Originally Posted by AlexsMom
I have to agree with bewitchedmama.
I was abused sexually by a baby sitter and an uncle at around the same age. I won't go into detail but I was caught masterbating by my mom at the same age. I was in the living room mindlessly watching tv and just playing with myself not realizing it was not appropriate to do. My mom caught me and asked me what I was doing and why. we had a good relationship so I felt comfortable telling her. At first I thought she was mad at me but then realized her fury was not directed at me. So she hugged me then called the police. I remember being interviewed by a woman who treated me like a baby holding up an anatomically correct doll and asking me questions about what happened. so I just told her in very explicit language (my mom had educated me about sex early on but left out the part about not masterbating in public not realizing it would ever be an issue). I told the investigater precisely what the baby sitter had done and what my uncle had done.
I did not need to go to court because both my molesters plea bargained and both went to prison.
my point is, take it from some one who knows. While it is possible she discovered masterbation on her own, it is more likely that someone showed her and that mother needs to find out who. By the mother's reaction I think she already knows and has chosen to ignore it rather then dealing with it and possibly is even the one abusing the little girl.
calling DCYF or such may or may not do any good because they may not feel that a little girl who masterbates is sufficient evidence of abuse.
I am not a social worker but I would guess that you need to tread carefully here. if it turns out that no abuse is involved the process of investigation could be extremely traumatic for a 5 year old girl. If it turns out she is being abused she needs to be rescued from the situation.