3 yr old Tribe for June! - Page 6

[jillmamma]

Glad to hear I am not alone with the potty issues! Matthew knows how to do everything, has good bladder/bowel control, but just does not WANT to. I think he sees it as an area in his life he can control, so he is doing just that. I am hoping the take the pressure off and reward if he goes approach will work. I figure he was later to do a lot of things, (walked at 16 months, did not really talk till past 18 months, etc.) so maybe potty learning comes later too? He is a very cautious kid by nature (like his mama), and was afraid of the toilet till he turned 3, so has been working really at this for 6 months now.

[DecemberSun]

Rynna- Julianna had a lazy eye for awhile too. She eventually grew out of it. I hope Bella's eyes are ok...

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[DecemberSun]

Originally Posted by jillmamma

Glad to hear I am not alone with the potty issues! ... I figure he was later to do a lot of things, (walked at 16 months, did not really talk till past 18 months, etc.) so maybe potty learning comes later too? He is a very cautious kid by nature (like his mama), and was afraid of the toilet till he turned 3, so has been working really at this for 6 months now.

Zachary walked at 15 months, and knew his colors by 18 months. He enjoyed pooping on the pot (while reading books) at 15 months, but refused to pee in it until 2 1/2. He'd do it on accident if he was sitting, but he wasn't gung ho about giving up his diapers. It was a very gradual thing. Nights he just stopped all of a sudden- I put him in underwear one night and he's been dry ever since. It just goes to show how different every kid is. Personally I wouldn't worry until age 5. I think 3 and 4-ish are still the last years of babyhood, and they're hanging on to it by a thread. So am I, I guess... But they'll always be our babies in a way.

[tea olive]

i try to go easy on myself and the kids about the toilet because i know two boys that were put on suppositories because the control issues got so extreme.

ruby tried to play monopoly with the boys and it's really funny. i mean she does actually play she rolls the dice and counts the spaces with me and i buy her some houses.

i'm still up in the air about the whole sharing/private possession thing. intuitively i feel that if they get their own spaces they will not be so possessive, but it doesn't make sense rationally. they don't have their own rooms and we bedshare. i've been seriously getting ready to divide up the 10 by 20 room that they sort of play in. meanwhile my dh is makes loud noises abt how he doesn't want to live here, so i'm again hesitant about making changes, though that doesn't work out for me even though it would make sense.

i keep getting rid of stuff and poof! more stuff comes in. that's what i get for telling my kids exactly that, since they are so upset when i get rid of things and rearrange the house. a homeschooling family we are casually friends with, came back to sell their house and have tons of stuff to give away (since now they live out of state in an apartment). i am lucky i got out of there with not much more than two giant fishtanks, since i have been thinking abt getting a big one already. i'm still very sad i decided i could not take their beehive. i really really wanted it, but decided it was too big of a project for me since i am withering in the summer heat already, and i live next door to a daycare. at least i got 2 gallons of honey!

my brain has been on ebay - i sold some old playmobil sets i bought a year ago. it has been a real pain but the return seems excellent (if almost everyone will pay). i think i just will have to get used to doing it. ironically i sold all this victorian dollhouse stuff because i felt i needed a doll house at the very least and did not have the time to build or money to get an appropriate one, and the same friend today offered us a fantastic homeade dollhouse.

[eilonwy]

Originally Posted by tea olive

intuitively i feel that if they get their own spaces they will not be so possessive, but it doesn't make sense rationally.

It makes sense to me! If you have your own space, you don't need to be possessive about everything else. God, I was *desperate* for my own anything as a child. I had a blankie when I was little, and like many other children my blankie had a name-- "MINE!!" I just needed to be able to draw that little line around myself, and then sharing/taking turns was easier, because I had my own space to retire into.

[hjohnson]

We have noticed this with Christopher. Currently the boys are sharing a bedroom since we are renting a 2 bedroom 1 bath house. All the toys are in a room down in the basement. Sharing is a nightmare around here. Christopher constantly declares that he wants his own room and he wants his toys in his room. I like having all the toys in one central room. We are in the process of looking for a 3 bedroom house so Christopher can have his own space since he is definitely crying out for it. I think I will let him keep a few of his special toys in his room as well but the rest are going into a playroom!!!

[majazama]

I started a thread for july ...

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...05#post5468305