Checking in

[NYCVeg]

First, I wanted to say congrats to all the new May (and June!) babies that I haven't had time to acknowledge...life with a newborn is really crazy!

We're still working on resolving some bf issues, but things seem to be on an upswing. I'm cautiously--but only cautiously--optimistic, as we've had upswings before that were then followed by more problems. I can't wait for my breasts to completely heal so that I can hold and sling the little one like I want to. Right now, grandma and papa are doing most of the rocking and it makes me a little sad (great for them, though!).

I have to say that having this baby has made me appreciate my dh more than I ever thought possible. He's doing such an amazing job taking care of everything--and keeping my spirits up--through all the bf struggles. Honestly, I don't know how anyone has a baby without him.

Finally, I'm feeling a little unsettled, because I overheard my mw make a little comment about me to someone else. I know I've been driving her nuts with phone calls--but it's been a little overwhelming to have a new baby, especially with the bfing problems, and we have no idea what's normal. I now feel really stupid for calling so much (I think maybe once a day, but always with very specific questions) and that I'm going to be labelled a "problem" client. I don't know why it bothers me so much, but I hate feeling like someone I trsut doesn't like me.

Anyway, I hope everyone is doing well! Can't wait to see everyone over at the Life with a Babe Forum!

[Peppamint]

Aw hugs... nothing like feeling overwhelmed and vulnerable and having someone like your MW make a comment. I hope the bf issues work out very soon so you can enjoy getting to know your lil girl.

[KatSG]

I know just how you feel. With dd1 we were pretty wrecked the first few weeks. Now I feel pratically negligent with the baby! I promise you, it does get easier. BF is hard for LOTS of people in the beginning and the anxiety you feel about the problems can be so overwhelming. I never really got over the anxiety, mainly because I was working and pumping and always worried about my supply. But I'm vowing to be easier on myself this time. We have to remember that we're all doing the best we can and our babies aren't suffering as long as we're keeping at it! Hang in there!

I've also made lots of calls to my MWs in the last few weeks and wondered if they were getting tired of me. If I were you, I'd say something to your MW. Mine keep reminding me that they are there for me, their jobs aren't done yet just because the baby is out, and always encourged me to call before the baby came. That's the support a MW should be giving and if you're not getting it maybe a frank conversation can help her see what you need.

Take good care of yourself. SO GLAD you have a supportive DH and grands around. I've found myself falling madly in love with dh all over again...

[mamacatsbaby]

Big hugs mama . I'm sorry you're feeling overwhelmed. I'm sure many a parent can relate. I know I've certainly had my nerves frazzled at times! Hang in there. This is such a huge adjustment. I'm so very glad that you have great support. Heck, I guess I'm not the only one who feels her DH is just the best ever! I hope things are getting better.