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Homebirth with #1?

post #1 of 97
Thread Starter 
Forgive me if there is a thread somewhere out there that already addresses this question, but I'm so curious.

I have read a lot of awesome homebirth stories here @ MDC along with many posts about people planning homebirths with their current pregancies. Almost all of them are 2nd or 3rd or 4th (etc) births and I don't see much about mommas having their 1st birth @ home.

Any mommas out there that have had positive homebirth experiences w/ #1? I'm very open to hearing about the negative experiences too.

Just trying to get an idea about what birthing #1 at home might be like.

Thanks!
Tara
post #2 of 97


Welcome! I had a homebirth with my dd- my first (and currently only) SOOOOO glad. For assorted reasons the birth would have been a train wreck in the hospital, most likely leading to an un-needed section. Instead it was peaceful and quiet.

-Angela
post #3 of 97
I had my first at home just three weeks ago. It was wonderful. I think some women are motivated by bad first experiences to go looking for alternatives. I was lucky: a family member of mine had several homebirths. I also had bad hospital experiences not birth related that helped me realize I defnitely didn't want to be in a hospital.

I cannot imagine my birth happening without major interventions in a hospital. I had back labor due to posterior and asynclitic presentation. It was very painful but even then and especially in retrospect I felt so supported and safe and secure that I was never really overwhelmed by labor or by pain (well, not for more than two or three minutes). It was wonderful.

I can't wait to do it again.

There are a few books out there that suggest that first baby is a reason to eschew homebirth. This is nuts. Sure, there are a few circumstances that make homebirth more predictable for second time and later moms, and first time moms *in general* have a higher transfer rate, but personally I didn't see the need to have a miserable first birth to prove I could do it. And besides, I wasn't interested in having my second birth be an HBAC just because I went to the hospital for my first.

Link to my birth thread. I posted a couple of times when I was in labor, and then a brief birth story a couple hours afterwards.
post #4 of 97
I planned a home birth with #1 and wound up in a hospital transfer. I did not have consistent labor (or really much labor at all) almost 2 days after my water broke, which was beyond the boundaries of what my midwife felt was safe (we had tried a number of natural remedies to get it kick started and they didn't work).

I think that the failure of my homebirth was largely related to an unspoken trust issue that I had with my midwife. I will know better about trusting my instincts next time. I plan to homebirth with any future children, as I really believe that babies are supposed to be born at home.

I also wanted to add that I think that the prenatal care that you get with a good homebirth midwife is spectacular and is so far superior to what you would get with an OB or even many nurse midwives. Even if I planned a hospital birth with future children, I'd do all prenatal care with a homebirth midwife, it was that great. I am convinced that I would have wound up on bedrest with preeclampsia and probably a c-section if I had been involved in the medical management of my pregnancy. With my midwife's excellent care, I was able to maintain a healthy blood pressure throughout my pregancy and delivery, despite horrific swelling and obesity.
post #5 of 97
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Originally Posted by Ally'smom
I also wanted to add that I think that the prenatal care that you get with a good homebirth midwife is spectacular and is so far superior to what you would get with an OB or even many nurse midwives.
ITA. I think this has got to be a huge additional benfit for a first time mom. I had dual care with a CNM/OB practice bc I wanted a few tests my midwife doesn't do. I ended up having a couple minor medical issues that the CNM prescribed things for--every time I called the CNM I was talking to a stranger and maybe I might get a call back from someone relaying the CNM's opinion to me. There was no access. Prenatals were very brief. This was fine sinc eI was only seeing her for testing but she did the regualr prenatal stuff--just at light speed.

As a first time mom especially the homebirth midwives were wonderful. We started putting together my labor notes at my first visit and worked on it for eight months--working out all the things that I might want to need. None of the whole trying to write a birth plan at some point; we spent the whole pregnancy talking about labor and birth and pregnancy and nursing--whatever occurred to me and tha tI needed to talk about.

It was wonderful.
post #6 of 97
me me me!! It was AWESOME - don't cheat yourself the first time around!!
post #7 of 97
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Originally Posted by tie-dyed
I had my first at home just three weeks ago. It was wonderful. I think some women are motivated by bad first experiences to go looking for alternatives.
I think that happens a lot, too. I felt like my first was just as important as my last, so I'd do it right... at home.

I often say that an intact perineum is one of the best gifts I've ever given myself. It's true though. Choosing homebirth for me first was GREAT for my baby and SOOOO great for me.

Here's a link to my long birth story about my first birth.
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...highlight=Jude

Then just in case you feel the urge... links to my 2nd & 3rd homebirth.
Cicely's birth with pregnancy pictures http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=123213
Joie's FAST birth http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=381975

Many blessings to you, you wise woman to choose homebirth for your first. It's a great blessing for you, your baby & your partner.
post #8 of 97
we birthed at home with our first and are planning to birth at home with this next one, too. i couldn't imagine denying any of our children the right to be born at home simply because of birth order.

born under the bed: the birth poem of marek is the laboring and birthing story of our son.

