What to do when DH doesnt want to tell...but I do?

[phillychiquita]

Okay, so its early. I havent told anyone yet except DH and my MW.
I spend almost every day with my mom, and I work for my family business, so I see both parents a lot. We are very close. I feel totally wierd hiding this from them and I almost broke down and told them last night but DH would have been pissed that I did it without him there.

So this weekend, my parents are coming for fathers day dinner and I want to tell them. DH feels skeptical, and nervous to tell. I want to honor his wishes to tell them when we are all together, in person (he wants to be there) but I cant go another week making excuses around my mom -- so I want to do it this weekend.

Can anyone give me a line or two to help me with DH's anxiety about telling so early? He is not being a jerk, he is just nervous. I want to make him feel better about it, and come around to my way of thinking....

And...Any ideas for how to tell them? This will be our first.

[velveeta]

Oh, that is a hard situation! I really think that it is a lot harder not to tell your parents! I would tell DH that it is just tearing you up spending so much time with them and not sharing. Especially because he is not feeling pregnant and thinking about being pregnant 24/7 as I am sure you are.

I would ask DH to let you take the lead. Plus, I always think that if something were to go wrong, wouldn't I want the support and love from those who love me most?

Good luck!
Jean

[phillychiquita]

thanks Jean - that's a good way to put it.
And you are right, he is definitely not obsessing like me!

[NCMomworld]

My dh didn't want to tell "in case something happened." The thing is, I am *very* close to my family so I wouldn't keep any positive or negative news from them anyway. We ended up just telling our children, and they are busy telling *everyone*!

[MCKMN]

I had the opposite problem.. I Did not want too tell anyone, and Chris did. I think seeing his HAPPY face made me change my mind. He just said toome.. He could not be quiet about something like this. I really wish I had some advise for you, but I am a whimp, and I caved into him. I tolld ONLY my mom, and he told everyone else.
Good Luck hun!

[Jilian]

I'm not in this DDC, but may be joining you ladies soon Still waiting another day to take my preg test. So I'm lurking for now.

When I got preg with my DS I wrapped up a bib that said "I love my grandma" and another bib that said "My grandpa is the greatest" and let my parents open them. That is how they found out I was pregnant. They really liked it and ended up framing the bibs. I told my parents the day I found out, we are really close and I needed them to know either way.

[libragirl]

we're in the same situation. This is my 2nd pregnancy, first ended in m/c last summer. With that one, we waited until 10 weeks to tell my families and I literally had the m/c 2 days later. We hadn't told his family yet so with them we had to deliver only bad news. This time around I'm adamant about telling everyone in the world as soon as possible, because I want to share the good news first. If - God forbid - something happens again, I know I can count on support (where as last time around, I got a lot of "you can always try again" since people had only known for a day, it didn't have much impact I guess).

Just my opinion - but my husband has come around. I wanted to send little valentines to our families (edd 2/14) to break the news but that was too "formal" for DH, so we're making phone calls this weekend.

sorry for the ramble. good luck - it's so hard!