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post #1 of 16
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For me it was a question.....

Do you enjoy it?

I was at church one sunday. Ds was about 3 weeks old. I was at the point in our nursing relationship that I felt like the milk truck. That is all I was and all I was ever going to be. My newborn spent 20 of 24 hours a day latched on to myleft breast. This was something I felt like I "had" to do. I knew that I wanted to. We couldn't afford formula and I liked the idea of breastfeeding. I was asked this question and I went home and thought about it for days. Why was I putting myself through this? My milk had come in 4 days late. I was tired. I was sore. But for some odd reason I couldn't imagine NOT doing it. I started taking extra time to watch ds. I took time to play with his hands as he folded them and rubbed them together as he nursed. I played with his overabundance of hair. I traced his nose and ears over and over again. I played with his feet and counted his toes. I learned that I loved breastfeeding. It was a challenge and I even told dh I didn't want to do it anymore. But I am so glad I stuck with it. it is the most fulfilling thing I've ever done!

What is the best thing anyone ever said to you??
post #2 of 16
honestly, i think it was my dh who said "I can't believe how great it is to watch you and dd nurse"

makes it worth it to have a supportive dh!
post #3 of 16
My husband wasn't super supportive of the idea when I was PG with our first. So the most important and best thing I've heard is him telling OTHER people how good breastfeeding is for babies.

One person at a time, you know? What nursing moms do...it does make a difference.

(we're still working on his comfort level with NIP, though. LOL Baby steps, baby steps.)
post #4 of 16
My SIL told me I could successfully pump and work...for at least a year. That really changed my outlook on pumping! Now ds is 8 mo. and we're still going strong.
post #5 of 16
Actually I read this but it has meant the most, " Breastfeeding is a confidence game". I read it in one of Dr. Sears's books. Everytime I'm questioned by someone else or second guess myself I remember this.

It has been 13 months and not without a few nursing strikes, bites, and hospitalizations and we're still bf and doing great.

I love bf and can't imagine parenting without it!
post #6 of 16
My dh says that breastfeeding is beautiful!!!
post #7 of 16
DH said "I guess you could call me a breastfeeding convert".
It meant the world to me!

He assumed we would be feeding our babies formula as he had been as a baby and how his brother is doing with his kids.

post #8 of 16
I had a lot of problems with dd in the beginning. I had a c-section, so we had big nipple confusion, and latching problems. I was in pain for about 6 weeks before we both figured out how to get her on properly On top of that, she had slow weight gain (even though she started at 10lb 6oz!), with a very breastfeeding ignorant pediatrician.

At one of the weekly weigh-ins he was subjecting us to (she was about 5 weeks old at the time), he told me I had to feed her a bottle of formula in the office, so he could make sure she was getting some calories. This was the most destructive comment he could have made to me. I was distraught. I thought I was failing, and here was this very stern authority figure telling me that I was starving my baby! I was concerned that he would call the DCFS or the cops if I didn't comply. So, against my better judgement, I did, and never went back to that dr. again.

Needless to say I was very upset about the situation. I didn't know why she wasn't gaining weight, I had just been bullied into doing something I felt adamant about not doing, and felt like it was all my fault. My aunt called me to give me some reassurance. I told her what happened at the dr.'s office and all my doubts. She never nursed her children, and I didn't expect a whole lot of sympathy over it. Much to my surprise, though she told me very forcefully, "Rebecca, NOBODY loves that baby more than you do. You just keep doing what you think is right and trust your instincts." I'm getting teary now just thinking about all the emotions of that day. It was exactly the boost to my self-confidence I needed.

So, the worst thing said was followed by the best thing! It's two years later, and we're still nursing, and she is in the 50th percentile for weight.
post #9 of 16
Every time I wanted to quit with dd#1 my dh (and I do mean dear) would say, no you don't. It's important to you and you can't quit in frustration. (Finally diagnosed with ppd at 4mo pp-but that's another story).

Also, when we had a trip with all the women in my family to shop about 5 hours away and my mom commented that it was so nice and convienent that I was bfing. no bottles to drag along and heat up.

It all worked. Dd#1 never had formula, and dd#2 hasn't yet (and hopefully won't).
post #10 of 16
"You're still breastfeeding??"

Everytime someone asks me this it reminds me I'm doing something right
post #11 of 16
When I was 5 months into my struggle with low supply, I put myself through "relactation bootcamp" at fourfriends.com, as a last ditch effort to build my supply. I'm not sure it built my supply, but the advice that "nursing is good for comfort too," was, I'm embarassed to admit here, a revelation for me.

I thought breastfeeding was all about supplying milk, with the comfort being a nice side benefit. I did not realize that the comfort issue was so important, and could sustain our nursing especially after Dd started taking solids. The 10 day program did not build my milk up much, but those words gave me the motivation to rebuild my breasfeeding relationship with Dd, which is going strong still.
post #12 of 16
I absolutely agree, comfort is a great part of nursing! I don't know why that bothers some people who don't nurse. They say "you're always sticking your boob in her mouth". My OB told me when dd was 12 mo she was just using me for a pacifier. SO WHAT!?!
post #13 of 16
Best advice I ever heard was from experienced extended nursing moms:

"They don't hand you a four year old in the hospital and tell you to nurse it. They hand you a little tiny baby, and you grow together."

"Your child is nursing enough to last a lifetime."

And from some LLL book or other: teach your child a name for nursing that you don't mind hearing screamed in the grocery store checkout line.
post #14 of 16
My dh said two words. "Thank you".
post #15 of 16
Listen to your baby and trust yourself. That was said to me after a doc had told me to put my oldest on a strict 3 hour schedule and make him sleep at night. He was tongue tied and nursed all the time. I probably would have starved him or switched to formula had I listened to that doctor.
post #16 of 16
When Ana was born last summer we traveled far and wide to introduce our precious baby to the world. Sometimes while traveling she would need to eat so we found our favorite place to pull off at were parks or public place that had an option of sitting outside the car for a respite.
One day we stopped at a Quaker Meeting House. Since we live in Chester County Pennsylvania these are very abundant. This particular one was the London Grove Meeting. ( These details are important to me because they give you an understanding of where the person is coming from.)
I set up my canvas chair at the empty Meeting house and Mike proceeded to walk the grounds checking out the trees while I was nursing. Soon we were joined by a florist, who left eyesight before even a hello was mentioned.
Next two men pulled up in a car, father and son. Mike was coming back to the car because 5 minutes had passed and soon it would be time to go. The father came over to say hello to Mike. It turns out it was his sons wedding day!
Mike and the man began a wonderful conversation about the benefits of bfing and how seeing me nurse Ana reminded him of his son as a baby whom is now getting ready to be married.
I think that there was a purpose to our pulling off at that beautiful Meeting house.
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