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post #21 of 53
By the way, anyone know of a good resource to learn of the positives with hs? I have a toddler DD and am considering hs her after meeting some families who homeschool and love it. I am nervous and feel very overwhelmed with the idea of trying to entertain my child all day or try to find enriching activities without her getting bored...???
post #22 of 53
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Originally Posted by hotmamacita
I have. And I have wondered how they would respond if I did the same in kind. But I say nothing at times. And other times, I just look puzzled.
I always want too respond back with something smartaleck. But usually I just answer back very nicely. My dh on the other hand doesn't have that problem. When someone asked him one day, if he wasn't worried about the long term damage that he could do too his children. He responded that he was much more concerned about the long term damage of day care. Also that we had our children too raise them ourselves not too turn them over too someone else too raise most of the day. This to the man whose children had been in day care since day 1! He never said another word about homeschooling to dh!
post #23 of 53
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not too turn them over too someone else too raise most of the day.
Oooo!! I'm using that!!! If you're husband wont mind!
post #24 of 53
This is the biggest thing I hear when I tell people we are considering homeschooling and it annoys me to no end. My DH is a big fan of throwing that word around too (he's not as convinced about homeschooling as I am). As if school is the only place kids can get together and socialize!
post #25 of 53
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Originally Posted by kim5
By the way, anyone know of a good resource to learn of the positives with hs? I have a toddler DD and am considering hs her after meeting some families who homeschool and love it. I am nervous and feel very overwhelmed with the idea of trying to entertain my child all day or try to find enriching activities without her getting bored...???
I think just hanging around here and seeing the fun people that are having with their children is a great way to learn the positives. Also look up in the sticky about articles/info in defense of homeschooling. They're not all particularly "defending" it - some are just telling about the values of it. Meanwhile, you might find some fun things to do with your little ones in this preschool/kindergarten page - in the two top articles and beneath the box of articles in all site links. Lillian
post #26 of 53
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Originally Posted by Lillian J


I think just hanging around here and seeing the fun people that are having with their children is a great way to learn the positives. Also look up in the sticky about articles/info in defense of homeschooling. They're not all particularly "defending" it - some are just telling about the values of it. Meanwhile, you might find some fun things to do with your little ones in this preschool/kindergarten page - in the two top articles and beneath the box of articles in all site links. Lillian
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I know I found myself doubting weather I was doing the right thing a few months ago. Due too alot of stress and some very hurtful comments from supposed friends. So I found my way over here, I have lurked off and on for quite awhile. By joining in and reading I am finding my confidence returning and reinforcing why I thought hs was best for my family. I have also finally got around too joining the only local homeschool group I know of. I am just waiting too her back from them. I just realized that I sent my letter and check a month ago, still haven't heard from them. I guess I better contact them!
post #27 of 53
IN response to taking away recess, A mother said "It's how I believe they start building their social structure," said Sandi Hocker, a mother of two in San Antonio, Texas. "Their P.E. classes are organized, and they are activity related. I think (children) need recess just for the socialization."

SO if recess is for socialization. Then what is school for?

I cut and pasted the quote from this article I found via a thread in N&CE. http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060517/...tkBHNlYwM3MTg-
post #28 of 53
Okay, so maybe I could say this in response to the socialization comments...

Yes, kids need relationship and recess in schools is a great way for kids to socialize. Did you know they are thinking of removing recess from some public schools? Can you believe that?
post #29 of 53
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Originally Posted by hotmamacita
Okay, so maybe I could say this in response to the socialization comments...

Yes, kids need relationship and recess in schools is a great way for kids to socialize. Did you know they are thinking of removing recess from some public schools? Can you believe that?
I still have a visceral reaction when the subject comes up. It's really scary. And the scariest thought of all might be what kind of adults they're going to become with so much childhood missing from their lives.... - Lillian
post #30 of 53
I hear ya !!!
We actually had an employee of my parents (they run a trucking buisness) tell my 3 1/2 year old that if he goes to school at home he'll have no firends, never meet any girls adn no one will like him and they will think he's wierd.
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OH I WAS PI$$ED! Luckily my son can take things form the source and know that non of this is true! (Especialyl since all his really close friends are homeschooled as well!!)
post #31 of 53
I was just "attacked" on the socialization subject this last week. I found it very irritating. I'm complimented by many people at how nice and well behaved my children are. I believe they get along with others of various ages, as they aren't stuck with 20-30 kids of the same age. I made the comment to the attcking person that kids are told they aren't in school to socialize. Plus that there are numerous opportunities for children to interact with others, without being in a school environment. I left it at that, as I felt the words were falling on deaf ears. At least most people I encounter are nicer about the whole subject.
post #32 of 53
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Originally Posted by hotmamacita
Okay, so maybe I could say this in response to the socialization comments...

