Originally Posted by wifeandmom
Obviously you have to decide what you feel is best for you overall, and you know yourself better than anyone else. I would point out that there are several other options besides staples though. The thought of staples really freaked me out for some silly reason, so I specifically asked for something...anything...else.
The first time I was sewn up til the last layer then had steri-strips. I thought those worked well. But then with my second they sewed me up til the last layer and then used this glue stuff for the last layer. Now THAT was nice and it's what I'll ask for this time too. My incision looks better now than it did after my first section...not that you can actually SEE it without lifting the belly fat...but that's not the point.
Staples don't really bother me. I'd rather have staples, if that's what the surgeon's used to, than be sewn up by someone who isn't used to doing it. My point is that the drugs they gave me masked signals from my body. Those signals were trying to tell me something, and I couldn't hear it.
I've heard conflicting reports about the glue. Some people love it, but someone hear had a really bad allergic reaction to it, and someone else had it just...fail on part of her incision. Yuck.
|This was my attitude as well. Come hell or high water, my babies were GOING to nurse. I can only imagine that signifcant pain would make it harder to nurse, if for no other reason than having a baby lying across your belly that is throbbing must be terribly difficult. I know they say that's what the football hold is for, and after a few weeks, I had that down pat, but at first, it was much easier for me to get them to latch on correctly in the typical baby in mom's arms across her middle type position.
I found the football hold absolutely impossible. I never even tried it with dd or ds2, because it just plain didn't work for me. Side-lying was awful, as well. The only one that worked was holding the baby on my belly, which is what everyone thinks would be terrible.
|Benadryl is your friend! Literally one dose will stop the itching and it's unlikely that you'd need more. It's not a matter of itch/no pain OR no itch/pain. You really CAN have both, and from everything L&D nurses have ever told me, if you can avoid significant pain in those first 24-48 hours, your overall recovery will almost always be much, much, much easier.
Doesn't Benadryl dry up breastmilk? I've been warned off that kind of drug more than once as a breastfeeding mom. I certainly wouldn't have wanted to take a chance like that with dd, as I was having a lot of trouble getting my supply established, anyway. Pain relief just isn't that big an issue for me. I don't want the surgery in the first place...how much it hurts isn't really the point...the damage
is the point.
|Aside from the fact that I just don't care to be in agony if it can be avoided, I truly feel like it's important to take care of YOUR body as well as possible so you can give 100% to your baby. If I'd been doubled over unable to care for my twins at 4 days post-op, I truly do not know what we would have done. DH didn't have a choice but to return to work and the closest family we had was over 600 miles away.
If I were doubled over, I'd just do my best. I got stuck on my couch at 6 days post-op, unable to get up. Fortunately, I had him in my lap to nurse, so it was a diaper change, not a feeding, that was delayed. It had nothing to do with pain, though. I simply couldn't stand up. We were stuck there for almost 30 minutes. Pain wasn't relevant. What was relevant was that I'd had surgery, and could not
stand up. I can't give 100% post-op, because I'm not 100%...and it's not about pain. I don't see pain management as taking care of my body. Taking care of my body is about healing
the damage that's been done - not about masking it under drugs, so that I do more than I should.
pain medication...absolutely hate it. You're talking to someone who gets dental caries filled without freezing, because I'd far rather be in pain than have my mouth frozen. The drugs suck worse than the pain does.