Again, thank you so much, all of you who have contributed to this thread. It has been so wonderful to read about your experiences.
I feel sorry
for all the gals out there who are ignorant to their birth options and end up following hospital practioners blindly into decisions that may not have made if they would've known there is BETTER WAY. I feel so blessed to have all this knowledge at my fingertips right now, even before I conceive.
I just spoke with a midwife on the phone this morning and it was such a wonderful
conversation. She is only the 2nd midwife I have spoken with at length, but I already feel like I've known her for years! I just had an overwhelming peace while talking to her. She is an older lady who has delivered 700 or so babies. She seems amazingly wise. She has 4 doctorate degrees and has taught at 2 different universities and a school of midwifery.
I know that degrees and various levels of education do not necessarily make a good midwife, but I totally get the feeling this woman knows her stuff! One of her doctorates is in Nutrition, so she has an abundance of knowledge concerning prenatal nutrition. I'm just some stranger that called her out of the blue to ask a few questions and ended up speaking w/ her for an hour about a nutrition plan tailored to my needs. We totally meshed when it comes to spiritual beliefs. She works closely with a doctor in her area who was actually a midwife BEFORE she became a doctor, so if for any reason hospital transfer is necessary, her clients are put in the care of this very mid-wife-friendly natural-health-loving MD.
Wanna hear the down side?
She is located about an hour and half or more away from where I live, and would not be able to come to my home to deliver the baby. BUT
she and another midwife have a birth center in her town. She said that many of her clients come from miles away when their due-date is upon them and actually stay in area hotels until it is time to deliver at the birth center (which is a converted house with a very homey atmosphere).
Even though this would not be the home birth I originally wanted, I may be willing to forfeit having my child at home just to have this woman as my midwife. Of course, I would have to drive an hour and a half to each prenatal appointment, but it would be so worth it.
I'm still not ruling out homebirth. I just strongly doubt that things will "click
" like this with the other midwives in the area that I might consider interviewing.....especially one with this level of experience. I think birthing at her center would be the next-best thing to having my baby at home.
Are you mad at me?
Your stories and encouragement are not in vain
- they have been so instrumental in building up my confidence in the ability of a woman's body to give birth outside of a hospital with very little intervention
I'd love to hear more about your homebirths w/ #1....and your free-standing birth center experiences as well.