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post #41 of 273
My problems are I am too tired to get up, and I keep hoping if I get him back to sleep I can sneak out and enjoy a few moments of peace without him. It isn't working. I think I simply have to put anything else on hold until the house is done, and then I can focus on other things like a routine and cutting down nursing if not weaning entirely, etc. I am *really* looking forward to the move and being part of the school community and having to be somewhere by 8 am every morning. One big problem I see with a lot of homeschooling families is they are never *required* to be anywhere or do anything at a particular time; a lot of homeschoolers I know are chronically late and expect everyone (even hired teachers) to rearrange their schedules around them! And I am *so* excited about the burden of dd's education being lifted -poof!- from me. There's some really excellent teachers at Hawthorne Valley; I was really impressed and feel very grateful she will have as good a 7-12 experience as I did, no doubt even better!

Oh, and for dental care- dh once got the best dental care ever at some emergency clinic in the middle of nowhere while he was traveling, and very cheap, too.
post #42 of 273
we're having major sleep issues here.

i just spent an hour and half putting lily down for her nap. it was ugly. at one point the three of us were all wailing and i was just praying that i could hold it together enough to not hurt one of my beautiful children.

last night lily didn't go to bed until almost 9:30 (started trying to put her down at 8 o'clock). way too late for her.

we are so out of our routine since quinn arrived. with lily i didn't have any routines for a looooong time. i laid on the couch and watched daytime tv and slept when she slept etc.

this time i'm trying so hard to get some semblence of a rhythm back in place so she will hopefully be a little less out of sorts but it's hard. i'm so tired.

anyway....better go eat....start dinner...pick up the house...pee etc. now that she's finally sleeping.

damn. this mama stuff is hard.
post #43 of 273
, Erin.
post #44 of 273
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Yeah, it's definately most difficult when #2 is a baby. I think that it's easier this time around, but there's so much other crap going on that i can't tell.

i have a sudden, desperate craving for doritos, of all things. i'm probably getting dehydrated, because i rarely crave salty snacks.
post #45 of 273
Thanks, all!

James had a nice day. We had cake and opened presents with some childfree friends tonight, and he'll have a birthday party at a farm on Saturday with his kid friends.

My mom just got here! Yeehah!
post #46 of 273
thanks susan and rynna.

i put in a distress call to dh and he came home early. with some food in me and a little break i've got a little more perspective...

i realized that i changed the rules on lily. during pregnancy it was unlimited nursing.....as long as i could lay down and close my eyes i was happy.....and i napped with her for 2+ hours every day.

now....i don't have time to nap. seriously. i need that time to eat, clean, go to the bathroom, make dinner, pay bills, write thank you notes, snuggle/nurse/change the boy etc.

so the poor girl must be so confused. everything has changed.
post #47 of 273
: James I tried posting this yesterday and it wouldn't let me. I hope you had a great day!
post #48 of 273
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Originally Posted by dharmama
i realized that i changed the rules on lily. during pregnancy it was unlimited nursing.....as long as i could lay down and close my eyes i was happy.....and i napped with her for 2+ hours every day.

now....i don't have time to nap. seriously. i need that time to eat, clean, go to the bathroom, make dinner, pay bills, write thank you notes, snuggle/nurse/change the boy etc.
I'd let the housework slide... then again, I'm really good at letting housework slide. Entropy is my friend.
post #49 of 273
I compltely agree with Rynna on this one: as much as I HATE having a messy house, I hate to be a frazzled grumpy mama even more. So, I nap with the kids and bitch and moan later to DH about how messy the house is... but I think its the lesser of the two evils. And, don't be afraid to wait a couple months on thany-you notes. I just sent ones out last month for all the baby-presents Ellie got, but I could include some really cute pictures of Ellie sitting up and looking cute all dressed up. No one noticed the notes were late because they were so enthralled to get pictures! (I had people calling to thank me for the thank you notes - that's a first!)