Yes, kids need relationship and recess in schools is a great way for kids to socialize. Did you know they are thinking of removing recess from some public schools? Can you believe that?
and do you know that not all ps have recess. The first elementry school I went to(K-mid of 6th grade) did not have recess. We just had gym once a week. The other elementry school I went to had recess, but it was only for up to 4th grade.
post #33 of 53
<<<Yes, kids need relationship and recess in schools is a great way for kids to socialize. Did you know they are thinking of removing recess from some public schools? Can you believe that?>>>

Watching a PBS news show last month.They were discussing recess,and how it is first to go over academics.They stated that 40% of public schools today no longer have it,and yet how important it was for the childrens development.

When dd was in preschool her teacher(s) would have trouble controling 10-15 kids,so why would a classroom of 15+ kids be better(and with only 1 teacher!)?Oh yea,as they age the behave better
No thanks! We like to pick our settings,and if the kids(or adults) are not to our liking then we leave.No need to sit for hours and tolerate it!
post #34 of 53
I haven't even started homeschooling yet and I'm getting that! First hubby was worried that she'd be "wierd" if I homeschooled her. Then my mom was worried that she wouldn't be socialized.
I finally convinced Hubby to let me try it, and if she started being "weird" we'd change something (LOL! Men!), and he was going to "let me do it" but wasn't happy with it, although he's completely on board now. And after telling my mom about us taking her puppy for a walk and that she told EVERY person we saw "Hi! This is my puppy. His name is Trey!" she worried that she might be a tad TOO social! Where we live, we can see the park from the back yard, so I watch when I'm outside and if I see a few short people running around, we decide it's a good time to go to the park. Our neighbor across the street had a boy a few months older than DD, and her best friend is about 6 mos older than her. She has a cousin a year older than her, but that child....well, I just don't like the influence she has on DD. To put it nicely. My other neighbor has grandkids about DD's age but she hasn't met them yet.
MIL, who never agrees with anything I say or do, doesn't know that I'm homeschooling yet. That will be a huge set of fireworks. Good thing I don't really care what she thinks!

Amber
post #35 of 53
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Watching a PBS news show last month.They were discussing recess,and how it is first to go over academics.They stated that 40% of public schools today no longer have it,and yet how important it was for the childrens development.

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That is really sad :-( Kids need that time to get out and burn off some steam, especialy when they've been cooped up in a classroom for several hours. When I was in early elementary, we had 3 recess periods a day! I think the first and third were about 15 minutes, and the second one was after lunch, and we went outside when we finished eating, and it lasted until the end of the lunch period, which I think was a half hour or 45 mins total. I moved in 5th grade, and they only had one recess I think, just after lunch. We even had a "recess" in high school! After we ate we'd go to the gym and play basketball or do whatever we wanted until the 30 min lunch period was over. It's NEEDED for kids in school.

Of course, my first elementary school cut certain academic classes so they could afford to keep the all-important athletics program. Even cut out field trips!

Amber
post #36 of 53
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Originally Posted by HerthElde
Okay, they're socialized, but . . . how will they learn to take turns?
I dunno, my child sat on the edge of the tub while I was using the potty this morning and said "I have to wait for my turn." She's not quite 4, not even old enough to go to public school and be *socialized* yet, and already knows how to take turns.

She plays board games and has to wait her turn, she has to wait her turn at the slide or the tire swing at the playground. She even makes our dogs take turns on going out in the yard to go potty. That's something you should learn way before you are school age!
post #37 of 53
All in all, WAY too many people think that the only way for a kid to become "social" is to be in school with other kids their age....ugh :

I try not to attack to much when I'm given the socialization poop. It's one of the only arguments most parents have approached me with when we have any discussions about homeschooling! Some of my relatives are SO negative about this that I've had to make a 'no talking about homeschooling during holiday dinners' rule in the house !
post #38 of 53
I dunno, my child sat on the edge of the tub while I was using the potty this morning ...
I love that I'm not the only one that doesn't refer to it as a toilet anymore.

I've been lucky with the "s" word. This is probably because I live in an area where homeschooling is common. When I do get it, I consider the source...more often than not it comes from someone whom I feel was let down by the public school system iykwim.
post #39 of 53
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Originally Posted by AmberC
She plays board games and has to wait her turn, she has to wait her turn at the slide or the tire swing at the playground. She even makes our dogs take turns on going out in the yard to go potty. That's something you should learn way before you are school age!
Tell me about it! Dd's 2.5, and she already knows to take turns on the slide at the playground.
IIRC, the ILs were also going on about learning how to stand in line. Because, you know, they all live in a bubble until they start school
post #40 of 53
anyone else up for making a "the S word" flyer to keep handy for these situations??

seriously, the next time it comes up, i'm whipping one out of my diaper bag and handing it out. for my convenience, haha.
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