Originally Posted by 4imprints
This is actually how I was kidnapped. I begged my mom to let me stay in the car because my feet hurt from my new shoes (first day of 8th grade). I also wanted to listen to the radio. She let me - this one time (usually I paid while she pumped). I layed the seat down and closed my eyes when only 2 seconds later the man jumped in the car. I do think that there is an age where kids will make the choice to stay in the car - that is why I don't blame my mom - it was my choice. But at certain ages I think it is absolutely ridiculous to leave a child in the car.
I'm terribly sorry for what happened to you. I don't believe, though, that because this happened to you in this way that it's a very large risk in the vast majority of the cases. These tragedies happen in many places. A girl from my 5th grade class was kidnapped from her bed. A woman from my college was attacked on her front porch. A woman from my grad school was attacked in dorm room. Someday my Dd will walk the few blocks to her school. Being in your bed, on your porch, in your yard, walking to school, there are risks involved. The risks are minimal, but they exist. We can't stop living. We can't control for everything. Personally, I'm very careful about all of these things and supervise my Dd 100 percent in the bathtub and the backyard, for example, but there are risks that I do take, such as kayaking and long walks in the rain. We assess our risks and make our choices. After what happened to you, I can't imagine you leaving your child alone in a car ever. It makes sense to me, but I can easily see someone leaving their child in a locked car for a few minutes when they're in sight. It's less risky than the walk to the door of the store in most parking lots.