Originally Posted by HoosierDiaperinMama
I soooo hear ya, mama. I have had to bite my tongue many times here and IRL when I read about mourning a birth b/c it didn't go the way the mama planned. How about the mamas who are mourning b/c their babe is dead? It takes a lot of restraint not to completely lash out.
You know, one would think that people would consider their audience when talking about something that is bothering them. It just seems so.....well, obvious.
It happens in all areas of life, and it amazes me. I mean, it's one thing if you've lost a child and you are lurking around on birth story boards where people are trying to process a difficult birth. But these conversations IRL where moms are complaining about their 'less than perfect' births to another mom who JUST lost her baby during birth? That is SO not appropriate.
I am currently pg with #4, a complete surprise that we were not absolutely thrilled about and are still working through the idea of adding a new baby to the family. We obviously will love this baby, of that I have no doubt. And I *am* getting more excited as the weeks pass (I am now 12+ weeks).
Anyhow, there are two girls on another board I post on that were due within a week of me, both dearly wanted to be pg. Both miscarried recently, and it just seems so unfair, ya know? I cannot *imagine* posting things knowing they will see the posts about how tiresome the all day sickness is or how we are still struggling some days to come to terms with the huge change our family is about to experience. That would be incredibly insensitive IMO, even though my feelings are perfectly valid and it is OK for me to feel this way.
It seems like it shouldn't take a genius to figure out there are times where it's just not appropriate to complain, whine, whatever over a situation when the person you are complaining to would dearly LOVE to take your place.