Originally Posted by annakiss
You've only spoken to this midwife on the phone, right? You really don't know yet how well you do click with her. I'll tell you, my first impression of my last midwife seemed exactly what I wanted, but my last impression was not fabulous. I wish I'd done a UC, really, I guess, but no changing that. It was what it needed to be. My experience is really neither here nor there though.
Also, I must say four
doctorates??? A midwife? really? I am highly skeptical of that, not to be a spoilsport or anything. I would honestly wonder if she weren't a little too educated, perhaps too hands-on. Unless, of course, that's what you want... For me personally though, I'd prefer to birth instinctively and spontaneously and am wary of too much education making one feel too knowledgeable and act as though she knows better than you about your own body. Really, forgive me for being skeptical.
That's okay, you're allowed.
I value all opinions....especially since I'm a first-timer and want to view things from all angles.
I know that in the end, I'll have to totally trust my gut on this decision and DH and I will HAVE to be entirely at peace with whatever we decide.
I suppose I am desiring a more hands-on approach....well, to a certain extent. I don't want someone that is arrogant enough to think that her knowledge and experience totally overrides what I know about my own body, but I didn't get that impression from her at all. She made the statement that she simply gives women all the information she possibly can and then THEY make their own decisions about what they want their birth to be. I read an interview she gave a while back and when asked for examples of some of the places she's delivered babies, one of them was "in a back yard by a gorgeous garden".
(wow - that would be so beautiful!) Not that this proves anything one way or another about how hands-on/off she is, but she is obviously not so medically minded that she is opposed to women giving birth in the beauty of nature.
Also, and I know this may sound a bit odd, but I really loved the fact that she is an older
of the midwives in my area are relatively young and have just recently finished their education at a local midwifery school (which just recently closed. doh!
don't be offended if anyone reading this is a young midwife or has a young midwife that you really love and trust. But personally, I feel so much more comfortable with an older woman who has been doing this for a REALLY long time. There is a lot to be said about the kind of wisdom that can only be produced by time. I guess I could get into all types of psychological theories on why I feel more at peace with an older mother-type figure guiding me through birth......hhhmmm. Something to think about. Although, it seems totally natural to me.As for the doctorates
, she never brought them up during our conversation....she probably wasn't even aware that I knew about them. I read her credentials elsewhere and must admit that I was impressed. I was even more impressed that she didn't advertise them in any way to me. Her doctorates are in Alternative Medicine, Medical Missionary Work, Nutrition, and Evangelism.
I am, of course, going to interview her and others (in person) in the near future and make my decision after I feel like we've explored all our options.....but if I had to go on first impressions alone (which, may not always be totally accurate, as in your case) I'd have to say that I am really comfortable with this woman.