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post #21 of 45
hello mamas! I can't believe my baby Addison will be 3 weeks tomorrow! She is the most awesome and easy baby. My frist two dds were good babies, but cried a lot like normal nb do. Not Addison, she whines when hungry and only cries when naked lol. BF is going great. She eats every two hours and has her awake time in the afternoon. i have 3 more weeks before I go back to work. I've been pumping and storing for my return to work. We sleep a lot so i have no complaints on sleep. She likes to sleep on her right side swaddled. Her eyes are starting to change from dark blue to light blue like me and her sisters.My oldest dd just loves her and likes holding her. She was born with a full head of hair and now its thinning I was hoping it would stay but thats ok.
My breast are now almost back to normal in size. No more Dolly Parton!! My bleeding has stopped and the cramping. Nipples are tough as nails and it doesn't hurt when she latches on anymore which is great.
Over all nothing serious or any sickness which I am soo thankful for. Glad to see so far everyone is doing good
post #22 of 45
Thread Starter 
Hi all. It is so good to hear all the updates. I am having an emotional day right now - just got back from our first pediatrician visit. It went very well, she is still favoring her arm from the shoulder distocia, but that is expected to heal on it's own. Being only 6 days pp, I wasn't quite physically ready to be out & about yet, carrying baby & all the gear, and bringing our 2 year old along. So now I am quite sore - PSD, stitches, back & abdomen (it's like I can feel discomfort inside my uterus, very strange). But the worst of it is, while I was at the pedi., dh took our dog to the vet. We need to make the decision between major surgery to repair torn ligaments (we have had to do this before, twice, on another leg so we know the drill quite well) or put her down for her pain. I am not ready to put her down, but am unsure the effects the surgery will have on her due to her older age & arthritis she already has. Mamas should not be faced with these things so soon PP!! I just don't feel like I can handle it right now, but I can't put it off either.

I hope everyone else is well. Thanks for letting me vent.
post #23 of 45
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Originally Posted by Marylizah
The only thing is,he REFUSES to sleep on his back. He will only sleep facedown on my or DH's chest. I keep his head high off my breasts, because they are pretty huge right now, andI sleep in a semi-reclining position-- but if anyone has any tips for getting the babe on his back and sleeping, please, please share.
Are you swaddling him before putting him down? My DD wasn't sleeping on her back at all and when I tried swaddling her then putting her in the sleeper she went right down. I think her startle reflex was going off constantly in her sleep, making it unpleasant for her to back sleep (picture flailing arms every two minutes or so...). I was a swaddle sceptic previous to this, not anymore though...I think it's just the thing for some babies.
post #24 of 45
I've been pretty weepy the past couple days. I am completely in love with Phoebe and can stare at her for hours, marveling at how perfect and tiny she is. But then when all she wants is my breast sometimes I feel so alone, like there's no one else who is in the Feed Phoebe Club. I also realized last night, as it was taking 3 hours to get her to sleep deeply enough that I could sleep too, that we need to work on things that put her to sleep other than nursing. My husband is wonderful at calming her when she is fussy, but that only lasts so long for her. I guess I'm just adjusting to being completely responsible for another person and always putting her needs first.

What are ways that you've gotten your babies to sleep that don't involve your boobs? DH asked me what I thought about pumping some so he could feed her sometimes too, but I'd like to put that off for as long as possible.

Despite this, though, I really am deliriously happy with this whole motherhood thing so far.
post #25 of 45
Amy,

I have pumped small amounts (maybe 1/2 oz) and had DH feed them to Emerson when he's agitated and having trouble latching on in the middle of the night, that seems to help especially when there has been a longer time in between the feedings and I'm feeling engorged. DH feeds him from a little bowl, so that there's no chance of nipple confusion, he has put the bowl to E's lips and E sort of gets a little on his tongue or lip, or SH will dip his finger in the bowl and put it in E's mouth and stimulates the sucking reflex by touching the top of his mouth. Gradually, E gets a little milk and calms down. When he's awake and not hungry but seems a little agitated, some things we try (basically in this order): burp, diaper/elimination needs; good for wanting more stimulation: read a book, sing to him or play soothing music, walk around the house with him; good for overstimulation: swaddle him, put on one of my black tank tops (from Target) and put him inside (this has worked like a dream when nothing else would)

Hope this helps!

Now I have a question...