Ugh... I'm pretty sure I have an ulcer (or ulcers). I'm pretty sure I've had them before, too. I'm so stressed about everything with my sister lately (car wreck because of a seizure last week, two more seizures yesterday and dealt with a doctor in ER that knew NOTHING about epilepsy medication, and her neurologist is changing her medications...), I just can't eat much and when I do eat my stomach is KILLING me for hours afterward. Bleah. I know ulcers can be serious, my grandmother almost died from them in her 30's, but mine aren't showing any signs of being anywhere near that bad. I'm at a lower weight now that I have been since before I had kids (lost another 2 lbs the last few days!), so I guess there's a silver lining to every cloud. We're going on vacation with my parents next week and they've promised me that I will have the week off and they'll be in charge of everything. It sucks, but I'm basically the mommy to my kids, DH, and my sister so I'm always under a lot of pressure. It will be nice to get to relax for a few days!

So, Target has the cutest toddler shirts right now! I got Killy one that says, "My grandparents don't spoil me, they're just very accomodating." and one that says, "I do my own stunts." Both are perfect! And, I've found the perfect summer sandals for him: swim shoes! The soles are very flexible, but rubber, and they dry out quickly. The only problem is that they're fairly narrow, so I have to go one size bigger for him to be comfy in them.

Killy's having a big verbal explosion! Yay! Lots and lots of new words, he's mimicking everything I say, and he's talking in 2 and 3 word sentances a lot of the time.

Oh, and here's some birthday pics:
train cake
eating the cake
Killy, Ellie, and a friend from church on the playground!
He loves his playground so much, he literally swung himself to sleep!
post #50 of 273
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Originally Posted by LizD
My problems are I am too tired to get up, and I keep hoping if I get him back to sleep I can sneak out and enjoy a few moments of peace without him.


Me too, and it bites me every time. Do I learn? No I do not.

I am having trouble getting out of the house too and getting out and doing stuff makes everything go better. I cannot imagine it with three children, one child alone is like mounting a polar expedition. R needs good transitions but sometimes I just have to get firm and get her out the door and then she is fine. What's Pine Grove?

Erin, You'll find your rhythym, and I am impressed that you were able to step into Lily's shoes and figure it out. I totally know what you mean about needing the nap time for other things. I had (still have!) the hardest time with that. In retrospect in the beginning I was trying to figure out how to get it all done "from now on" when I could have just been working on how to get it done right then.

QoC, what an amazing birthday cake, it's so pretty! and I love the picture of Killy asleep in the swing. I hope the break with your parents can recharge your batteries.

The plan for the day is to get out of the house this morning and enjoy this beautiful cooler weather, some time in the playground to wear her out and hopefully an early nap. Then maybe a trip somewhere fun in the afternoon 'cause we need an R-centric day. Yesterday we took a nursing nap and that seemed to really help our evening go more smoothly.
post #51 of 273
queenie - great cake!!!!

thanks for the support you guys. today has been much better. she just went down for a nap and there were no tears. dh and i brainstormed last night -- 3 books and the lie down with mama. if she doesn't lie down, mama has to leave the room and lily can have quiet alone time.

i told her ahead of time what would happen and was gentle but firm. i had to leave the room twice but she didn't cry...she just chose quiet alone time over lying down with mama.

the third time i went in she asked me to rub her back, which i did, and she was snoring in 5 minutes!!!

ahhhhhhh.....much better.
post #52 of 273
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Originally Posted by Queen of Cups
So, Target has the cutest toddler shirts right now! I got Killy one that says, "My grandparents don't spoil me, they're just very accomodating." and one that says, "I do my own stunts."
I bought that "stunts" shirt for BeanBean. I love it, but it doesn't fit him well-- it's so wide, it's built for a kid who's entirely un-Bean-like. I keep thinking that I'll cut the cute part out and then make it a patch on another shirt or a jacket, but I haven't been able to find shirts that fit him *anywhere*... they're making everything for much rounder children and if your kid's a string, your just SOL.

