i try to go easy on myself and the kids about the toilet because i know two boys that were put on suppositories because the control issues got so extreme.
ruby tried to play monopoly with the boys and it's really funny. i mean she does actually play she rolls the dice and counts the spaces with me and i buy her some houses.
i'm still up in the air about the whole sharing/private possession thing. intuitively i feel that if they get their own spaces they will not be so possessive, but it doesn't make sense rationally. they don't have their own rooms and we bedshare. i've been seriously getting ready to divide up the 10 by 20 room that they sort of play in. meanwhile my dh is makes loud noises abt how he doesn't want to live here, so i'm again hesitant about making changes, though that doesn't work out for me even though it would make sense.
i keep getting rid of stuff and poof! more stuff comes in. that's what i get for telling my kids exactly that, since they are so upset when i get rid of things and rearrange the house. a homeschooling family we are casually friends with, came back to sell their house and have tons of stuff to give away (since now they live out of state in an apartment). i am lucky i got out of there with not much more than two giant fishtanks, since i have been thinking abt getting a big one already. i'm still very sad i decided i could not take their beehive. i really really wanted it, but decided it was too big of a project for me since i am withering in the summer heat already, and i live next door to a daycare. at least i got 2 gallons of honey!
my brain has been on ebay - i sold some old playmobil sets i bought a year ago. it has been a real pain but the return seems excellent (if almost everyone will pay). i think i just will have to get used to doing it. ironically i sold all this victorian dollhouse stuff because i felt i needed a doll house at the very least and did not have the time to build or money to get an appropriate one, and the same friend today offered us a fantastic homeade dollhouse.