Emerson has about an hour (split into 3-4 sessions) of each day where he is alert, awake, and happy. I feel like I should use this time to help stimulate his little brain, but I need some ideas of what to do with him - he is so little that there's not a lot he can do! So we've been reading for him, singing, taking a bath, playing music, showing him around the house, or going for a little walk. Anyone have other ideas of what he might enjoy and be able to handle this early? Thanks!
post #26 of 45
SO ds went to the doctor today and it was pretty annoying visit to say the least. I dont even really know why I take him since we dont vax at all. Anyway-he is bf'ing fantastically and evrything really is wondeful but the ped thought his jaundice might be returning and thought she felt a hip click. So Quinn has to go and get an ultrasound at the hospital which I want him to go because I want it to be remedied but we are a one car family so its a pain and she also wants to take his billi again. BLECH! I hate crappy news....she said it was possible he would have to wear some harness like thingy to correct the hip dysplasia.Bummer huh? All in all-everything is beautiful. My one year old is having a hard time adjusting and has been pretty aggressive to all of us so if any of you have dealt with that any advice is appreciated!
post #27 of 45
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Originally Posted by dharmama
No bed yet. Just two tired parents with major sticker shock! OMG...I had no idea mattresses were so expensive. We're going to shop around a bit to see if we can find anything that fits into our very modest budget. If not....maybe a new twin mattress up against our queen will do the trick.

Good night mamas! Peaceful sleeping vibes to all...
Oh no! I hear ya. We just upgraded from a full-size to a queen size bed a couple of years ago so no way we can spend the money on a bed again. Sometimes we have five in a bed. Now that Audrey is here, if DD1 wakes up, dh takes her back to her bed and lays down with her until she falls asleep and then comes back to the family bed. DS sometimes sleeps all night in his bed, but he's been climbing in with us a lot lately- lots going on!

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Originally Posted by Marylizah
The only thing is,he REFUSES to sleep on his back. He will only sleep facedown on my or DH's chest. I keep his head high off my breasts, because they are pretty huge right now, andI sleep in a semi-reclining position-- but if anyone has any tips for getting the babe on his back and sleeping, please, please share.
My ds never slept on his back. He always slept on his side or tummy- I didn't mind though because he was strong enough to lift his neck no problem. So far Audrey naps on her back in her little seat if she's not in my arms... but at night she sleeps on her side the whole night...
post #28 of 45
hi y'all!

finn has been home from the hospital for a week now and things are going great. he eats and sleeps and grunts--hardly ever cries--and it's just so much fun finally having him here.

right now we're waiting for him to grow into the infant-sized cpfs that we've gotten as hand-me-downs. disposables are so expensive, and he pees like crazy! i want to to ec, and yesterday experimented a little bit. he peed 5 times in one hour, though, so i'm not sure how successful i'm going to be with that.

i'm also waiting for his suck to get stronger so that we can ditch the nipple shield. that was the key to getting him eating and gaining weight well enough to finally be discharged from the hospital, and his suck has definately gotten stronger in the last week, but we've got a ways to go until we can go au naturale, lol. i'm trying to gradually reduce my milk supply to fit his needs, since right now i'm having to pump on the side he doesn't eat on every time he eats. and he doesn't always finish one side, so i worry about a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance.

i've gotten used to having him weighed every day, but it's been a week now and i feel myself slowly getting nervous about him not gaining weight. we'll be going in to the pediatrician in the morning to get weighed, so hopefully we'll see a decent weight gain. if not, i guess i'll have to start waking him up. he usually sleeps for about three hours at a time but can sometimes go for five hours, which i know is too long for him.

i feel so blessed to have him here with me. he's really been waking up since he started bfing exclusively, which is so cool and so different than what i'm used to. it's so nice to be able to treat him like a regular baby! i just love waking up with him next to me, and not having to get dressed and drive to the hospital when i want to see him.

wow, i didn't know i had so much to say!

it's nice to hear how everyone is doing with their new babies! i hope it starts getting easier for those of you who are having trouble.

yay! i'm so excited that i can start participating again.
post #29 of 45
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Originally Posted by ecoteat
I've been pretty weepy the past couple days. I am completely in love with Phoebe and can stare at her for hours, marveling at how perfect and tiny she is. But then when all she wants is my breast sometimes I feel so alone, like there's no one else who is in the Feed Phoebe Club. I also realized last night, as it was taking 3 hours to get her to sleep deeply enough that I could sleep too, that we need to work on things that put her to sleep other than nursing. My husband is wonderful at calming her when she is fussy, but that only lasts so long for her. I guess I'm just adjusting to being completely responsible for another person and always putting her needs first.

