was the exact reason she needed too go to school! A friend whose dh is a public school teacher, was very adament on the subject. To this day I try too avoid the subject with her, because I get tired of defending my decisions. I think it also bothers her that my dd reads much more fluently than her ds, who is older.
I also forgot to mention that my dd had a speech delay and tends to stutter. Which gets worse when she is nervous or excited. I was afraid the other children would make fun of her and only make the problem worse. Unfortunately as we all know children can be cruel. This way she has learned too cope with it on her own in her own way. The speech as cleared and the older she gets and the more confident she gets, the less she stutters. Funny you should mention singing, my dd also loves too sing. She is very good. Never a stutter or stammer when she sings either. I just wish I could afford voice lessons for her.
Don't let the naysayers get too you, go with your mommy instinct!
post #14 of 53
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Originally Posted by hipumpkins
I swear I'll scream!!!! I already had ahuge fight with MIL than in recounting the story to my friend my freind said, "well she wont AS socialized as other kids" What...will my daughter only be partly socialized???? :
Why does everyone think that kids can only be social in school? You can't even be social in school...not really. after school maybe and maybe during some fun classes but mosly aren't kids there to learn...not socialize. Is that what teacher's say all the time???? I am sooo irritated!~!!!
I hear ya'.
post #15 of 53
Because, of course, we *all* know that no shy child was *ever* driven deeper into themselves as a result of school.: C'est un peu stupid ca.
post #16 of 53
Sometimes I wonder....how did all the early American pioneer families deal with these problems? How did they even continue to live their lives, procreate and deal with the abominable harshness of life on the prairies, etc...without the socialization provided by public schooling. I mean, most of the time they didn't have schools, teachers were hard to come by, especially in very rural areas. Other families lived many miles away so children were forced to find amusement with their siblings...it's a wonder this country didn't go down in flames...must be some kinda miracle!
post #17 of 53
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Sometimes I wonder....how did all the early American pioneer families deal with these problems? How did they even continue to live their lives, procreate and deal with the abominable harshness of life on the prairies, etc...without the socialization provided by public schooling. I mean, most of the time they didn't have schools, teachers were hard to come by, especially in very rural areas. Other families lived many miles away so children were forced to find amusement with their siblings...it's a wonder this country didn't go down in flames...must be some kinda miracle!


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Don't let the naysayers get too you, go with your mommy instinct
Thanks!!
post #18 of 53
Have you ever noticed how incredibly *RUDE* most comments about "socialization" are?!
post #19 of 53
I have. And I have wondered how they would respond if I did the same in kind. But I say nothing at times. And other times, I just look puzzled.
post #20 of 53
Would you rather have your child "socialized" by 30 other children in a classroom or influenced/socialized by you (ie your influence being stronger in those early years rather than by peers)? I have read that hs children have much better self-image and social skills....
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