Originally Posted by CinnamonDeMarco
Both pro-SAHMers and "moms for equality" get to post without being slamed. Neither gets the shaft. No one gets to bully the other ones.
If a pro-SAHMer can't say anything pro-SAHMing without being called a bigot she is getting the shaft. I have seen many Pro-SAHMs get flamed because "moms for equality" disagree with them. "Moms for equality" need to be tolerant of pro-SAHMing views. "Moms for equality" do not own this board.
Pro-SAHMers are not allowed to degrade WOHM-by-choice. (yes, this does happen) The moderator should judge wether or not it is degrading. Flaming pro-SAHMers is really not helpful. Certain "Moms-for-equality" have trouble tolerating the other side and are quick to come out flaming. They should not be allowed to act as the judge and jury of what is acceptable here. (unless of course, we agree to let them)
I'm sorry, but I disagree with you.
I think I can be very pro SAHM-ing and say, "I think this is the very best thing for my kids and can't imagine doing it anyother way!" but to say..."I love my kids so much. HOW could you leave you baby/toddler with someone else?!"
That's bound to ruffle feathers. Now, do I PERSONALLY think that SAHM-ing is best. In general yes. I also know though that PEOPLE aren't generalities. So my GENERAL thoughts don't make it into discussion because people aren't general.
And the fact remains that sometimes having a mother who works and is happy is better than having an unhappy mother who snaps at you and hits you stay at home any day of the week.
Edit to add:
I think that a lot of the things that come out as "pro" SAHM are coming from a place of incredible privilege and an unwillingness to examine it. Again. as I've said before. Disagreement isn't flaming. Disagreement is just that. Disagreement.
Flaming would be.
"You're just a WOHM troll. Why do you even come here?!"
That would be flaming. Especially to members who have been here for years.
Disagreement looks more like.
"That hasn't been my experience. It seeems you think xyz, and from what I can see that comes from ZYX either in your life or something else."