What are ways that you've gotten your babies to sleep that don't involve your boobs? DH asked me what I thought about pumping some so he could feed her sometimes too, but I'd like to put that off for as long as possible.

Despite this, though, I really am deliriously happy with this whole motherhood thing so far.
Ecoteat, I can TOTALLY relate to everything you said in your post! Yesterday was a hard/weepy day for me, too, DH was at work and I was all alone with this tiny baby who not only needs me to eat every 2 hours, but also refuses to sleep anywhere besides on me. It was a very lonely day. Today I feel much better, don't know if it's because I slept well or if my hormones are finally calming down or what.

When we need to soothe DS and he doesn't need to eat, we rock him and let him suck on our pinky finger (nail side down). Sometimes he just needs something to suck on and he loses his hand. This works really well, so far. We also sing lullabies that we've been singing to him before he was born.

As for the back-sleeping issue, anyone have swaddling techniques they could share? I've tried in a very half-hearted way to swaddle DS but I don't do it very well & he escapes quickly.

For those of you whose babes side-sleep--- do you use sleep positioners? We got some as a gift & I think I'll try them out.

Thanks for the advice, all.

And a big, big to max, I'm soooo sorry you have to deal with all this stuff so quickly pp.
post #30 of 45
Thread Starter 
Happypants - hooray! So glad you are home & doing well. I think of you often. Sounds like you are doing an amazing job w/Finn. I give you a lot of credit.

Marylizah, thanks for the hug. I needed that.
post #31 of 45
Max - I'm sorry, that would be very hard to deal with at this time.

Re: Candex? Did you ever have upset stomach from this? I started treatment with it and am suspicious that it's causing some pain in the belly, but am not sure. It could be post c/s constipation too : a weird coincidence.

Marylizah - The way I learned best is to compare it to wrapping a burrito. I also have some cheater swaddlers for DH... like http://www.cozycocoon.com/cc.html this one. I have the third one down and bought it at naturalbabies.com and LOVE it. Wish I could afford more than one! I also have the one that you can buy at walmart that works well and even has instructions on the actual swaddler. Kind of like this one, but cheaper IIRC http://store.babycenter.com/product/...ts/7081?stage= . There's a $14 one on the bottom of this page http://www.babybellausa.com/swaddle.html .

Using very much less expensive receiving blankets, you can swaddle just as effectively. Here is a tutorial about swaddling that has pictures and an explanation of why it works (startle reflex, etc).

http://www.adviceforbaby.com/swaddling.htm

I'm not a sleep training type at all, so her advice about that is not something I'm into. I'm completely child led in nursing for, well, it's been 26 months with my toddler and I still nurse on demand (well it's request now with him). I guess my hope for you would be that swaddling could help your baby settle more quickly and sleep for longer periods of time.

Mamatoto.org has some videos of swaddling with a ribbon, as well as an article on reasons to swaddle and how it fits in with AP practices and safety, as well as where it fits in with babywearing.

I hate to ask a probably stupid question for MDC, but do you have a sling or other carrier for daytime? It makes the "must sleep on mama" phenomenon a lot easier when you have things to do if you do.
post #32 of 45
It's so good to see how everyone's doing! Thing's are generally great here. I just love my little guy. DH is awesome with him. It's so sweet to see him holding Lil Milky and having 'man-to-man' talks with him.

nak

Glad to see all is going well Happypants! Yay Finn!

I wanna do more personals but I've got a grunty, squirmy baby on my lap.

I hope everyone is well.
post #33 of 45
Anita my DS LIVES in the sling *sigh* - he is just like his sister - refuses to be put down. Yay. Another high needs baby...: well, he is a little more mellow than she is - he never cries - but still, my back is friggin KILLING me. I bought a "rockin baby sling" from attachedtobaby.com and I love it.

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What are ways that you've gotten your babies to sleep that don't involve your boobs? DH asked me what I thought about pumping some so he could feed her sometimes too, but I'd like to put that off for as long as possible.
Sling! Also bouncing on an exercise ball. luckily DS rarely falls asleep nursing - I DO not want to be the human pacifier again like I was for DD. UGH.

