[QUOTE=dharmama](Other than stay away from mentioning "weaning" on the nursing boards here....good Lord...some of those women are just
I mean, really. They do more harm than good. The best LLL leaders I've known would tell a woman how best to wean their six-week-old, if that's what the woman wanted. And usually that woman would end up trying to go longer- once she was affirmed in her choice. People don't realize others are more likely to listen when you respect their right to ignore whatever you have to say.
: Plus which those self-appointed "lactavists" do more harm than good IMO. Rather than admit any breastfeeding is better than none, they give the impression that *only* child-led weaning after the fifth birthday is acceptable.
My friends who have done this have tried different strategies, including just saying, "oops, the meemee is only good for the baby now," to assigning a breast to each child, to the good old put something not harmful but bad-tasting on the boob and say, "oh, that's cos you're done with meemee..." my Jamaican friends say they put a little aloe on the nipple secretly. You could do this on one side so the new baby doesn't have to deal with your "giving the baby the Gussie (A Tree Grows In Brooklyn).
I tried various things and then I accepted he would never wean or cut down and I just plain stopped. Nope, sorry, my heart bleeds for you, but no. The first night was hard on him but easier than expected. We had two nightwakings screaming for moo-moo, hands jammed down shirt. I would be crucified elsewhere on MDC for doing this, but I gave him a bottle (which he never really liked- he was a sippy cup man), and a pacifier if he finished the bottle (the gerber "nuk" in size 3). He really does still like the sucking/comfort but I just couldn't nurse him anymore (and I don't have a baby!). So I don't mind the temporary reliance on the bottle or paci. I do take the paci away once he's asleep, and he has a bottle while I read him his bedtime stories (he prefers drinks during the day in a bottle, except water, which he still has from a sippy cup). If he wakes I try to put him to sleep without a paci (often in my bed), but I'll give it back to him if he really wants. *I* certainly feel better.
We might not get our 30 acre house.
: Getting a mortgage is no problem, but apparently getting a no-doc is hard when it's more than 10 acres and the appraisal didn't come in high enough to make the concern irrelevant. And we need a no-doc, for various reasons.
To be sure, there are things that would be better about other houses - maybe a bit cheaper, a bit better shape, a bit nicer land even - but it will be a big pain since I will have to stay in some shitty hotel spending a fortune so dd can start school on time.
While looking for a house! But the house we want *does* need a lot of work and it was at the very tippy top of our price range, so it shouldn't be too disappointing if it doesn't work out. We might be able to put more $$ down if that would help, but obviously we'd rather not. And my MIL, who was so positive about it, just talked with her sister about it, and now she thinks it's a terrible idea and we're making a huge mistake and so on.
: Funny because we were able to pay her back the money she lent us for the deposit already, so obviously we are sort of OK, but as my FIL says, "forces are at work" to interfere with people's lives. In other words, he doesn't trust his in-laws not to meddle for the worst, for no good reason. Very frustrating but at least, as I said, we already paid her back, so it's now our mistake to make, god forbid. I actually still really hope we get this mortgage, but I am trying to be prepared to make the best of it if it doesn't work out, because there's no point getting all disappointed when there's nothing I can do.
But Rowan is super cool, with lots of sentences and efforts to "read:" "PIG!" he shouts when he sees a "P" on a license plate. "HOFFMANN" when he sees an "H." Hoffmann is our cat.