Baby Alexis is now an angel - Page 3

[nitareality]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[luckylady]

Oh my Lord. I am SOOOO sorry. Reading this just broke my heart. I don't have any words other than my heart truly aches for you.

[egoldber]

Originally Posted by momz3

Gremlin, I stumbled across that group last week I think and they sent me a form to fill out about my situation which I haven't filled out yet. But I'm looking forward to being a part of it. As for lawsuits, I know nothing about them, but have contacted a few lawyers and waiting to hear back from them. I'd like to ask you a question if I may , have you had other children after your rupture? I'm terrified of pregnancy, but long for a child in the future (within the next 2 years).

I am so sorry for your loss.

I too lost my baby to UR and I am a member of the group that Stephanie linked to. It is a wonderful group full of women who have been there. Also, the Pregnancy & Birth Loss forums here at MDC are incredibly supportive.

I am currently pregnant with my PAR (pregnacy after rupture). There is a different Yahoo group just for women who have/had/would like to have a pregnancy after a rupture. Once you join the first group, you can ask for an invite to the PAR group. Most OBs and high risk peris will tell you to wait anywhere from 9 months to 2 years before attempting a PAR. I waited 10 months to TTC and I am now almost 14 weeks.

Again, I am very, very sorry.

[momz3]

Egoldber, thanks for the info. Like I said, me and my husband would like to try agian in the future...I'm a little nervous & scared and I know that if I did become pregnant I'd be a nervous wreck. Are you on any restrictions? And I'm guessing you see a high risk doctor? I'd want everything to be monitored just so I can decrease these terrible thing from happening again.

[egoldber]

Originally Posted by momz3

Egoldber, thanks for the info. Like I said, me and my husband would like to try agian in the future...I'm a little nervous & scared and I know that if I did become pregnant I'd be a nervous wreck. Are you on any restrictions? And I'm guessing you see a high risk doctor? I'd want everything to be monitored just so I can decrease these terrible thing from happening again.

Your best bet is to get copies of your chart/operative report and see a high risk specialist (perinatologist). Much of what they will tell you will depend on where you ruptured and how big the rupture was. Some types of ruptures create more risk for subsequent pregnancies than others.

I am actually not on any restrictions at all right now. I had the "best" type of rupture, in that it was just along my previous low C-section scar and then down. (The worst type is a rupture up into the fundus of the uterus.) I see a regular OB and a peri on a consulting basis. Starting at 32 weeks I will get weekly non-stress tests to see if I am contracting. The plan is to do an amnio at 36/37 weeks to test for lung maturity and deliver as soon as the baby's lungs are mature and absolutely no later than 38 weeks. If I were having serious contractions before 36/37 weeks, they would probably put me on hospital bedrest and plan an even earlier delivery.

A PAR is a scary thing. I would encourage you to try and not think about it too much yet until you have some time to begin healing from your loss. Take the time you need to grieve and take care of yourself right now.

[nydiagonz]

Oh mama, I am so very sorry for your loss. No mother or person should have to go through this. Please know that you are not alone and that many of us have gone through this unthinkable experience and can help you through it. I am thinking of you and sending you love.

[BCmamaof6]

Oh mama! I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet baby girl

[Celtain]

I couldn't read and not post. I am so sorry for your loss.

[gossamer]

I am so sorry for your loss. I too have lost a daughter. Please be kind to yourself and if you feel like it, you might want to wander over to Pregnancy and Birth loss.
Gossamer

[momz3]

Thank you guys. I have visited the Pregnancy and Birth Loss Forum and I'm glad to be there. Its comforting to be able to know that I'm not the only one feeling sad angry and even depressed. This is truly a hard time but we are healing everyday. Monday, we are going to Alexis' gravesite. It will be the first time I will have gone. I'm a bit nervous, but at the same time a bit anxious.Thanks for all your kind words and support. My husband reads some of the comments on here as well and he sends his gratitude.

[Patti Ann]

So sorry to hear about your sweet Alexis.

to you and your family.

Good luck with your first trip to the gravesite. We are here for you.

Patti

[ThatLinGirl]

I am so sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my thoughts.

[Mearaina]

I am so sorry.

[Kleine Hexe]

I'm so sorry.

[alexisyael]

[HoosierDiaperinMama]

I am very sorry for your loss, mama. Gentle s My dd, Reagan, was stillborn last August under similar circumstances to yours. I am here if you would like to talk. s May peace envelop you like a warm blanket.

Alexis

[HaveWool~Will Felt]

Mama, I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby girl Alexis!
I, personally know your pain....please come find us over in pregnacy and birth loss....

[gremlin44]

Originally Posted by momz3

Gremlin, I stumbled across that group last week I think and they sent me a form to fill out about my situation which I haven't filled out yet. But I'm looking forward to being a part of it. As for lawsuits, I know nothing about them, but have contacted a few lawyers and waiting to hear back from them. I'd like to ask you a question if I may , have you had other children after your rupture? I'm terrified of pregnancy, but long for a child in the future (within the next 2 years).

As Beth said, there are a good amount of women on our list who have gone on to have subsequent pregnancies.

Unfortunately, I have not. We waited 6 months like our maternal fetal medicine specialist recommended, then started TTC. I have been TTC now for 19 cycles with no luck. We have been diagnosed with unexplained secondary infertility and are facing the likelihood of IVF at this point. No one knows if the infertilty is related to the rupture or not because we can't figure out what is causing the infertility (I got pregnant with each of my sons in just 4 months, so it was not present before the rupture). However, on our list, my situation is NOT the norm.

*hugs*