L'lee - here is a GREAT website for baby brains and what you can do to stimulate them: http://www.zerotothree.org/brainwonders/parents.html

happypants so glad you and Finn are home and doing well! Hooray!!!

So does anyone else have a baby that wants to be held ALL the time??? I forgot how hard this newborn thing is. *sigh* The good thing is no PPD as of yet - I am taking my placenta capsules...hope they keep working!
post #34 of 45
It's Day 5. This a.m. I got dressed and could zip a size 10 skirt.
Eden lost her umbilical stump yesterday... I found it loose between the diaper and diaper cover sometime in the evening.. dH was home from work but I don't remember if they'd all had supper yet.. the little dried up stump is still sitting on my bathroom counter.

I caught a pee in the sink today... but then 5 min after putting on the diaper she pooped in it. Way to go baby. Haha.

She weighed 7 lbs 7 oz today... so she's on the upswing (her lowest was 7 lbs 6 oz, a full 10%)

Oh, we slept through the night last night! Well, I'd sat in the recliner to nurse her sitting up one more time before laying down in bed. DH had been asleep 45 min to an hour already, and MIL went to bed when I sat in the recliner. I fell asleep almost immediately! I woke up a few times when Eden rooted, just latched her on to one side or the other and fell right back to sleep. MIL says she woke up once to potty and checked on us, Eden had my nip in her mouth but wasn't sucking. DH slept like a log, 11 p.m. to almost 7 a.m. and boy did he need it!

MIL and I went to WM today... I didn't find what I wanted and was much more tired than I thought I would be when we got home. Eden pooped while we were at WM so I had to change her there.. luckily the back bathroom looked freshly cleaned when we went in there. Cleaner than my bathroom at home probably.

DH worked Sunday, Monday and today... and he works tomorrow. He'll have accrued 40 hours in those 4 days. Then he'll be off Thurs-Sat. MIL will leave Thurs a.m. I have a postpartum doula coming on Sunday so DH can work again, then Monday he has to work but the kids and I will go with him (he's on staff at church and Monday is a huge churchwide picnic). Then Tuesday I have my postpartum doula coming back over. So I should be "covered" while he's at work. Wednesday a friend is taking my kids for the afternoon. So DH will get a full 40 hours that week too.

OH... he got a raise. We found out on the 16th and it was retroactive to May 1.


Maryliza-- my baby sleeps on my chest at night... during the day I've been able to put her down in the little Moses basket my MIL just gave me as a gift. I couldn't believe it when I lay her in it and she stayed asleep. That's a first for me. LOL I put her in the sling a lot-- like when I want to read MDC and type. I also have the blessing of having my older kids who help and are capable of holding the baby... and my MIL is here. I've never been home alone with them until today when my MIL needed to go to urgent care for a UTI. And that was after the 2yo and 4yo were down for nap, and my 7yo, 10yo and 12yo all just sat on couches and read the entire time she was gone (from like 2 to 4).

Luckylady-- if your back is killing you, you need to make sure your sling fits. Usually my back hurts if the baby is too low. Pull your baby up closer to your center of gravity, I like to put baby up on my chest so her weight is all above my waist. That helps a LOT.

Happypants-- sounds like home is treating you so well! I totally wouldn't worry about foremilk/hindmilk stuff. That theory was created by men studying corpse breasts and stuff, the newest research is totally changing what LCs have always believed about foremilk/hindmilk. It's really not what we had always been taught!

BBM-- we got a king size bed (with sheets!) from Freecycle! Then sold our queen at a garage sale for $75. I bought a king size mattress pad for $25 off Overstock.com and paid only $1 shipping. It's been the bomb! We usually have 4 in the bed, haven't had 5 yet as ds4 hasn't come to our bed yet since Eden was born.

L'lee-- right now we all just coo at her.
post #35 of 45
Happypants, I just wanted to tell you your last post brought tears to my eyes. I am so happy you're home with Finn and getting to finally enjoy the everydayness of being a new mom. And I'm so incredibly in awe of you and your dedication to sticking with breastfeeding. You are a true inspiration!
post #36 of 45
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Originally Posted by brown eyed girls
Eden lost her umbilical stump yesterday... I found it loose between the diaper and diaper cover sometime in the evening.. dH was home from work but I don't remember if they'd all had supper yet.. the little dried up stump is still sitting on my bathroom counter.
Hee, hee!

