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post #21 of 24
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Originally Posted by A&A
I hate to disagree with you (especially since I think you're cool), but I'm going to. A lot of kids (boys, especially, but sometimes girls too) will get HYPER when they are tired. They will not sleep. They will not sense that they are tired. They will act like they have ADHD on caffeine. I read about it in The Minds of Boys, and it makes perfect sense.
yup... same thing here with our dd. our ds is only 5 weeks, so it remains to be seen what he will do, but dd just amps right up. we have a routine, we started it ages ago and it has gone from working like a charm to being diffficult. when it chages, we get frustrated and then just adjust our expectations. right now we just lay down iwth her until she falls asleep and then get up (usually, though if its' dh, he often falls asleep and stays there since he sleeps with her in her bed and i sleep with the baby in our bed cause he's a loud sleeper!!) but, when we go to bed and she is into playing, we tell her to stay in bed and we'll check on her every 5 minutes or so until she's ready. often this means a 1/2 hour or so of gonig back and forth, but at least we aren't frustrated in there trying to get her to calm down adn we alternate going in and once she gets it she just plays around, singing our whatever and then tells us she's ready for us to stay in there. she doesnt' nap and knows when she's tired.
post #22 of 24
I'm probably not the best one to help with this since we don't cosleep. Partly for the reason you are having trouble with and partly because my son hasn't slept well with anyone else since he was about 9 months old. He can't fall asleep with some else present (seems to be too much stimulation even if I try to be quiet and not move).

But with that in mind, some ?'s occur to me. How long does it take them to fall asleep with you there? Can you get up after they are asleep? What time are they settling down to go to sleep? If it is late, could they go down earlier? I think having your older child help with some ideas would be worth trying.
post #23 of 24
I lay down with DS until he is asleep...it can take up 2 hours.

The other alternative is for him to CIO and I will not do that.

So, I have forgone ALOT of personal time for myself in the evenings.
post #24 of 24
Oh, after he is asleep then I get downtime...anywhere from 9pm-1am and I get up for work the next day at 6am...no wonder I stay tired....
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