I dont know if I should post this here, or where..my son is 12. He lives with his father and stepmom, as I am abroad at the moment, am going back to where he is in a month. I will make this short if poss. My sons stepmom is constantly trying to make my son have something wrong with him. The latest is yesterday on the phone she tells me he is picking his fingers(the skin). That is a nervous habit. I used to do this as a child. She tells me he will get cancer if he keeps doing it, and she told him this. She says that is not normal child behaviour and there is a problem with him. The latest diagnosis she made for him is he is ADD. Last week it was bi polar. The week before it was OCD. She is always letting him know she thinks something is wrong with him. She does take good care of him, etc...but she is sooooooo way off base here.My son is a high spirited child with some mild anxiety, but nothing off base. He is not aggressive or anything. He has been lying a lot lately, but to me that is normal for a child to do at some point in life. IF he is not being perfect, if he is not sitting still and saying yes mam, no mam, theres something wrong with him. Last night when she brought up the thumb thing, I told her that some children have nervous habits. She started screaming at me and telling me who I am to talk because I have had bi polar illness and hide it from everyone. I have never in my life that I know of had bi polar but she always brings this up when I suggest my son is just being a kid. I dont know where she got this from unless it is my ex(the father). I am sick of her screaming at me and hanging the phone up at me. I calmy kept saying to her, lets not talk about me, lets talk about ds. She kept screaming and I kept calmly saying the same thing. Then she hung up. She thinks now that she just started lpn school she knows everything and really this has always been the case. Whereas I am very laid back she is not and she sees every thing my son does as a problem, but she never does anything about it. I have suggested to her take him to the dr, therapist, etc..but she wont do it...and continues her brigade to pinpoint a problem with ds. I dont want to talk to her anymore. It has been 10 years of this. 10 years. She will not even let ds's father speak to me or anything as she is so jealous. Its ridiculous and i want to cut the ties with her and not speak to her anymore. Everytime she upsets me, I say this and then I go back to speaking to her. She always treats me this way, like a bully really. I could go into more, (i said i was keeping this short!LOL). What should I do? Thanks.
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5/23/06 at 10:54am