Emerson just lost his stump last night while I was holding him over the sink for a poo, I didn't see it come out, but all of the sudden it was gone! Wish I'd seen it go flying! I found it, though, and it is still on our bathroom counter, too!
post #37 of 45
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Originally Posted by L'lee
Hee, hee!

Emerson just lost his stump last night while I was holding him over the sink for a poo, I didn't see it come out, but all of the sudden it was gone! Wish I'd seen it go flying! I found it, though, and it is still on our bathroom counter, too!
Dree lost her stump stump sometime during the night Monday night... it fell out of the bottom of her sleeper gown onto the dining room floor yesterday morning and ds brought it to me "What's this momma?".

Dh thought it was a piece of dried meat from pizza and almost threw it away last night. :
post #38 of 45
Hi, everyone:

Queen + Twin is bigger than a King sized mattress! Except it's shorter - my DH is 6'5" so that matters to me, but . . .. We have 2 twins pushed together right now which is the same width as a king, b/c when we moved we couldn't afford to replace the AWFUL futon we had & so we borrowed these from my MIL. But I want either a king or a queen + twin from IKEA - I like FIRM matresses and I really like one of their wood-frame matresses (kind of like a box spring in the bottom of the matress in one piece) - a King is under $600, I think. So when we have any $ at al . . .

I still feel so lucky EVERY DAY that Ourbaby is NOT high-needs like my first son is. I love Smallboy just the way he is but I think I would be really, really stressed by a 2 yo and a newborn BOTH of that temperament. I kinda need to learn to respond better/faster to the much more polite cues of Ourbaby, though - and DS#1 is still SO demanding!

Dr. Sears says side-sleeping is fine for most babies. Personally, I agree & think tummy sleeping on a parent is probably fine, too, since there is a regulating effect on the baby's system of being next to the adult's breathing and beating heart. But each of us must decide what works for our babies.

As for me . . . I do not like tandem nursing. I didn't like nursing while pg either, but definitely was unwilling to wean against DS#1's will. I still don't want to do that, but especially not while he's mad at me/I'm frustrated with him. It just feels yucky to me to nurse both boys at once - I never could stand 'twiddling' and I think I just don't like having both breasts stimulated at once - it's too close to sexual or something (good thing I don't have twins!) One at a time nursing DS#1 is better, but still uncomfortable - toddler latch, teething, bad manners.

I am trying to let us both (all?) figure things out gradually - I feel bad because I think I'm not being very consistent - sometimes I let DS#1 nurse, sometimes I say no, sometimes I say later, sometimes I offer. Urgh. I'm frustrated. DS#1 does a fair amount of 'acting out' in a mild way when DH is around, but he's actually fairly manageable when it's just us & the baby - not sure if he feels safer w/daddy there or if it's just that he has ALWAYS taken as much adult attention as was available . . ..

DS#2 is really waking up to the world & that is fun! He's learning how to communicate more, looking more at us, etc.!

Happypants - there are preemie-sized diaper covers (or there were 2 yrs ago) and I've found that doublers are the right size to fit really well in NB covers - so folded they might work in preemie covers. Just a thought!
post #39 of 45
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Originally Posted by Sydnee
I am thinking of you all everyday, wouldn't it be wonderful if we all lived close by and could get together??!!! Oh, to dream...
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I'd love some IRL mama friends half as fabulous as you sassy lasses!
post #40 of 45
Thanks Brown eyed girls - I put him higher and WHAT A DIFFERENCE! I think he will be living in it.

He sleeps GREAT at night! at least 3 hours and nurses and goes right back to sleep - my DD ddin't sleep like this til she was...3! LOL.

He also lost his stump.

And he SMILES at me already!!! My birthday was the 24th and that was the first time he actually smiled AT me - he looked right at me and smiled - twice. And then yesterday and even more this morning. I love it!!!

The hardest time I am having is with my DD - feeling guilty for not having as much time to spend with her - but I think just keeping DS in the sling will help - everytime I try to lay him down when he falls asleep he wakes up - I spent yesterdat very frustrated and holding him all day - he was awake basically from 9AM to 6PM with a few 30 minute naps here and there. This was how my DD was and I was about to freak out at the prospect of having 2 kids like that...but...I think the sling will solve that problem.

hmmmm - what else? Getting out of the house is amusing. It takes FOREVER. I braved Target and today we will go to a friends house for DD to play.
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