I gave up hope around 4 months old, when she didn't latch for an entire month. I wish I could go back in time to fix things. I wish I would have told my family NO! to traveling to their house for Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, (I do not regret attending my late Nana's 90th b-day, though) and what not in the early weeks/months. Looking back, I think we could have made it work if I told the world to shove it, locked my doors, and disconnected the phone. It was too much for me. We gave bottles b/c who wants to fiddle with an SNS and Nipple shield and use a cold wash cloth to keep the baby awake while also pumping at Thanksgiving dinner at the IL's? Who wants to explain all of that to the IL's? I should have stayed home to work on the issues.
I vowed to not let that happen with ds. He came, and again, we had nursing issues but the latch was fine. I told the world to kiss my butt and ticked off all our family. (I delivered in December, the holiday season) He had FTT, and SEVERE jaundice. Of course family said that is what formula is for, its ok. Breastfeeding didn't work out and it is ok. I went through the whole pumping and sns issues but made it work!!! I told any family that they could visit ME if they want to, but I am NOT cooking a meal, I am not cleaning the house, I am not going to make sure there is a chair to sit on or even a pot of coffee. Come up, visit, but you are on your own as I am not entertaining you but I will be happy to chat as I pump and refill the SNS. They came up to open presents and they brought a meal. I am so glad that I stuck to my guns this time. I really wish I wouldn't have worried about everyone else and their plans when I had my dd.