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Poll Results: Did you get your "dream" birth?

 
  • 49% (91)
    Yes- everything went exactly as I had hoped
  • 38% (70)
    No- things did not go as I had planned/hoped
  • 12% (23)
    Other
184 Total Votes  
post #41 of 62
I voted yes. I think all of my births have been about as perfect as something which is not entirely within my control can be. There are minor details I might want differently here or there, but overall I've been completely thrilled and in love with each of my births.
post #42 of 62
Two births.
First was horrible not as I planned at all.
Second was just what I dreamed about in fact I did not evem know how perfect it really could be until it was over.
post #43 of 62
I said no
#1 was an emergency c-section after "failure to progress" I had pre-e so I was flat on my back hooked up to pit and magnesum solfate(sp) for a little over 36 hours before they decided to c-section me.
#2 was rather long but ok until my son came out, he was not breathing. They bagged him for almost 15 minutes before he would breath consistancly on his own. Then it was discovered that he had inhailed some of the maconium, so he went to the NICU for 5 days.:
post #44 of 62
As someone who has to vote "no" for both my births, I'm reassured to see that the majority so far have voted "yes." I'm soooo glad that things went smoothly for so many of you.
post #45 of 62
Neither went *exactly* as planned, but both were at home, no interventions, etc. With my first, I had no idea I would have to push for so long w/o an epidural. And it was a lot more intense than I was ready for, but I think that's most mamas... But that's about it. Everything else was awesome...

And w/ my second it went so FAST, I was in denial about it until an hour before the birth! I was expecting plenty of time to get into gear and "enjoy" it. But I did hop in the pool just in time, dh helped catch, and my mw was amazing. I also was expecting to be more into the labor trance w/ hypnobabies, but I wouldn't allow myself to let go. My thinking brain just couldn't deal w/ it!

So anyway, I checked "other" b/c they didn't go "exactly" as planned, but were both awesome!
post #46 of 62
I said yes b/c I had a healthy baby at the end of it - that's all I dared hope for. Could've done without the pre-eclampsia, but whatever... Healthy, curious, cute baby.

Had a c/s, btw.
post #47 of 62
i'm going to say other because while neither was a bad experience they were both definately learning experiences

with #1 i only read one book (what to expect...) so i didn't really know any better than to expect accept and recieve a typical hospital birth . induced (don't even really know why) epidural. they didn't even ask if i wanted an episiotomy they just did it. luckliy i did escape a section. (they did a final vaginal exam just to be sure ... wheww!)

with #2 i did lots of reading, had a great childbirth educator, used a midwife. stayed my butt at home until contractions were intense, regular and well established. had only family i WANTED there. actually had a birth plan! and except for the episiotomy (and she did ask ) didn't have any major interventions. BUT there was more procedure tahn i really wanted (fetal monitoring, vaginal exams, lots of pressure to get the hep-b vax: )

next time im going to a fsbc for a water birth or just having a home birth.
post #48 of 62
Not at all. Posterior baby and back labor, unimaginable pain, puking my guts out, an epidural that was wonderful until they turned it down "so I could feel to push," three hours of pushing that didn't get anywhere, and finally a C-section in which three doctors tugged at my abdomen for 20 minutes and eventually used vacuum extraction to pull him back out of the birth canal. After that, there were about 4 weeks where I couldn't sit up or walk normally and another 12 weeks before I felt close to OK.
post #49 of 62
Well...I didn't puke, poop, need pain meds, or say anything embarrassing, baby came out perfect, labor was short for a first time. So I'd say that's pretty close to perfect.

If I could change anything, I would have said no to the pitocin that I had agreed to to "get it over with". That made things much more painful than they needed to be (I didn't know better at the time).

A "dream" birth for me would be zero pain (and still zero meds) plus nothing icky happening like pooping or throwing up, and I just doubt that's going to happen anytime soon. It wouldn't really be "labor" if it did work out that way, would it. But I'm due in 9 weeks and will be having a homebirth, so we'll see how this one goes.
post #50 of 62
My first birth was a disaster. I had planned and prepared and ended up with no support during the birth and it went badly. It still hurts to talk about, so I don't usually.

My second birth was SO much better. My son was born at the hospital, but we had an amazing doula and it was an unmedicated birth. Dh got the tub water too cold, so when I got in to labor I started shivering and got right back out. I had planned a water birth, and the hospital staff were frantically running around the hospital (labor was going FAST) looking for the birthing tub since they didn't know where it was! LOL. I said to forget the water birth, I didn't want to get back into the water! I am so glad that the birth was unmedicated because my son got stuck coming out, and I know that if I had been lying flat on my back, unable to move, I would have ended up with interventions and possibly a c/s. The birth was great. We still got pushed around after the birth which is why I will never go back to a hospital to birth unless absolutely necessary.

My third birth was definitely my dream birth. Honestly, I didn't have specific expectations about the birth (length of labor, things I would do, etc.). My dream was that my child would be born peacefully at home and put into my arms for me to mother her. That's what happened. It was beautiful. Unfortunately, she had meconium staining when my water broke, but the way the midwives handled it was so gentle and respectful. It was an amazing experience - one I hope to repeat in a few weeks!
post #51 of 62
an acynclitic baby and a c-section - not what I'd planned, but there were some wonderful moments in there too. I went into labor naturally and got to fully dilated without pain meds and I got to hold my dd in the OR. My baby on my chest....ahhh.
post #52 of 62
I could have answered "all of the above" .

