Honestly, no. I do know his parents number, but they are the most gossipy family in the world and as soon as I called them for his cell number, they would call her right away and this would make her even more upset. He does not have email or anything, she does, but he is basically computer illeteriate anyway. I know where he works, but he works in road construction, so he is actually never at the office site, but on road working duties, so that is pointless. I do not know if it is true what she says about him not speaking to me, but I guess I can believe it. My ex and I have been apart for 11 years and they have been married 10. I have seen him and spokent to him 6 times in 11 years. That was because my son was in the hospital when he was 7 and his dad would come visit him occasionally. That is the only times I have spoken to him.I had asked to speak to him on the phone occasionally and she would say he doesnt want to speak to me. It is strange why he would be that way as when we split up we were very young and there were and are not any hard feelings, it was a mutual thing. So I cant see him harbouring bad feelings toward me for anything. I really am running out of ideas but thanks mommymine for giving advice and listening to me. In the emails she sent me she basically threaten to blackmail me, saying she would tell my now husband horrible things that i have done in the past(that did not happen, but she is going to tell them to him and make them up, I dont know what she had in mind), if I didnt talk to her. Can you believe this? My hubby of course would not believe her, and could care less about my past, but this is the type of behaviour she is displaying toward me, and has done so in the past. I have always turned the other cheek for my sons case, but I am 31 years old and really have had enough of it and refuse to allow it to continue now. My son is 13 almost, what is the legal age that a judge allows a child to choose where he wants to live??? I know for a fact my son would probably want to live with me full time, of course, I do not want to take him away from his father, but something has to be done.