3 yr old Tribe for June! - Page 5

[saritasmile]

I'm doing good casina, thanks for asking Some days are better than others as far as nausea goes but I'm feeling wonderful and big for the most part. I've actually been sewing a ton and that's part of the reason I've been missing.

So we had our little parade yesterday, the day late solstice parade. It was fun. I'll put some pics up, maybe on yahoo. but I haven't joined yet but will next week. We're going to the lake this weekend.

Leah, I loved the mantra, I want to write it down!

Oy boobs!! Razi is obsessed and it's been about 2 mo or less since I finally couldn't take it anymore and told him he had to wait to nurse until the baby came. I was so gung ho about nursing thru the whole pregnancy and the pain just never let up. I never thought I'd come to that but I just wanted to run screaming every time he nursed. So hopefully if he nurses when she comes and then weans himself someday, I'll still get points for CLW, cuz, yk, it's all about points,

The only potty problem we have is night time stuff. A year ago he was totally not peeing at night and we just have an occational accident. Now it's every night and sometime the dipe doesn't hold it all. Which is really annoying to strip the whole bed and wash it daily *I know I've ranted about this before!*

Casina, Razi is rather whiny himself. I always just tell him I'd love to hear him talk w/ his normal voice and that seems to help (a little)

have a good weekend ladies! And helllooo to all the new moms here

[majazama]

I think we've got pretty much everyone on the yahoo group. Jillmama wanted to join, but I thought we should get to know her a bit first, on the good ol' thread.

[abranger]

HI momma's

I have been MIA for a while. I just joined the Yahoo group though. Today was DH last day of school!

I am so ready for some vacationing. We are going to SF to visit my folks for 10 days, may take a side trip to the Monterey Aquarium while we are there, then it's home for a week and off to a 4 day folk festival. That's pretty much takes care of all of July. In August we have plans to camp with a bunch of freinds on one of the Boston Harbor Islands. (liz pm me if you want to join us!) HMM I guess I should work at some point this summer since I am not the teacher in the family.

Lots of stuff going on with GA. She was dealing with independance issues about 6 weeks ago. She wanted us to put her bed back up - we hade taken it down since in 6 months she too 2 naps in it. She has also suggested to DH that she wants him to go downstairs and not lay with her until she falls asleep - but then changes her mind. There were a couple of other things not around sleep that also indicate stuff is going on in her head. Also during this time she was HELL ON WHEELS. Lot's of tantrums and power struggles. I always tried to remember she was clearly going through something. Anyway it seems to have passed now. I guess she decided she wasn't ready to grow up that much

She has also really been weaning herself. I have to say I was skeptical that she would ever stop on her own but it is happening. These days she only asks to nurse maybe 4 nights out of 7 and even then it's for 10 seconds. The morning will be the last to go but even that she has been skipping once or twice a week.

She is going to preschool in the fall. It will be really hard to leave her daycare for all of us, including her provider. She goes to a family daycare and they are really like family. I think GA will love school but we will all miss Isabel.

I went away by myself over Memorial Day weekend. I had a wedding in SF and DH didn't want to schlepp us all out there for a weekend. I had a blast and GA did great. There was no 'fallout' of any kind when I came home. It was like I never left. DH pointed out that this is attachment parenting paying off. She trusted I was coming back.

Tons of new pictures from visiting our friends farm in vermont and the bunker hill day parades

Also here is a hysterical video. GA got a hand me down dance recital costume from her cousin complete with tap shoes. I hope this works http://www.yousendit.com/transfer.ph...B3F0FA295EA349
http://www.yousendit.com/transfer.ph...858E7E2554B007

Miss you mommas! Punk think you'll make it this far north?

Amy and Georgia

[azjen43]

We are going to the Y for swimming lessons, and tumbling class that starts next week. Last week we drove over to see the step kids in Santa Monica and had fun fun fun at the beach. It was Maggie's first time seeing the ocean and even the jaded California teenagers had a great time seeing it all through Maggie's eyes. We went to the aquarium at Long Beach one day, which was OK, and the pier to ride the ferris wheel, but really all she wanted to do was lay in the sand, get up and run into the waves, turn around and run screaming away from the waves, and lay in the sand some more.

[eilonwy]

My brother lives in Monteray. I seriously want to get out there, but I'd have to be totally bonkers to try to take such a trip with three kids and no help. :

Sarita, I think you still get the points if Razi's okay with waiting. I count BeanBean as self-weaned because we discussed it and made the decision together. He did try to nurse a few times after Bella's birth, but he wasn't really interested.

