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Poll Results: Did you get your "dream" birth?

 
  • 49% (91)
    Yes- everything went exactly as I had hoped
  • 38% (70)
    No- things did not go as I had planned/hoped
  • 12% (23)
    Other
184 Total Votes  
post #21 of 62
My first homebirth, third birth, was so perfect it was better than I'd ever imagined.
post #22 of 62
Ds's birth was everything I'd hoped for and more. I unknowingly did most of my labor at home, I had my waterbirth in a beautiful FSBC with 2 great midwives and a great nurse, ds was beautiful and latched on immediately. It was the greatest thing in the world and I'd do it again in a heartbeat.
post #23 of 62
My first 2 births were absolutely wonderful MW assisted homebirths.

3rd birth was a beautiful UC followed by a hospital transfer nightmare. Just looking at the birth part, my UC was by far my most pleasant birth, but the whole experience was better the first 2 times.

I voted "other" because none of the births went *exactly* as I had planned or hoped.
post #24 of 62
It went about as well as I expected, but nowhere near what I would call a dream birth. I had my daughter in the hospital because I couldn't afford a midwife, and I was completely ignorant about UCs at the time(had never heard of them). Everything went perfectly, with the exception of everything that was simply related to the fact that I was in the hospital(although it did go VERY well considering the fact that I was there).
Also, the people present didn't make up my dream birth team. One of my closest friends lives 5 hours away, and I had a falling out with another close friend a few weeks prior to giving birth, so it was disappointing that the two of them weren't present. My doula and another close friend were there and were awesome, and my mom and sister were also there, but I'm not close with either of them so that was a little awkward. Although it was pretty cool to give birth with help from all females- the girl-power energy in the room was fabulous.
I would consider my dream birth one at home and in water, with the child's father and my doula(and possibly a couple friends) present. Next time!
post #25 of 62
Definitely no... all 3 c-sections, not what I wanted. My last one really gets to me as I deperately wanted a vba2c. I'm still hoping for a "dream" birth with my 4th... that is if there ever is a 4th
post #26 of 62
mine was so different than i had imagined, but it was amazing anyway.
post #27 of 62
At the time I was pretty happy just to have stayed unmedicated considering the circumstances (giving birth in a hospital in Croatia, where non-hospital birth is illegal, and birth attitudes/practices are backwards, to say the least : ).
Labour was about 8 hrs but very difficult, probably because it was spent (ALONE! and afraid - not even husband allowed until pushing stage!) entirely in hospital - my waters broke first and I believed the people who said that I had to get there straight away.
Next time though I'm definitely going back to New Zealand for a home-birth - a long way I know, but worth it!
post #28 of 62
I voted No. I wanted a natural birth, but I was not prepared for prodromal labor or a labor where the pain was still a 9 between contractions so essentially I wasn't getting much of a break between contractions. So I ended up with an epidural and an episiotomy and vacuum suction... Not at all what I had in mind.
post #29 of 62


Both were good experiences.

With #1 i made it to 5cm by staying at home for a while, but got to the hosp and caved got a epidural. my daughter was 7lbs 13oz 20" no tearing i had a midwife.

With #2 i wanted all natural and to avoid a epidural so i hired a doula it was so great, i was even talking on the phone at 8cm through strong contractions. he was my big baby at 8lbs 14oz 22" i also ended up with a midwife and no tearing.

post #30 of 62
I voted 'other' because I have given birth four times.

One of those births was a "Dream Birth" The other three were learning experiences.

#1 72hours/posterior baby/born on hands and knees in the hospital with an Ob
#2 28hours/castor oil induction at 43wks/born in my living room on a deBy birth stool
#3 9hours of EASY labor/waterbirth/ DREAM BIRTH midwife walked in as the baby crowned, birth was etherial
#4 3hour labor/VIOLENT contractions left me feeling like I'd been run over by a freight train
post #31 of 62
I got my dream birth - a healthy baby came into my life. That is all I expected and wanted and the rest, well it produced a healthy baby so I don't care about the rest.
post #32 of 62
I haven't yet figured out how to vote. Both of my births basically went as planned - I had two lovely homebirths. I would not, however, call either of them my "dream" birth. There are things I would change about both. I don't really believe that I could achieve a picture perfect birth and that the expectation to do so is a bit ludicrous. Just mho.
post #33 of 62
I chose other. I had a successful home waterbirth with my twins, so in that aspect it went how I had hoped. It was longer than I expected, I tore, and the in laws barged in much sooner than I had wanted. So not everything went exactly how I wanted. But overall it was good.

