We struggled with whether or not to place this forum for many of the reasons that have been expressed here. We passed through a long period of thread moderation before the forum was opened for unmoderated posting. Yet here we are, facing the sort of posting issues that we feared would become.
I think the sticky we have in place is pretty clear. This is meant to be a forum to encourage and support each other through the difficulties of sahming. It is not a forum to argue about whose parenting is better. That sort of posting needs to be removed from the spectrum altogether as it creates hurtful discussion.
Another part of the problem here is that some members are more inclined to call people out about what they see as inappropriate posting rather than adhere to our UA and report posts. Please allow us to deal with things rather than deal with them yourself. Post appropriately and report those who you feel are posting inappropriately. If you can't report, for whatever your reason, then refrain from taking issue with such posts on the thread or you too will be addressed, for disrupting the discussion.
That's where things stand with all of this now. We will return to the sticky at the top of the forum and, if that doesn't work, we will return to a moderated forum.
A word about vents. Vent threads are posted frequently here at MDC and we often struggle with them because so frequently they serve as a spring board for comments and judgments against others and their choices. Perhaps, rather than vent just for the sake of venting, it would be more appropriate to express what occurs and seek sincere advice on how to handle the situation or words, without snarky or bashing comments about those you are trying to deal with.
This thread is closed. Any concerns or questions can be PMed or emailed to us.