[Mona]

amy, the pictures and the video are wonderful. i love the still breastfeeding shirt!
it is "interesting" to watch these stages of independence and insecurity at times as they are figuring out how they fit into the worldly matrix rather then just the motherly matrix. kathrynn is no where near sleeping on her own, and going to sleep w/o nursing makes her pretty anxious so i've dropped that one. but she shows her independence in other ways. :P

kathrynn has peed in her pants a few times lately at the library. UGH! luckily i always have a spare pair in my bag, but it boggles me. i ask her a lot if she has to go when we're there, bc she gets a little lost in time and space :LOL but she'll say, "no pee-pee is coming out" and then 5 min later there is this gush and she's standing there with her hand on her yoni. i was worried she was regressing, as she found a stack of old diapers i'm trying to sell and trying them on. goddess, i hope that is just a dress up thing. :P
i seriously think if i tried that trick of "you're too old to nurse, it is for babies" or soemthing like that, she'd revert to being a baby just so she could nurse!

anyway, happy saturday to everyone.

lisa

[DecemberSun]

Amy, Julianna does that- all of a sudden she'll be crying and she'll run to and say "Mama, I have to go peeeee!" and two seconds later she's peeing uncontrollabley and sobbing. Luckily she only does it when she's been swimming and she's waited too long to go. I usually just hose off the puddle she made and that's that. Lots of times she will say she doesn't have to go but if I make her go miraculously she'll produce some pee. So, I usually don't take her word for it, I just tell her to go potty. She is still peeing 3 nights out of 5. She loves her Pull-ups and gets really excited when we get a new pack at the store. I think it's the last thing she's holding onto from babyhood. Plus, I think she truly can't feel herself peeing in her sleep.

Zachary tells me he's a baby all the time when he wants to nurse... He is actually excited for me to have another baby someday so he can get some milk out of these things.

My nephew just turned one and the other day he got out of the pool, peed, and got back in. How cute is that??? My sis checked in to an inpatient drug treatment center yesterday, and she took her DS with her. Court ordered minimum of 90 days. Hopefully she will be filing for divorce from her immature, raging, abusive, @ss hole husband while she's in there. She says she's leaving him, but she's said that before and always goes back for some stupid reason. Anyway, I really REALLY hope she can crack her addiction from that nasty drug and get some counseling and get her life together once and for all. I really want to trust that she will, but the truth is I KNOW her too well... She will manipulate the counselors and lie and say what they want to hear, and in the end she'll get out of there without the skills she needs to live a drug free life. She'll set herself up for failure like she always does because she doesn't love herself yet. So, she has a lot to work on, and I am praying she can do it for her son! As always, we will be here for her. It's all up to her now...

LOVED the video of Georgia! What a cutie!!!

[tea olive]

sarita, clay was practically weaned at some point in ruby's pg. i asked for a little help from him when she came because i was engorged. he could have not started up again, now in hindsight. then for the next ten months or so it was almost like he nursed exclusively. it also made the sling life with her less mobile than i anticipated.

a long period (it seems like a year) after reed weaned (and my friend's daughter did this too, as she has the same birthday?!) he would try to run his hands up and down chests, women and men, an pinch nipples. i think my dh got the worst of it, cos he wouldn't be paying attention, so it would have started, and then ouch!

i get the feeling from all these stories that our 3.5s are going through an emotional growth spurt.

their still young for peeing to be a big deal. i do get mad at ruby cos she will lie to me about going and she gets mad at me because i just pick her up and put her on the toilet. like the nursing, it is not necessarily a one time light switch on kind of thing. i get really irritated but i know deep down that it just means they need my help.

i've given up and put the huggies overnight on her. she hates them and sometimes sceams at me to take them off in the middle of the night. (we're working on that too, she perfectly knows how to take them off). it varies whether she has already really peed for that time so sometimes i just have to carry her to the toilet. then i have to put another one on her when she is asleep again, or i put two thick towels and hope for the best since she has already done her middle of the night pee. anytime i have tried for no diaper the results are worse AND i have the cleaning to do. she wants to be at that level, and it is even more alarming and disappointing to her when she is all wet - you know, very pleasantly warm and then very cold and slightly sticky. of course the spot is always right where i usually sleep.

my main problem with the peeing is that these kids get up in the morning and then won't go back to bed.

the other day i chanted to myself, a no can easily turn to a yes. a yes is very difficult to turn into a no. my nos can be hard on us. but my yeses can be even harder in the long run.

[eilonwy]

BeanBean still occasionally wakes up crying in the middle of the night; either Mike or I will pick him up and carry him to the bathroom. There are rare accidents, but they don't happen often enough for us to consider putting him in a pullup at night.

[eilonwy]

Happy Birthday, BooBah! New pictures of Bella and BooBah in my sig.

[**guest**]

My ds is nowhere near ready for night time potty learning. Shows you how different all children are.

