Why don't I want this baby out yet?

[papayapetunia]

I remember feeling so over it the last month of my first pregnancy. Why do I feel panicky and unprepared? Is it just not time yet? I'm freakin' myself out!

[littlemama06]

Hugs

Kaitlin

[Caroline248]

I am okay with baby staying on too....so much easier to deal with when they are inside!!

I am almost done with everything I want to do before the big day, so maybe when I am done, I will be ready to "evict" him!!

~C~

[mum2tori]

I'd like her to stay right were she is right now. I know she's safe and happy. I'm not ready for her to be here just yet. Got too much to do yet.

[KnittingKara]

I know it is easier said than done, but really, there's no reason to panic - what do babies really need anyway? not a clean house ... not tons of baby clothes ... not "stuff" ... I bet you have more done and ready for your baby than you think. Be gentle on yourself, mama

Tho' I do agree with the whole line of thought about how they are MUCH easier to care for in the womb

[chiromama]

I'm with you... I am in no hurry to have this babe. I'm not panicy... a little nervous maybe, but feel content to just be pregnant a bit longer. Maybe you just need a nice long massage (mine is at 1:30 today!) and a foot soak.

[mommy2girlies]

Originally Posted by chiromama

I'm with you... I am in no hurry to have this babe. I'm not panicy... a little nervous maybe, but feel content to just be pregnant a bit longer. Maybe you just need a nice long massage (mine is at 1:30 today!) and a foot soak.

a massage and foot soak sound heavenly...enjoy!!:

[grace's voice]

With my first I went through this process that I described as "unfolding." I knew I wasn't ready, but each day I got a little closer. One morning I woke up totally okay with having the baby, and I went into labor that evening. With this baby... a week ago I was freaked out... I mean having panic attcks when I thought about going into labor. It wasn't time yet, but I can feel myself getting more and more ready by the day. No one believed me that we weren't ready yet, I think for the most part mom's just "know" when the time is right.

[nmm2112]

I remember feeling like, "well, I want to meet this baby, but they're so much easier to care for while your pregnant and I'm already so busy with my DS and DD..." and you know what? The baby just is taking his/her time to get here!
Just recently my feelings have changed and I just really want to hold (sling) this baby and I actually DO finally feel prepared (or at least as prepared as I'm going to be! )

I found that a nice relaxing bath at night is really helpful - definately try to make some time for yourself (I know, hahaha - but try) even 10minutes alone can make a difference!

[papayapetunia]

Thanks for the reassurance.

I am going to do some final shopping today, wash the baby clothes and blankets, book my massage and soak these enormous feet. I have a huge order of cloth diapers that haven't come in yet, and the lady I ordered from is not emailing me back. So I'm kind of nervous about that. The house is a mess and I don't care.

I think I have some fear about the labor and delivery because my doctor won't shut up about how big this baby is. In my heart I trust that my body can handle it, but I still gets pangs of fear when I think about how I will react if things don't go as planned.

[luv2bmommie]

I am also scared about labor and delivery Papyapetunia. I am measuring ahead, told also that baby is large and am a prior c-sec hoping for a VBAC this time. I am sure eveything will be okay but it is so stressful to think about. I just want to hold this baby without having to go through the delivery part


Mama to Alexis 8/1/03 and expecting baby Dylan 6/22/06

[Caroline248]

Originally Posted by luv2bmommie

I am also scared about labor and delivery Papyapetunia. I am measuring ahead, told also that baby is large and am a prior c-sec hoping for a VBAC this time. I am sure eveything will be okay but it is so stressful to think about. I just want to hold this baby without having to go through the delivery part


Mama to Alexis 8/1/03 and expecting baby Dylan 6/22/06

With my last baby, I measured 3 weeks ahead and was told the baby may be big (by my midwives)...he was 7 pounds even. The midwife said she could be way off, and she was....

~C~

[grace's voice]

I've been super anxious about delivery as well! Everytime I have contractions, or feel a twinge on my cervix I hold my breath and freak out! I'm just waiting for my water to break and for labor to come on HARD out of nowhere like it did with dd. I don't worry at all about a big baby, I'm REALLY hoping for at least 10 pounds this time... but I don't think its going to happen. DD was 9 pounds 4 ounces, but they have different fathers. I know that if I can do a 9 pounder in 3 hours of labor, first delivery, I can birth just about anything... and I think that's true for anyone, not just me. There's nothing special about me! I'm not amazon sized or anything! I can deffinately see the added anxiety for a VBAC, just keep in mind a VBAC has far less risk than a repeat cesarean, regaurdless of the size of the baby. If they get stuck, we just get on our hands and knees. It'll all be okay! We can do it! ... or at least you all can... I have more confidence in you than in myself!

[AugustineM]

I was getting myself all paranoid about the size of the baby -- DS was almost9 lbs, but I never pushed him out. He was a breech, so was cesarean. Though I did labor to 10 cm, so at least I have that experience.

I don't know if this baby is as big as him, but when I feel myself start to worry about that, I read some of the great stuff online at gentle birth and other cool midwife sites, and they are always so supportive of women birthing large babies. One site said that even if babies get bigger in the last couple weeks of pregnancy, all they're adding is fat, and fat is simple to birth because it's squishy. What really matters is the bone size & structure, and how big the head is. And that is set in place earlier on (like 37 weeks). For some reason that always makes me relax a bit...

I do feel like I'm ready to have this baby. The only thing that makes me anxious is going from one to two children. And two under age two, at that!

I think I'm more nervous about tandem nursing than I am about the birth!