1st birth ~ NIGHTMARE! 40 hours of induced labor ending in c-section
2nd birth ~ very nice home labor, hospital delivery VBAC, but I could have done without the fetal monitoring, hep lock, and constant badgering by the anesthesiologist who just didn't "get" that I didn't want an epidural.
3rd birth ~ awesome, perfect, better than I ever imagined HBAC .
post #53 of 62
#1 was almost perfect (mostly natural)
#2 was not perfect, but went exactly as I expected (induced)
#3 was as imperfect as it comes almost, went from natural to epi and pitocin to an almost dead baby

I'm shooting for a birth like #1 I was 16 then though, 27 now. Hopefully my body can do it

I voted for my 3rd birth, so "no".
post #54 of 62
First was 44 hours hard labour, very exahusting, very emotional, but it was a wonderful amazing experience. I'm so glad I went with midwife/home/center route the first time.

Second was barely two hours of barely painful labour from first hard contraction to crowning and while that part was fine, the "emergency" c-section experience was a nightmare.
post #55 of 62
I never made a birth plan for either one of my labors. I figured there wasn't much that I could control labor-wise and since I was going to be in supportive, maternal health friendly environments (freestanding birth center and then homebirth) I didn't really need one.

For my first birth - it wasn't perfect, but it was a decent first birth. No drugs, 9lb 4 oz baby. I could have done without my water being broken, but I consented to it, so its not like it was a forced thing. The biggest problem was fear. I was very very afraid and I think that's just normal for first time moms.

Second birth - Homebirth, posterior, 9 lbs., no tears only some minor bruising. I wasn't afraid. Even though the pain was horrible at times I would call it an ecstatic birth. My Dh caught, and Ds was born in the caul. Perfect birth.
post #56 of 62
I voted 'yes' because I did get my dream birth, but the 'everything went as I hoped' part isn't exactly true. Everything went the opposite that I had hoped. I had fully expected on walking into the hospital, getting my epidural, sleeping for a few hours, then push out my child.

What REALLY happened was that the anesthesiologist was off doing emergency surgery, I dialated from 6 to 10 in an hour, and had a mostly unmedicated birth (except for a few puffs from a nitrous oxide mask they brought in)

This time around, I still wanted my epidural, but my goal was to deal with the pain as long as possible, labour in better positions, NOT TEAR... well, still didn't get the epidural, same reasons as last time. I laboured great on the birthing ball. The nurse kept commenting at how well I was coping. (I'm not a 'screamer' I'm a silent breather) My son was born after six hours of labour, exactly two pushes, and no tearing.

Soooo... while I didn't get the births that I THOUGHT I wanted, when I look back, I'm proud of myself for what I did accomplish.

My third child will be birthed without the illusion of an epidural at all.

(For the record, my hospital is not mainstream at ALL... babies room in. I don't think they even have a nursery. Episiotomies and IV's are not routinely given, you can labour where you want. They encourage you to get out of bed unless you've opted for the epidural. They have lactation consultants on staff that you can buzz at any time, and all the nurses make sure the baby is nursing properly. All the information pamphlets are geared towards breastfeeding)
post #57 of 62
I didnt know what to answer cause NO things did NOT go as expected at all. They went way better than I had even dared to hope for.
My first birth was LOOOONG and nothing like I had hoped for - so the second time around i expected another loong labor. I hoped for a homebirth, no meds, no intervention.
I had my homebirth - it was a 90 minute rocket-speed birth. No meds, no intervention AT ALL - not even an internal check, no tearing and no giving up or feeling like I wanted to quit.
So yes I guess you could say I got the birth of my dreams.
Was I happy? Ofcourse not - well mostly I was very relieved and happy - but it was not all violets and roses. I thought it had gone way too fast. I was in shock and couldnt believe it was already over. I had problems bonding with my daughter because it had all been such a tornado-experience and she didnt really feel like mine at first.

I doubt there is such a thing as the perfect birth.. though ofcourse you can get pretty darn close
post #58 of 62
I wish there were some way to vote for more than one type of birth. I had two c-sections for my first three kids (one was for twins), which were NIGHTMARE births, but then I finally got my homebirth for the fourth baby. THAT was my dream birth! So, yes, I feel like I did get my dream birth and maybe it wouldn't have been SUCH a dream if I hadn't had the nightmares first. I am glad that I'm done birthing, though!
post #59 of 62
The birth of Mara was every bit as wonderful as I dared to hope.

Of course, my expectations were different at the end than at the beginning. I started out thinking I'd have an epidural in the hospital. I never thought I would have chaged my mind and ended up at the end calmly giving birth at home, fully confident and at peace!!!!
post #60 of 62
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Originally Posted by amityfree
I voted 'yes' because I did get my dream birth, but the 'everything went as I hoped' part isn't exactly true. Everything went the opposite that I had hoped. I had fully expected on walking into the hospital, getting my epidural, sleeping for a few hours, then push out my child.

What REALLY happened was that the anesthesiologist was off doing emergency surgery, I dialated from 6 to 10 in an hour, and had a mostly unmedicated birth (except for a few puffs from a nitrous oxide mask they brought in)

This time around, I still wanted my epidural, but my goal was to deal with the pain as long as possible, labour in better positions, NOT TEAR... well, still didn't get the epidural, same reasons as last time. I laboured great on the birthing ball. The nurse kept commenting at how well I was coping. (I'm not a 'screamer' I'm a silent breather) My son was born after six hours of labour, exactly two pushes, and no tearing.

Soooo... while I didn't get the births that I THOUGHT I wanted, when I look back, I'm proud of myself for what I did accomplish.

My third child will be birthed without the illusion of an epidural at all.

(For the record, my hospital is not mainstream at ALL... babies room in. I don't think they even have a nursery. Episiotomies and IV's are not routinely given, you can labour where you want. They encourage you to get out of bed unless you've opted for the epidural. They have lactation consultants on staff that you can buzz at any time, and all the nurses make sure the baby is nursing properly. All the information pamphlets are geared towards breastfeeding)
WOW! Where do you live????
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