People scared you'll forget to tell them the baby was born?

[grace's voice]

Am I the only one?

So many people seem overly concerned that I'll somehow "forget" to tell them when the baby comes, esp my mom and my sister. My mom was so freaked out about this when dd was born she was calling me everyday to see if I'd had her yet (my mom NEVER calls me!). My sister lives in the condo right next door to us, AND she's part of the birth team! Why is she worried? She'll likely hear me in labor through the wall! And now, my dh keeps waking up in the night thinking I had the baby on my own and didn't even tell HIM I was in labor! As if he could miss that? I'm a LOUD laboring woman! What is up with people??? I'm like, mom, we have a list of people to call on a bullitin board in our living room... your name is on it!!!! People from church keep calling, our Chiro (we have a closer relationship because dh works PT for him) wants us to BE SURE and call him right away when the baby is born, even though I assured him we're taking the baby in to be adjusted within 24 hours of birth.

So what is it... I'm not THAT irresponsible. I called my mom as soon as the sun came up after dd was born and of course she was like 'you're out of bed!' and then freaking about that... well, I felt fine and she told me to call right away! And furthermore, its not like I can just forget to call, as if I'll be like 'oh yeah, the baby was born last week, I must have forgetten.' Hello???? I'm having a baby! Its a huge event!

Arg!
Sorry about the rant, its just so irritating. Is anyone else having this problem?

[cymbeline]

Yup--this is the 3rd grandchild for both my mom and MIL, yet they seem to think THIS TIME we're not going to call them. WTF?!?!?

I have been answering the phone: "I haven't had the baby yet!"

But I think I am going to just say hello, and when they ask, I will say, "Oh yeah, I forgot to tell you..." *snark!* :

[RosesToys]

Well I'm not getting grief about this yet, since I'm not due til the end of November, but last time you wouldn't believe the hassles we got. My dd was born at 4:23 am. I bled a lot after the birth and my placenta did not detach completely, so the OB worked on me for at least an hour, maybe more before finishing. Then we were told that they would transfer us to the postpartum side of the L&D ward, so we didn't bother to make a phone call when we thought we might get interrupted in the middle of the call. Then dh and I were so darn tired we both took a nap!

We called our parents around 9 or 10 am. And they were so irritated that we didn't call them sooner. They said that they were so worried! : Whatever! I went into labor at 4:30 pm the day before and only went to the hospital around 9 or 10 pm, so it could have been a lot longer before she was born! What difference does it make anyway when we tell them? My MIL was staying at our house, but didn't have a car to come into the hospital to see us so she had to wait until dh came home to get her. And my parents live halfway across the country, so they weren't coming to see dd for 3 weeks or so.

[Paddington]

: YES and it is driving me nuts! I've gotten phone calls from people at work, friends, text messages asking if the gemini was here yet, my sister--who is going to watch my ds when I go into labor has even called. What the heck? If you think YOU all are anxious imagine how I feel!!! When the babe comes, I WILL CALL YOU! :

[earthmama369]

I got called into work last week and skipped going to playgroup. A friend told everyone there I must be having my baby! All week long I've been running into people who are so surprised that I'm still pregnant. :

[earthmama369]

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Double post, sorry.

[MidwifeErika]

Oh, this is soooooo annoying. And now I am even more annoyed because my MIL isn't just asking if we have had the baby yet (hello? I am still not even due for a week yet! and I might go over!), but keeps asking what signs I have had of labor coming.... am I nesting, what my cervix is doing, if I am having any ctx, if the baby has dropped, etc, etc, etc. Like she is going to take that info and know exactly when the baby is going to come. My husband learned from our last baby though when he made the mistake of telling her that I had a few bouts of "false labor" and that comment led to DAILY phonecalls from her until the baby was born (several weeks later) and if we didn't answer our phone, then she would desperately call our cell numbers over and over and over again.... until my husband pointed out that doing that would ensure that if I was in labor, I would be so p*ssed off at her constant calls during the labor that we wouldn't call her back So, this time around he just tells her nope too all her questions about signs that baby might be coming. Course, then she let us know that she was getting anxious and that we should hurry up.... yeah, I will get right on that because we aren't anxious or anything.... I love having to get up 15 times a night to pee and take papaya enzyme for my constant heartburn

I also really hate now when I call anyone how you can hear the anticipation in their voices, like each phone call from me will be the one announcing the baby. I do appreciate how excited people are, but at the same time, I hate hearing their disappointment when they realize that this isn't THAT phonecall.

[chiromama]

My 'due date' is in two days, and this is just now starting. It's not annoying me yet tho.I don't answer the phone if I dont' want to. I told my MIL, that we'd call her no matter what once labor was in earnesst, and my parents thankfully haven't called once (other than for regular thing) cause they know we'll tell them. Of course, my poor MIL is getting harassed at work non stop about if her (first) grandbaby is here yet. I told her to go on vacation. I dont' know why, but for some reason, everyone seems to think this baby was going to come early, even though statistcally first timers go 10 days late. Everyone who bugs me I tell them to talk to me in a week.

[eco_mama]

I getting sick and tired of hearing my dh say to everyone who calls, "nope, still no baby" or "still waiting" or "still having cntx, but no baby yet" and so on and so on. My mom is starting to call me constantly. I just don't wanna talk to anyone anymore unless it's to say that the baby has arrived. I'm already frustrated as it is and having to talk about how I've been feeling etc is just making it worse.

[Mama2 '05'06]

My MIL was calling the delivery room when the babies-my B&SIL's and ours- were being born. She didn't understand why no body answered- my dh or why BIL hung up on her! With a baby making its entrance, we didn't need the distraction. She was upset that it took so long to let her know. I think she's just over dramatic about it. She's already reminding us to call ASAP and I've still got at least 7 weeks to go.

[mochimama]

We got 4 calls tonight about this!!! Including FIL! I had no idea this would be happening. My sister lives in Germany and she apparently has called my mother every day this week to see if I had the baby. My mom is too technologically challenged to figure out how to call Germany when the baby comes, so my sister is going to keep calling and checking up.