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Originally Posted by Balancin1
I am having trouble getting out of the house too and getting out and doing stuff makes everything go better. I cannot imagine it with three children, one child alone is like mounting a polar expedition. R needs good transitions but sometimes I just have to get firm and get her out the door and then she is fine. What's Pine Grove?
I was talking about this on the April DDC thread; some of the new (first time) moms were asking how you get out of the house with a baby, and I had to laugh. It seemed so difficult to get out when it was just BeanBean, and absolutely impossible when BooBah was small... these days, I hardly think about it. It really gets easier after the first two kids. Some of it is me (I'm more relaxed and more prepared at the same time) and some of it is them (BeanBean is a whole person who can dress himself, put his shoes on, carry his things downstairs and buckle himself into his carseat; he can also be relied upon not to do any number of dangerous/scary/mamma-involvement-required things). All in all, it's no more difficult to get the kids out of the house (for me) now than it was when BeanBean was a little guy. Embarassingly, I find that I take almost exactly the same amount of "stuff" with me.

Erin, congrats! It's always nice when you can get them to sleep without tribulation.

It's official-- ChibiChibi will be free from school forever on the 8th. I made a deal with my mother concerning BizzyBug: if I can get her up at least one grade level in reading in the next two months, she will pull her out of school as well. One grade level would be a heck of a lot more than she learned this year; I mean, every single day, when you ask her, "What did you do at school today?" she would launch into this big explanation about who had snack that day, who's birthday it was, and how many kids in her class were six (she'd recite them all). With more questions, you could sometimes elicit more answers from her-- yesterday, she told me that she did reading buddies and that hers was "Littlgirl Soandso Mrs. Soandso's daughter who's in third grade in Mrs. Whatserface's class she's prolly 8 or 9." (No, she really doesn't speak with any punctuation marks at all... : We'll have to work on that.) My sister thinks that I'm completely insane to want to have four kids in the house, to say nothing of five. She doesn't understand how deep my loathing of school runs, or my commitment to homeschooling and saving my nieces, as well as my own children, from the hell that I associate with school. At least I'm getting them before things get really awful... although things have been pretty bad for Chibi this year.
post #53 of 273
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Originally Posted by eilonwy
I was talking about this on the April DDC thread; some of the new (first time) moms were asking how you get out of the house with a baby, and I had to laugh. It seemed so difficult to get out when it was just BeanBean, and absolutely impossible when BooBah was small... these days, I hardly think about it. It really gets easier after the first two kids. Some of it is me (I'm more relaxed and more prepared at the same time) and some of it is them (BeanBean is a whole person who can dress himself, put his shoes on, carry his things downstairs and buckle himself into his carseat; he can also be relied upon not to do any number of dangerous/scary/mamma-involvement-required things). All in all, it's no more difficult to get the kids out of the house (for me) now than it was when BeanBean was a little guy. Embarassingly, I find that I take almost exactly the same amount of "stuff" with me.
I agree! W/ Lauren I felt like it took me at least an hour to pack up and leave the house. I was always afraid I wouldn't have enough stuff: When Maddie was little I was always afraid that I wouldn't be able to chase Lauren and take care of Maddie. I was constantly filled w/ what if's. When Lily was born there was no way I could stay home, I had to take someone to dance, school, swimming, soccer, playgroup etc! I now travel so light. W/ Lauren I had one of those Lands End diaper bags that look like carry-on luggage and I brought everything!! W/ Maddie I had a little tripper back pack diaper bag and I still brought a lot. Now I have a WAHM fancy diaper bag and I bring almost nothing (diaper, wipes, spray bottle, snacks and my wallet) and most of the time I leave it all in my car and just bring my wallet. It's funny how you change in 7 years!


Oh hey did I tell you today is my 10th anniversary! 10 years ago right now I was eating at Denny's w/ my bridesmaids before we went to get our hair done. Time flies!

