If your son is intact (not circed) please read - Page 2

[Titus2fam]

What if the tip is red, but it's because your boy won't leave it alone? Is the redness bad or indicate anything is wrong? (Said son is 3yo) (((((HUGS))))) sandi

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Titus2fam red tip from the boy tugging and pulling is normal. If u visit the Case Against Circ forum lots of info there on it.

[Titus2fam]

*THANK YOU!* My two older sons didn't experience the red tip thing. Okay, yet ANOTHER great Mothering forum I need to visit! LOL! (((((HUGS))))) sandi

[Titus2fam]

*THANK YOU!* My two older sons didn't experience the red tip thing. Okay, yet ANOTHER great Mothering forum I need to visit! LOL! (((((HUGS))))) sandi

[la mamita]

just wanted to bump this up...

[pfamilygal]

It is not okay to hit a health care worker. Pick up your child instead. Seriously.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

It is not ok to hit anyone I agree. I did push the peds hand away with ds since it would have been kind of hard to just pick him up since the dr had a tight hold of his penis

[AngelBee]

Thank you for sharing this info.

My brother is intact, but my mother INSISTS I am suppose to retract my sons at every bath because that is what the ped told her 18 years ago when my brother was born.

[AngelBee]

PS I have NEVER retracted them nor will I ever

[Is3enough]

to all the mamma's and little sweet boys that has had this happen to them!! I feel so lucky that the Dr's I have had for my boys have not ever tried!! When my first son was born I asked our DR if there was anything I needed to do to take care of it, I was uneducated about intact boys, she said "No you don't need to do a thing different then if it was a circ'd boy! It should retract on it's own during his childhood, don't do a thing!" My boys weren't circ'd at first because they have hemophilia and it would have been a danger to them to do it,and if we had it would have been a 3-5 day hospital stay for a procedure my insurance wouldn't cover because they considered it "cosmetic" so we would have had to PAY for all that!! Not gonna happen!! But later as I learned it became more that we thought they needed to be whole and there wasn't a thing wrong with that!! I was glad we didn't do it!!
There was even one time my oldest son had an infection in/on his penis that caused it to be red and swollen and the PED we see now gave us a perscription for an ointment and said apply this ON his penis and when I asked about the foreskin she said "Don't worry about that it could get worse if you pull it back, just apply it to the outside and it should be fine in a day or 2. I feel so lucky and I feel awful for the little guys this happens to at the hands of uneducated dr's and nurses!!

[bamamom]

Well, I'm not much of a hitter, but this old nurse was hurting him. HURTING my baby. She was about to cause serious damage....So I did the instinctive thing...I knocked her hands away. It was maybe half slap/half knock.

But I'm gonna do whatever it takes to protect my kiddos from harm. So...If need be, I wouldve really slapped her hands to get her off him.

Just my own personal experience and point of view.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

But I'm gonna do whatever it takes to protect my kiddos from harm.

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[mama_at_home]

Thanks for that agreement printout.

[northernmommy]

Wow, I am lucky! Nobody has even tried to touch my son's penis at all!
I can not believe that a doctor would do something like that. Looking at the small little opening that my baby has, it looks like it would be extremely painful to even TRY to retract it at all!
Poor babies!

[Autumn Breeze]

yeah, I instinctivly knew this when my ds was born. At 2 weeks old we took him to see a urologist, and HE retracted the baby. I was livid. I thought of all people the urologist would know better. Ha.

He is circed now, it was done at 8 months during a hypospadius repair.

But, if we ever have another child and that child is a boy, and anyone, ever tries to retract him, you can bet your bippy, I'll be knocking/slapping/pushing hands away, because they will get ONE warning, when the begin their exam not to retract.

[smeep]

My son's first pediatrician told me to gently tug at it to help it retract. It just didn't sound necessary to me so I ignored her and later found out I was right.

[la mamita]

bump

[paquerette]

Originally Posted by pfamilygal

It is not okay to hit a health care worker. Pick up your child instead. Seriously.

I disagree. (Bear in mind, I probably believe in justifiable violence more than most on MDC). I do not have a son, I only have a daughter so far. For some reason, it's more accepted in this society to circ boys than girls, as we all know. Probably for the same reasons, it's also more acceptable to retract little boys than it is to stick things in little girls' vaginas. You can bet if a health care worker was trying to stick anything in my daughter's vagina, I'd be knocking some teeth out, for starters. I guess I view retraction the same way, as it is the same level of invasiveness, damaging, and unnecessary.

[Faithful Mommy]

Oh my goodness ... I have 3 sons and had no clue about any of this! I feel like such a horrible mother In my defense... I had my first when I was only 16 and my second only 13 months later... but I still wish I knew! All 3 boys are
The one positive thing here is that my boys have had the same ped since they were babies and I do not recall her ever touching the penis. She does go in their diaper and feels around but never touches the penis...:
Th same goes for my little one... he had his well baby not long ago and she did the same thing (just look and feel around)
Now my question is.... when is it ok for my 9 & 10 yo to do this on their own w/o hurting themselves? When they were smaller I would have them gently pull the foreskin back at bath time to clean it.... did I cause any harm? Is it too late? This is what my family told me to do (DH wasn't much help because he was circ)
My youngest is only 2mo and I don't want to make the same mistake 2x

please help :

[paquerette]

FM, whenever they can do it themselves it's okay! They won't pull any farther than is comfortable, in spite of what it looks like! You have nothing to feel bad about. From what I've heard, most will start tugging and playing as toddlers (pretty much as soon as they can get their hands on it ) and eventually figure out retraction on their own. Perhaps as puberty approaches, when you have talks about body changes, it would be a good idea to remind them to pull it back as much as it goes back for them and clean with each bath or shower.