Ep by Choice
Originally Posted by GooeyRN
I was not offended either. EPing is more of a "last resort" kind of thing. I don't think many really choose this path. If you are having troubles with bfing, yes, pump, or EP for the time being, but do try to work through those issues you are having. I EP for DD, but also bf ds. I will say that bfing is harder in the early weeks, but after it is established, it is 1,000 times easier than EPing. There is no juggling a crying baby on your lap while you are hooked up to the pump, pumping while out of the house, getting up to pump at night, etc. EPing is a long hard road, and I really see it as a last resort when bfing issues can not be fixed.
Hi girls! I am new to this site... it was referred to me by a LLILC... I am so glad to have found you! I have been lurking for about a week and half now, and I have a confession to make. I am in the minority here. While I am exclusively pumping, I am doing so by choice. We are fortunate that DS2 has no medical issues, and I don't even know if he could/would latch on if we tried. He is 3 weeks old, and has been getting pumped milk since we were home from the hospital. I have read all your stories, and am amazed that anyone has made careers of EP'ing!! Making it to a year or more is outstanding!!
With DS1, (now 3.5 yo) I pumped exclusively as well. That situation was a little different in that we tried for 3 weeks to BF, and it was not good for either of us. I was in so much pain I was in tears all the time, and he wasn't getting enough to eat, so we were both miserable. Hubby had no idea how difficult it was for us until he came in while we were nursing and he saw how we were both in tears! Then he was all for exclusive pumping. Like many people, he thought BF would be so easy and natural (and I did at first as well). DS1 got only pumped milk for three months, then I had to return to work. While I still pumped, we had to start supplementing with formula. Unlike a lot of the stories I had read here, I was OK with that. I figured he was still getting some milk, so some was better than none! I continued to pump until my supply dried up at 6 months, at which time we switched to formula. I had a supply built up in the freezer, however a power outage took about 8 weeks worth from us. I didn't mind pumping at all, and although I was not against formula, makign the decision to supplement and then make the full switch was harder for me than I anticipated. Lots of tears were shed over that!
Now with DS2, I have been pumping every 3 hours since he was born. (He did try to nurse immediately after delivery, but we haven't tried again since then). I am currently beginning to try to go 3.5 hours between sessions, and gradually drop sessions, as many of you know, it is too hard to keep track of my older son, tend to the baby and pump, not to mention going out anywhere!
I have finally decided to post because I think you all will not be judgemental and be able to understand the frustrations I am having. My hubby, mom and sisters try to listen, but really have no idea what I am talking about and look at me like I am from mars. I am feeling like all I do is pump and wash bottles. I am so tired all the time, and feel like I am failing as a mother. I still am not opposed to formula... we have even given DS2 formula if we have been out (once in his short three weeks!), but I still can't make the break from pumping. I am lucky that I don't seem to have a supply issue (I get between 5-8 ozs per pump session at every three hours), but I am getting so frustrated this time around that I am questioning whether this is worth it. I know all the health benefits and all that, I just wonder as I have read some of you have as well... is missing out on life for a few months worth the heartache? I feel like i am neglecting DS1, and sometimes when DS2 has to cry while I finish pumping, I feel like I am neglecting him as well.
I have tried hands free (rubber band method) and it doesn't work for me. I end up losing all my pumped milk down the front of me! I have yet to try the sports bra method, but plan to in the next week. I couldn't imagine pumping while driving or doing anything else. As it stands now, I just play a silly computer game while sitting at the desk.
Sorry for this to be such a long rambling novel, but I am sure you ladies understand!! Thanks for letting me vent.. although we have never met!