new to this sight. Married 1.5 yrs. He has 3 boys (16, 14, 13). I have one girl (10). I knew blending would be difficult but some of the issues we have I never expected. The issue this month - attention. So my bio daughter was an only child and a bit spoiled, his children, pretty much raised only by dad. Our values are the same, but our daily parenting can be a little different. i'll give him credit - good dad, good at lessons that will affect them long term, good provider, good example, solid. I am more of the cant balance a checkbook, but loves that daily interaction, giggling, hangin with my daughter, mushy. So the issue now - is my bio daughter a mommys girl and too clingy. I guess the boys, one particularly seems to think my daughter takes up too much of my attention. Am I confused by that - overly. I feel the only time we really are alone is at night - when i go to her room, we read together, talk, pray. Now in the beginning did she seem clingy to me - yes (new city, new school, new family and less mom) made sense. Does she now - no. The boys dont have a relationship with their mom right now and I think the one boy is not being fair when he gives my daughter a hard time and tells my husband that she is too clingy. I think he is dealing with his own issues. My husband tends to believe the boy and will talk with my bio daughter about being clingy. I feel like we have to walk on eggshells just to hang around eachother because the boys are so sensitive. I definitely try to hang with them as well, do things with them, etc.. I have dione more with them in the last 4 yrs than their bio mom ever has. I know the boys like me which drives their need to hang with me , but i am tired of feeling confused - am i over parenting my bio child or are they trippen and driving a wedge between me and my bio daughter. Just want advice.
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6/2/06 at 4:04pm