I'm Hugely Preggo--Show Me Some Respect, Dang it!

[augustmom]

Am I the only one who experiences rude people while out shopping, etc. For example, I was at Whole Foods today waiting in the meat line with my 2.5 year old, and some woman looked at me annoyingly when I was trying to place my meat order as if to say "hurry it up, lady." There have also been times when people just don't give a crap that I'm hugely pg, they'll make me wait in line, rather than just say, "you know what, feel free to go ahead of me." Oh and last week while I was at Linens and Things, I had the following dialogue with some lady when she tried to cut me in line:

Me: "the line actually starts behind me."
Rude lady: "well, I was here earlier and now I'm returning something, but I guess you can "cut" me in line."
Me: "um, I don't think I'm cutting you in line, but ok, I'd be glad to go next."
Rude lady to cashier: "gee, I didn't think there were 2 lines for 2 cashiers. After all, I was here earlier."
Me: "oh well, that's just how it goes."
Rude lady was miffed.

NOW, this being said, I'm not looking for special treatment, I'm just looking for a little understanding, kwim? B

[luv2bmommie]

I hear what you are saying. The one that has been bugging me the most is when someone can't get the door for me, when they can see I am clearly preggo and usually toting my toddler too. Geesh

Mama to Alexis 8/1/03 and expecting baby Dylan 6/22/06

[chiromama]

I actually had a complete stranger stare at me, then ask me how dilated I was. Um... can you please get the out of my cooter?
ugh. I hate people.

[BelgianSheepDog]

Oh yeah, I know what you're talking about. Public transit is such a joy right now, in particular. And the staring...ARGH!!! I AM SO SICK OF THE STARING! Yes, I'm pregnant! Yes, I look fairly young, probably considerably younger than I really am! No I'm not wearing a ring! Yes I move slow! Yes I waddle! Yes I'm due any minute! No, it's STILL not polite for you to stare at me with your mouth open and drool pooling at your feet! For crying out loud!!!!

/rant

[earthmama369]

I don't think anyone can get it right for me, which I know is just . . . me right now, being hugely pregnant and irritable.

I get P.O.'d when someone drives like an idiot anywhere even vaguely near dd and I, when I get cut in line, when an obviously not pregnant or baby-carrying person parks in the preggos & babies parking spot at the grocery store, when I get looks for not moving as fast as people want me to. I just want a little slack, a little common courtesy.

But then I turn around and get P.O.'d with all the mother-henning. My cousin freaked out and pretty much forced me into a chair today when I sat on the ground to play with her son and dd. Strangers scold me for still going to work or taking long walks around the block with dd. My grandmother heard I'm walking around 3 cm dilated and wanted me to go right to bed -- like that's going to help get this baby born any faster! Staying (reasonably) active is the best thing I can do to tell ds that I'm ready for him to be born!

Aargh.

[papayapetunia]

I get pissed when I'm waiting to cross the street and people don't slow down and stop for me. What, you have to be somewhere so important that you can't stop for a pregnant chick? Are you a doctor and you just got paged to the ER to perform emergency surgery? Are you Batman and you have to get to a crime that is being committed? No, you're not. So learn how to use the brakes on your SUV and let me cross, damnit!

[augustmom]

Originally Posted by papayapetunia

I get pissed when I'm waiting to cross the street and people don't slow down and stop for me. What, you have to be somewhere so important that you can't stop for a pregnant chick? Are you a doctor and you just got paged to the ER to perform emergency surgery? Are you Batman and you have to get to a crime that is being committed? No, you're not. So learn how to use the brakes on your SUV and let me cross, damnit!

This has also happened to me, too and usually with dd in tow. Worse part is is that there is no J-walking involved. It's crossing at pedestrian designated crosswalks. Egads!

[PrairieBohemian]

I can't believe how HOSTILE I feel towards people right now. My personal space bubble has quadrupled! In my first pregnancy I seem to remember getting all that respect that somehow is gone now that I travel with a toddler and need it now more than ever!

Public transit is the worst. Maybe Canadians just don't have the experience with it that other countries do. When I was pregnant with ds in Ukraine, OLD LADIES were jumping off the seats to let me sit down and I was under 6 months pregnant. Now teenagers just sit in the handicap seats and stare at me. Seriously, the other day I got on the bus and there was nowhere to sit so I STOOD holding my very heavy 2 year old in my arms. I opt not to use a stroller but the interesting thing is, as soon as people see a stroller, they clear out like the plague is boarding!

I guess its my fault for not saying "excuse me, can you get your lazy teenage a** off this seat and give it to someone who NEEDS it?" . I don't know why I don't say anything. Maybe I am just too bloody disgusted with them and would rather martyr myself.

Oh I hate people right now!

[chinacat]

ugh don't even get me started on public transit!!!!! I got ont he bus the other day with 3 big bags of groceries my 2 year old and my 5 year old. The bus was packed and there was one seat left. A teenager who was siting beside that seat got up so my boys could sit down. (refreshing!) The middle aged woman sitting beside my boys looked at me and all my stuff and continued reading her book. NO-ONE offered me a seat!!! I'mm like 9 months pregnant with loads of bags and not one of the people sitting around me offerd to let me sit down. Then this little old lady who is sitting at the back of bus yells "would you like my seat??" So sweet, but i wasn't about to make her stand on the bus ride so i declined...still not one young person did anythjing...GRRRRRRRR Oh and i forgot to mention that it was like 40*c out!!! People bug me

[JZDmama]

What irritates me is that I get these pairs of ladies staring at me, whispering then one of them will ask when I am due. When I say in a few days, they are like "yeah we could tell you are ready to go at any time". I think I will start saying I am due in September just to give them something else to whisper about!

[*guest]

Ha, someone offered me a seat on the train the other day, and I politely said no thanks because I was very comfortable standing (i.e. it's better than getting up out of a low seat with relaxin-induced creaky knees), and I think I offended HER. What, I smiled and everything! I think if anyone gave me serious hassle at this point I'd threaten to eat them.

[BelgianSheepDog]

Chinacat, we have those mopey dudes on the bus here, too. Sitting there with their legs sprawled and their skateboard balanced on one knee and a glower/sulk. In the handicapped seats. While old people stand right in front of them. I've actually spoken to them a couple times, the funny thing is, I didn't even get attitude back. They were just SO self-absorbed they didn't even notice how rude they were being.

Speaking of threatening to eat someone, though, I am getting over yet another cold (my sinuses are really aggravated by pregnancy, I think) and was sitting outside a Starbucks drinking my ice water and trying to stop coughing before walking home the other day...and some old dude comes up and shoots me a glare, lights a cigarrette, and plops down in the seat right across from me. I considered biting his head off, but then I decided I needed to save my energy to waddle away before I REALLY started wheezing.

[NCjen]

i was walking to the beach today along the side of the road(very common in a beach town, the streets are not very busy...) with a baby stroller and being 9 months pregnant and a girl sped by me and told me to get on the f'ing sidewalk.. i have never been so mad! if i hadn't had my baby i think i would have gone back and started a fight!