[marieangela]

Desmond weaned (with a little help from me) about two months into my pregnancy with Gavin. I was happy with the 26 months of mama milk that he got and I was in pain and getting resentful of the few nursing sessions he had left by the time he weaned.
As for potty learning, I decided not to push it at all or even hint at it until after Gavin was born. At one point, Desmond showed interest in wearing big boy underwear. After a couple of accidents, he had it down. Night time just happened for us, too. I kept him in pull-ups at night for a long time, but he was never wet in the morning and then one day he just said he wanted to wear his underwear at night. If he has to go during the night he wakes me up and has me take him to the bathroom. He used to wake up crying but that woke Gavin up and turned into a fiasco. Luckily he understands now, to just come and get me quietly then I can lay down with him while he goes back to sleep. Now he is into his no underwear at all stage. I have so many other things going on with him these days that no underwear is not something worth battling over. Anyway, I keep waiting for a backslide in the potty business, but so far, so good.
Where did I see that "I love 3 1/2" or somesuch post? I never got a chance to respond there. I am having a rough time with this age. Desmond was so easy before, now that I think of it. He was (and still is) very energetic and non-stop before, but he was not defiant like he is now. He is still pretty dependent in a lot of ways, especially since Gavin was born, but he tries to test the limits now, while still wanting me to help him eat and get dressed and such.

[DecemberSun]

Oh, Happy Birthday to your little one, Rynna!

Gonna go look at the pics now...

I am obsessed with My Space. : Check it out if you want...

[DecemberSun]

OMG- your girls are so cute, Rynna!!! So, Boobah had 3 candles on her cake? She had 2, with one to grow on? What do you think about Bella's eyes now? Thanks for sharing the pics.

[hjohnson]

We are having some peeing issues with Chris as well right now. He has been day trained since he was 2 1/2. Lately though he waits until the last minute to go and pee and he is doing a serious potty dance. He also having some issues with refusing to pee at certain places and will hold it until he wets himself. At night and naps we put him in pullups. The child slept through dynamite being blasted behind our house. I wet the bed until I was 6 and DH the same so we aren't pushing the night training right now.

[majazama]

rynna~ what a sweetie! she reminds me of my sa-sa.. her birth day is in a couple of weeks *2*...

and bellas fat little cheeks are so adorable!

[abranger]

GA was totally trained last summer but has never been night trained it isn't even close. She wakes up with a soaked daiper every morning. We have resorted to disposable 2nd generation dipes b/c she is outgrowing most of her wraps and I am not interested in buying more at this point. She has no interest at all. When I try to get her to pee before she goes to bed she says she WANTS to pee in her diaper:

Amy

[Daffodil]

Lindy was actually reliably dry at night long before she was reliably dry during the day - weird, but convenient. Our big nighttime issue is that nowadays she only wants to sleep with me, and not just in the same bed but squished as close to me as she can get (though I can generally move away once she's asleep.) I wouldn't mind so much if it weren't for the fact that there's a baby in there with us too, so it doesn't leave me a lot of room - and in the summer, it's hot! After we got her a toddler bed last summer and put it right next to my bed, she started going to sleep there almost every night, and sometimes stayed there all night and sometimes moved into my bed at some point. But a few weeks before the baby was born, she stopped wanting to sleep in her bed at all. Occasionally as we're going to sleep she'll say she wants to sleep there and will move into it for five or ten minutes, then decide she wants to move back with me. She did that last night, and as she was moving back to my bed she said, "I wish I had my own room." Yeah, right.

Perhaps not coincidentally, she gave up nursing around the same time she gave up sleeping in her own bed. I thought there was a good chance she'd want to start up again after John was born, but she didn't.

[eilonwy]

Originally Posted by Daffodil

Lindy was actually reliably dry at night long before she was reliably dry during the day - weird, but convenient.

This is Bean as well. I guess I'm pretty lucky in this respect, BeanBean is reliably dry 24/7, and only calls me to wipe his behind for the yickiest poops or when he's sick. In fact, BooBah's been pooping and peeing in the toilet a lot lately, and I wouldn't be at all surprised if she was out of diapers during the day within the next month or so. She's got a more difficult situation at night, but occasionally she wakes up dry so it's all good.

And here I thought that BeanBean had been late to get out of diapers 24/7 because he was only a month short of his third birthday. : Just goes to show that I have no idea what's normal...

Bella's seeing an opthamologist this week. Her eyes still worry me a fair bit, even in pictures you can see that she's cross-eyed. : I love her chubby cheeks too, though. They're so kissable! :

[tea olive]

i'm repeating something i've said before: my reed was completely in diapers until after his 4th birthday, when my dh basically shamed him out of them during the daytime. clay trained at the same time. i can't remember when nighttime ended, probably less than a year later. i just remember he was very huge already. i'm not sure what this says about me as a mamma though - yikes!