And speaking of my anniversary dh & I had planned to go back to Sandals for our 10th aniversary. We thought we'd just leave the kids w/ family and take off for a week. We also thought we'd have way more money then we do now, because I was NEVER going to be one of those people that left their career to raise their kids! Heck, wasn't that what day care was for! Man I've changed!
post #54 of 273
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Yeah, when BeanBean was little, I walked everywhere and took him in this gigantic Peg Perego stroller. It has a huge basket underneath it, and I'd inevitably fill it. It was a slightly different situation, because it was winter and I did in fact need to have an extra blanket on hand, but other than that? A book, my wallet, half a package of diapers, a whole box of wipes, purell, my breastpump (what if the world ended while I was out?!), an extra bottle & nipple, wipes to steralize said bottle, diaper rash cream, baby lotion, extra socks... This list went on and on!

Now I keep a little bottle of purell, a box of baby wipes and half a dozen sposies each for Bella and BooBah in the car; I've also got an emergency breastpump (because on three separate occasions I have needed a pump and not had one on me : ) & milk storage kit in a plastic shoebox and a first aid kit that both live in the car. My wallet usually stays in the car, so that I know where it is. Other than that? Carseats... oh! In the summertime, I like to keep take & toss sippies in the car, because the kids get dehydrated (especially BooBah) and bottled water is too expensive if you buy less than a gallon at a time. I try to keep a sling in the car, but that's difficult for me these days. It doesn't matter: I can still have the kids ready to go anywhere for up to 3 hours in about 10 minutes.
post #55 of 273
The first time w/ flew w/ Lauren, she was 2months old, we took more crap then 15 families would ever need! We had two great big suitcases full of "what if" stuff. Now w/ 5 of us we take two regular sized suit cases for all of us.
post #56 of 273
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Originally Posted by 3girlsmommy
We thought we'd just leave the kids w/ family and take off for a week. We also thought we'd have way more money then we do now, because I was NEVER going to be one of those people that left their career to raise their kids! Heck, wasn't that what day care was for! Man I've changed!


How funny it seems in retrospect. I wasn't going to let having a child "change" me as if it was somehow bad to let motherhood change me. I guess I was afraid of losing myself because I didn't know how much I would gain. I feel that way about having another child--it seems pretty scary in some ways but I'm sure that if we choose to do it someday I'll look back at my worries and they will seem a little silly.

Our trouble in getting out of the house isn't really all the stuff it's the psychological barrier of the three flights of stairs. Easy to go down, a PITA to come back up. So I tend to cluster my stuff into bigger outings and those of course are more unmanageable than several short ones. Now that I've realized what I'm doing I'm working to counteract it.

We slept in until 8:30 this morning because we were up in the night. The third canine is finally making it's appearance. : So, no nap because she wasn't ready for it until 4pm. Then the next couple hours were hairy because she was so freakin' tired. Didn't help that I sprained an ankle falling off the slide at the playground this morning. (I need a more fitting username, no? ) But oh was she cheerful when we got up this morning which just proves the whole problem is not quite enough sleep. So my resolve is therefore strengthened to keep working on it.

Congrats Erin on the smooth nap, hope today was also good!
post #57 of 273
Well, ladies, I'm heading out for a week of vacation - and boy, do I need it! I'll "see" you all again next weekend.

Love,
Jen
post #58 of 273
We had another smooth nap day today.

Have a great vacation Queenie!

Sandi ~ Happy Anniversary!! What a great milestone!!!

Darn. Squeaker wants me. I've been snuggling him on the couch since 7 and just handed him off to DH so I could have a couple of minutes on MDC. Oh well...he's not having it and I'm not in the mood to juggle him while nak-ing so time for me to log off.

Hey - Has anyone heard from Seedling lately??? She hasn't been around in a couple of months. Hope she's doing ok.
post #59 of 273
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Happy Birthday, Flora!
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: Flora!
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