It's reassuring to know that other mom's realities are not so different from my own...
I am trying to learn how to co-parent after 2 years of parenting alone. I was essentially a single mom until last month, at which time Jade's dad returned to Colorado from England. He is a British citizen and because we were never married, he cannot live in the US legally. After being back in Colorado only a few weeks, he began demanding overnight visits with our daughter (2 1/2). She knows him and feels comfortable with him, but she has NEVER lived with him. I have opened my home to him and allowed him to have several over night visits with her in our home. Although this is not ideal for me, I feel it is a better alternative for Jade.
After allowing him into our home and being incredibly liberal about the amount of time he has with our daughter (considering he has never paid child support), he is now insisting that he have over nights and even full weekends with Jade in his home. He lives two hours away from Jade and I. It doesn't feel comfortable to me, but because the separation was my choice, he tends to make me feel VERY responsible for the time and distance that the two of them have experienced apart from one another.
He is incredibly manipulative and demanding of his rights, despite his failure to live up to the responsibility of being a dad.
Does anyone have some wisdom to relay???
I am trying to learn how to co-parent after 2 years of parenting alone. I was essentially a single mom until last month, at which time Jade's dad returned to Colorado from England. He is a British citizen and because we were never married, he cannot live in the US legally. After being back in Colorado only a few weeks, he began demanding overnight visits with our daughter (2 1/2). She knows him and feels comfortable with him, but she has NEVER lived with him. I have opened my home to him and allowed him to have several over night visits with her in our home. Although this is not ideal for me, I feel it is a better alternative for Jade.
After allowing him into our home and being incredibly liberal about the amount of time he has with our daughter (considering he has never paid child support), he is now insisting that he have over nights and even full weekends with Jade in his home. He lives two hours away from Jade and I. It doesn't feel comfortable to me, but because the separation was my choice, he tends to make me feel VERY responsible for the time and distance that the two of them have experienced apart from one another.
He is incredibly manipulative and demanding of his rights, despite his failure to live up to the responsibility of being a dad.
Does anyone have some wisdom to relay???
... Caleb is 10 months, and his father lives in CA (I live in NH).
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