Originally Posted by prettypaws
I haven't watched the video,no interest in seeing another one. But sometimes medicine isn't "nice" or "gentle". When a life is on the line, what may look like unnecessary roughness or yanking is just the docoter needing to get to something NOW. Frankly, I think some people are a little too obsessed with the birth experience. Yes, it would be nice if everyone had a wonderful,peaceful,gentle birthing story. In the long run,though,if I were faced with a doc chit chatting or getting the baby out and me stitched up, I'll take the quickie,thanks.
See he was still chit chatting but just not to the mother. Yes it was a video for education but i would hope he would want to show a more personal touch. I guess no matter what i am doing in a job i still try to treat the other person with respect. It is just as easy to say "molly here comes your babys feet." as it is to say "now its feet are being delivered"
And i dont feel "obsessed" with the experience but i think it is sad that things could be better and should be better but no one really cares. This is the first feeling this little person gets. Being yanked on and put on a scale then scrubbed, tubes shoved down her throat, poked, blood drawn, burning crap put into her eyes. And i dont ind it acceptable when people circ and say "well they are little they wont remember anymore than i think it is okay to be really rough with a newborn because "hey they wont remember"
This is their FIRST experience out of the womb. I dont spank my dd because she wont remember. I treat her with repect. I have friends who have dementia and alzheimers and dont remember a thing. I could be really mean to them too because WHO CARES they wont remember. No i treat them with gentleness becasue that is how life desrves to be treated. I think all life is sacred and i dont think mistreatment is EVER okay.
I do feel it was nicer for my friend who recently had a baby. She was in the water and pushed her sons head out. They waited for "the longest 45 seconds in her life" and then she pushed again and the rest of the baby came out into the water. She picked him up and held him. That seems alot nicer to me - no yanking pulling yelling etc. Unfortunately we cannot all have that exerience but i think we should try for gentleness in ANY situation when it is possible.
this video was of a scheduled cs.
During this video the baby is squaling and freaked out and the dr says "she seems to be happy about her birthday today" ??
For the person who wanted to know more about my dd. I cannot give much detail as the hosp is STILL facing trouble because of all the mismanagement form mine and my dds "care" there. But according to the top neurologist in my state dd was damaged by the head yanking. He yanked on her head back and forth in a whipping motion so hard i nearly fell off the table - i am not a small person. He reufsed to open any of the incisions wider to get more space instead he just kept yanking and yanking for over 10 minutes...
I cannot say more but that is a part of it.
My dd was hurt, i was hurt. But we are both alive. Would i do it again if i HAD to - YES! Will i be happy about it? NO!
I dont think ANYONE has to be happy about it. I dont begrudge the person who had a cs and a healthy child if they are sad about the cs. To me the MOTHER matters too. I want a healthy mother and healthy baby.
It was the worst thing i have ever seen. I dont work in a hosp, or on roadside accidents. I dont see stuff like that everyday and it was shocking to see how it really is. I was horrified and i was sad for the baby. Does that mean i HATE moms who are happy about thier cs? no. I think we each have a RIGHT to our feelings and i felt horrified and scared and sick watching it.
If a mom who has a quick waterbirth is sad becasue it was too quick to really get into it i respect thse feelings too. Would i have killed for her birth - yes. But to her it was not nice and was scary and i have no right to try and guilt her because she "should be grateful". You can always find someone who is better off or worse off than you. Anyhow, i hope i have given enough info to be raked over the coals again...this is totally exfoliating.