My first labor was wonderful until I got to the hospital.
post #34 of 62
I vote Other. I had a good experience with my birth, but it was basically my second choice. I had hoped for an average length labor at home, unassisted except for my husband helping to soothe me and catch the baby. Well, labor lasted 38 hours and I went to the hospital after 30 hours of it, but they left me alone about interventions and didn't make me wear the monitoring belt (as per my birth plan), and a nice nurse rubbed my back and gently suggested ways to be more comfortable. And DH got to catch our son. So, not my first choice but it was the absolute best I could imagine in the hospital.
post #35 of 62
yes: my middle boy was born peacefully, gently and naturally; as we hoped.
i never dreamed that would actually happen in a hospital.
i would say however that i should have had a better dream.

at home would have been better.

but at the time, yes, it was my dream birth.
post #36 of 62
With my first birth I didn't have any expectations and went along with hospital protocol. I didn't know any differently. Except for an episiotomy because of distressed baby, everything was really beautiful.

With my second birth I wanted more. I had different wishes for the birth, less interventions, etc. It was in the hospital and I had an epidural as planned. I was surrounded by friends and my dh. The birth was very easy and it was fun to sit around with my friends and pass the time waiting for her to come. I pulled her out myself, no pit shot, delayed cutting of cord, etc. My wishes were respected and the whole thing was exactly as I hoped for it to be. So yes, my second birth was my dream birth.

Knowing what I do now about homebirth and natural birth under the right conditions with lots of support, if I had a third baby I probably would have done a home birth. But there won't be a third baby so I guess I'll just have to be happy with what I was given.
post #37 of 62
With Rhys it was the farthest from a dream birth as you can get and still have a healthy baby at the end.

With Niamh...even with the emergency transport because DH panicked when I started pushing and our MW was across town...it was incredibly emotionally satisfying and healed so many of the things that happened with Rhys' birth (which now has the power only to piss me off as opposed to before when it was completely devastating).

Why was Niamh's birth so satisfying? I was pushing before my MW got there...nobody poking, prodding, monitoring, checking....blah blah blah....it was amazing!!

Steph
post #38 of 62
My first birth was so horrible I was very nervous about #2. However, I got everything I wanted on my birth plan and had a relatively short 4.5 hr labor. Two weeks later and I'm still a little bit in shock about how things went so well. I think it was much more painful this time, but other than that it was perfect. Both boys were the same weight and length, both almost a week over due, both drug free labors, but the deliveries were polar opposites. #1 had shoulder dystocia and had to go to the NICU, but #2 came out easily with no tearing after 30 minutes of pushing. I felt so empowered after this one and had a recovery time of almost nothing. I feel so proud of the labor i had!
post #39 of 62
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Originally Posted by sproutbabe
At the time I was pretty happy just to have stayed unmedicated considering the circumstances (giving birth in a hospital in Croatia, where non-hospital birth is illegal, and birth attitudes/practices are backwards, to say the least : ).
Labour was about 8 hrs but very difficult, probably because it was spent (ALONE! and afraid - not even husband allowed until pushing stage!) entirely in hospital - my waters broke first and I believed the people who said that I had to get there straight away.
Next time though I'm definitely going back to New Zealand for a home-birth - a long way I know, but worth it!
That sucks they wouldn't let your husband in! I would have freaked out.

I voted no. I planned an unmedicated, midwife-assisted hospital birth. But I had the 4-day long prodromal labor as well, so by the time I reached active labor I was exhausted, dehydrated, and in SO MUCH PAIN. I got an epidural and pitocin finally.

But, it ended up being a very beautiful and peaceful birth after all the drugs.
post #40 of 62
I wanted to be able to vote multiple times for multiple births. I voted "yes" because this last time I did get the birth I wanted, finally. But I had three births before it that were not quite what I wanted (due to intrusions from other people), but only one that was *really* awful. My last three births were all very good, and like I said, my very last was just about perfect, and that deeply affected the postpartum in a very positive way. I am eternally grateful to have gotten to experience that.
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