Well, I don't think my cousins are child-torture fetishists...it's just that if you choose to "pop" your 11-month-old on the leg or swat his butt for grabbing something, not everyone will approve, but it isn't considered beyond the pale there. I never saw the cousins that do this act sadistically; in their mind, they were being "firm" and teaching obedience. It is really really sad to see someone hit a baby, especially your own cousin.
Luckily I have never seen this since I had Nora - I would not have been able to restrain myself from giving this particular cousin a piece of my mind. (Just to clarify, most of my relatives would not do this, although they might spank an older child.)
As far as my K teacher, you know, I think part of her *did* (and does, she's still teaching
) feel an "intense hatred" for children. She seemed to enjoy telling the class whose turn it was to be paddled. She ran an extremely tight ship, which makes no sense for a KINDERGARTEN. I doubt that most teachers who use corporal punishment use it as liberally and as gleefully as she.
She has a DD my age, too (who was not in my class) - doesn't make sense why she would be so full of rage at kids. But, she was. I wish I had been able to tell my mother about it - she might very well have pulled me out of school. It is really sad IMO that corporal punishment is still allowed in schools, in some states (don't know about GA).
I read some of the blanket training thread and am surprised, frankly, that you were able to make the training "stick" without ten million repetitions. I have never tried to train DD to do anything, but I can't imagine that just putting her back on the blanket a few times would have been enough to "blanket train" her!! She would have thought it was a game and I can imagine her gladly leading me to "chase" her back onto the blanket for as long as I could stand it...
I do think that babyproofing and/or closing off rooms is far far preferable to training a child not to get off a blanket, no matter how gently the training is accomplished. Is this something that is done a lot in GA?