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My MIL arrived yesterday to visit for a few days. I'm glad we were able to hold off out-of-town guests for this long--I feel like we have enough of a routine going now to be confident enough to do it all with other people around. I adore my MIL and have a great relationship with her. I love that she is willing to listen and learn about BFing, HBing, Waldorf education, co-sleeping, etc. (she did manage to put a diaper cover on inside out, but she's trying!)

But... I think I expected her to offer to do things around the house. I am perfectly capable of keeping up with dishes and washing diapers right now, which are really the only household tasks I care about at the moment, but I thought she might try to empty the dishwasher or bring the clean clothes up from the dryer, even if half the dishes end up in the wrong cabinets.

Oh, well. I know she's really only here to see Phoebe, but I just felt the need to whine to someone.
post #2 of 5
Wow, sorry to hear about that. Maybe she's afraid she'll offend you or make you think she's being pushy if she starts taking on household chores?

I'd ask her to lend a hand, no need for you to do everything!

It is strange that she hasn't offered to help....
post #3 of 5
Amy, I know exactly what you mean. When my mom comes to visit, especially in the early days or when I was on bedrest, I really hoped she would volunteer to help out around the house. I didn't feel right asking her, unless it was something I absolutely could not do, like lifting. So I just let it go. But I'm with you, it would be really nice for someone to offer.
post #4 of 5
*Not from your DDC*

Whine away!! My MIL came specifically (I thought) to help with the clothes, dishes, keeping things tidy. Well, for the month she was with us, she did NO laundry, only washed dishes (neither DH nor MIL likes to put away dishes-- weird). She did help with Michael though. I would nurse him at 6:am and then hand him off to her while I went back to bed. She got to play with her only grandbaby, and I got SLEEP!!! I love my MIL, too. She was really great with Michael and did really want to help-- sometimes.
post #5 of 5
Not from you DDC, but my MIL was exactly the same way when she came after ds was born. It was frustrating for me, because she fully expected to be treated like a guest in my home during that time (she wanted to sightsee, go out for dinner - or expected dh or I to make it, etc.) It was weird. but, thankfully my mom came and she did everything for me
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