Originally Posted by Nora'sMama
Ha ha, 'compliant' is not how I would describe my spunky DD...
She knows what she wants even at 1 year old! She often plays happily by herself (when she is inspired to do so) in an area little larger than a blanket, but only when *she* wants to...if I set her down near her favorite toys b/c I need to do something, but she would rather be doing something else, I can't really imagine WHAT I could do to convince her to play where I want her to play!! She also can stiffen her body so that if she decides she doesn't want to get in the car seat, she is NOT getting in. I have to cajole her, distract her, use all manner of tricks to get her in the seat sometimes - just telling her that she has to get in means nothing to her whatsoever! My mom says I was the same as a baby, very strong-willed, and I never really changed as a child/adult. I wonder what a blanket-trainer would do with such a baby - would they try to break the child's will? That just seems unimaginable, and yet I know it must happen.
That would be disturbing. I would never try to break a child's will, least of all over a silly thing like blanket-training. But of course there are people who would and as I understand it they would be quite good at it...
|I hear you on that. But I have a lot of relatives who are fundamentalist Christians and while some of them fit the negative stereotypes to a T, one of my cousins is very AP and an extremely compassionate, gentle mother. She is also VERY religious and VERY "fundamentalist", not a "liberal Christian" at all. So perhaps because of my personal experience with fundamentalist Christians and their varying styles of parenting, I don't assume that a family is parenting a certain way just because they are religious. Honestly, I have found that *most of the time* (not always) if you just watch parents of any creed interacting with their dc, you can get a general sense for whether they are practicing fear-based parenting or not. And although you can't trust TV, and the Duggar special may have been edited to make them look more serene than they really are, I did not get the sense that that household runs on fear. So whereas they may believe in spanking and use the Gothard curriculum, it is just my gut feeling that there are not many spankings (if any) actually handed out.
I could be totally wrong, of course. Just speculation on my part.
I agree that you can often tell by the interactions. I don't have enough of a sense about these people to tell, but I just thought that a more secular family would have been given more the benefit of the doubt. The corporate media tends to sensationalize anything different or non-mainstream. But I also think that there is this anti-child subculture, and part of what makes them so dangerous is how well they hide it. If you go to the websites of No Greater Joy or Focus on the Family and read what they have to say about children and family interactions, they really don't sound much different from ap sites. You have to seek out the stuff about beating babies into submission and whatnot.
So anyway, I don't think we have enough information about these people to really say what their family is like.
And now I am off to look up Gothard college...