~claudia
post #9 of 97
I birthed at home with all my children. I think it's a wonderful choice for first-time moms!

Laura
post #10 of 97
Thread Starter 
This is all so awesome and encouraging. THANK YOU. Keep 'em comin'. I've loved going to your birth story links.
post #11 of 97
i had an unassisted homebirth wih my first.
Everything went smoothly and baby is quite healthy and about to turn 2 in the fall!

Don't cheat your firstborn! It's the only birth that baby will ever get!
post #12 of 97
I can think of very very very very very few reasons not to have a baby at home. And none of them include what # baby it is.

I had both my boys at home.

My second child was born with an undiagnosed birth defect. Had he been born in the hospital, I believe that either he or I would have died...due to various complications we had that were not complications at home...but would have been in the hospital. I have had neurologists and lawyers say to me that they have never heard of a baby born in such good shape given all of his various problems. He was hospitalized at 5 days old.

After having spent so much time with him in the hospital, and we're talking 15+ admissions in his 2 years of life so far.... I would not have a baby anywhere other than home unless there was a very very very very very good reason to be in the hospital.

Hospitals are for sick people.

mv
post #13 of 97
Had my first at home at the end of April.

It was wonderful. The prenatal care was incredible, and the care at the birth and after was amazing.

I am pretty sure if I had her in the hospital, there would have been interventions - or at least a conversation with the OB that would have scared me. There is something to be said for trusting yourself, and not having every single piece of information that every machine can give you.

DD is happy and healthy and I can't imagine birthing anywhere else unless it was medically necessary. I truly think homebirth is the way to go.
post #14 of 97
I so WISH that I had had a homebirth with my first!!
My second I will definately!!
post #15 of 97
Waiting to birth my first babe at home ANY day now! I'll let you know how it goes but it has been sooo wonderful having a midwife who has complete trust in the birthing process, which has helped me know I can do it!
post #16 of 97
I had the same concern as the OP. I kept reading birth story after birth story that was a 2nd, 3rd etc. birth. So, I made my midwife tell me how many of her clients in the past year had been first-time moms and how it went for each of them. I know, it was a little obsessive of me, but it made me feel better.

I had my great big son at home and I have no regrets! None! Even though there were some complications, I have never wished I had chosen otherwise. I am convinced that had I been in our local hospital (even with a great O.B.) I would have ended up with a C-section. The prenatal and post-partum care that my midwives provided were stellar and my labor and birth were amazing! I felt like superwoman and my son is a healthy 2 year old today.

I say, if you want to birth at home, then go for it!
post #17 of 97
I had my first (and currently only) baby at home. If I had been in the hospital, I probably would have had been forced to have a c/s because I didn't go into labor within 24 hours of my water breaking. I had a 12 hour labor, with 30 minutes of pushing. Through labor I was free to move around, try different positions, encouraged to eat and drink (although I couldn't keep anything down), get in and out of the tub. My midwives were incredible.

My birthstory can be read here: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=315963
post #18 of 97
I just had my first baby at home and it was perfect. Everything about the birth was better than I had ever imagined.
post #19 of 97
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Originally Posted by Ally'smom
I also wanted to add that I think that the prenatal care that you get with a good homebirth midwife is spectacular and is so far superior to what you would get with an OB or even many nurse midwives. Even if I planned a hospital birth with future children, I'd do all prenatal care with a homebirth midwife, it was that great.
While I wasn't able to have a homebirth with #1 (he decided 29 weeks was a great time to come), I received such excellent care from my homebirth midwife, that my son was big for his age and did incredibly well in the NICU - home at 33w3d gestation with no monitors or anything - perfectly healthy. That's because my midwife was always keeping up with my nutrition.

I'm seeing an OB and the same midwife this time around, and there is such a HUGE difference in care. I love my OB, but frankly, prenatals with him are USELESS. I'm only doing them because if I'm preterm again, I want HIM in the hospital, and not the teaching group I got assigned to last time. My midwife does so much more during prenatals - talks about things that are going on in my life, talks about what I want in my birth, talks about nutrition, etc, etc.

But I absolutely recommend homebirth for #1!!!! Many women don't find out about homebirth until they've had a horrible hospital experience with a previous baby. You can help avoid that by staying at home to begin with, unless there's a problem that truly requires a hospital. As a PP said, hospitals are for sick people. In my case, yes, I needed a hospital. But most first time moms can go full term and have healthy babies at home. Go for it!
post #20 of 97
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Originally Posted by AdinaL
I am pretty sure if I had her in the hospital, there would have been interventions - or at least a conversation with the OB that would have scared me. .
YES me too! And congrats on your lil babe, Adina!
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