Originally Posted by jessper44
Perhaps people are less likely to stigmatise you because *at least* you have a male partner.
Well, I'm out with dd far more often by myself than I am together with dp.
But I get what you mean.
Actually the biggest "trouble" I've had is on the occaision that I'm out by myself, without dd. While getting my eyes checked, the doc was making the usual friendly small talk, started asking me about school... and was shocked when I told him I was a SAHM.
I do actually work at a bookstore one day a week, and in my conversations with customers (I work in the children's section often), they are always shocked as well. One lady last week also started asking me about my schooling... it happens pretty often. I do get tired of the suprised reactions, but I really haven't had anyone be negative to me about it. I think it's just a mix of getting lucky and the area I live in. People tend to be alright about such things around here.
I remember reading horror stories when I was pregnant about unmarried women getting total sh*t about being pregnant/having young kids. I read quite a few of those actually on another online forum. Back then I worked full time in retail, and was sure that without the wedding ring on my finger would bring me lots of hateful comments (we are unmarried by choice, long story). Combine that with being/looking young (I was 20 then), and I'm just shocked that I haven't noticed anything more than this.
Ok. Ramble off.