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post #121 of 151
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Originally Posted by CerridwenLorelei
Rivka said "I just really don't understand the motivation."

I read threads like this because it reminds me how far I have come and how far I still have to go And that there are still mamas out there that speak up for the kids that were like me ...
that embodies the reason I read this thread to......I wasn't raised ap....mum and dad used a few GD techniques, but it was mostly spanking (with an inch thick wooden spoon which funny enough snapped clear in half on my butt one day) and it reminds me why I want to use GD, and how easily things can escalate from a small spank to other types of abuse.
post #122 of 151
I was at the foodcourt in the mall, and the parents of a 3yo were bribbing him with money to finish his hot dogs???

Huh? I'll bribe you money to eat junk? Please...someone give the child some vegetables!
post #123 of 151
Oh my word. My sister & her husband are HORRIBLE. They have two children~ a 4 yo son and a 2 yo daughter. Their daughter (in their eyes) is a perfect little angel and gets no punishment whatsoever. Their son, though. The poor kids. First of all, he's a little stinker. ha ha. BUT that is still no excuse~ they flick him in the mouth/cheek; pull him by his ear; she's told him she's sending him to jail if he doesn't listen; he's always running away from them-- he was almost hit by a car just recently b/c he runs into the street. When he was three he ran off several times. One time he went to my grandparents, which is 4 houses and across a street. They weren't home, so he proceeded about 10 blocks and 7ish streets down to the park before they realized he was even GONE!!!!! That's just the tip of the iceberg. She wants two more kids and I'm hoping her DH sticks to his word, which is no more kids. I can't imagine what they'll be like. (Their daughter acts just the same, and I'm pretty sure she's delayed in some way or another, but they're blinded by it and she's perfect.) :
post #124 of 151

this one I can see -some of us felt the same way until we had

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Originally Posted by PinkPixie
I was at the foodcourt in the mall, and the parents of a 3yo were bribbing him with money to finish his hot dogs???

Huh? I'll bribe you money to eat junk? Please...someone give the child some vegetables!
SID kids. You might check the SID threads here and in SN..
its quite possible they were desperate to get *something* even if it wasn't the best nutritionally in him and that was something in the past they could get him to eat. USAmama can give more insight on this. I know you would have cringed at me a few years ago with ds and chicken nuggets but since you wouldn't have known the medical history I wouldn't have cared...:
post #125 of 151
The worst I have seen was when I was in 3rd grade. We lived in some apartments. In the next complex was a lady and her 2 younger daughters. The ONLY thing they were allowed to do was watch tv. They had toys that they were not allowed to play with. She would show them the toys and taunt them. They had to ask permission to even use the bathroom. If they got up from their designated spot in front of the tv, they were hit with a spatula, flyswatter, whatever was handy at the time. You could hear her screaming at them from down the street, that is all she ever did. Her nickname at the apartment complex was screamer. I think I saw them outside only like 4 times the whole year I lived there. The mom was outside all the time. I witnessed this whenever I went over to see if they could play outside with me. She was investigated by child services but nothing was ever done.
post #126 of 151
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Originally Posted by CerridwenLorelei
SID kids. You might check the SID threads here and in SN..
its quite possible they were desperate to get *something* even if it wasn't the best nutritionally in him and that was something in the past they could get him to eat.
I'm having trouble finding info on SID because the search engine is dissabled. What does it stand for? I'm interested in finding out more.

I hope the child didn't have a problem. He finally did eat his food and ate ice cream after. I just interpreted the situation from a different point of vue.

Just to mention, this wasn't the Worst thing I've seen , It was just the most surprising. I'm used to seeing people bribe to eat vegetables was all I was saying.
post #127 of 151
Sensory Integration Disorder.
post #128 of 151
Ok, this wasn't witnessed by me, but some good friends of ours. This happened about 4 years ago. They were parking in a shopping center & see this Jaguar parked w/a baby inside! I think it was spring so heat/cool wasn't the big issue. They didn't know if they should call the police & were just standing next to the car trying to think what to do when a woman walks out of the store & they just knew it was the "mother"! They barely said anything to her & she was SOOO defensive & cursed them as she was leaving! It makes me so mad every time I think about it & so wish they would have called the cops on her!!!:
post #129 of 151
this one I can see -some of us felt the same way until we had

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Originally Posted by PinkPixie
I was at the foodcourt in the mall, and the parents of a 3yo were bribbing him with money to finish his hot dogs???

Huh? I'll bribe you money to eat junk? Please...someone give the child some vegetables!



SID kids. You might check the SID threads here and in SN..
its quite possible they were desperate to get *something* even if it wasn't the best nutritionally in him and that was something in the past they could get him to eat. USAmama can give more insight on this. I know you would have cringed at me a few years ago with ds and chicken nuggets but since you wouldn't have known the medical history I wouldn't have cared..."
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Thank you for posting this. I could have easily been that parent (though we don't usually go to the mall, and we don't give our kids money). My dd was g-tube fed for a long time. And she is a SID kid (with resolved severe silent reflux) And a hotdog is one of the two or three things that she will actually eat. She's the size of a large two year old and she's four and a half. Most people think she is much younger. And believe me, after a g-tube, I'll take hotdog any day. I used to give her clothes away at the end of each season--I deluded myself into thinking that she would be a size larger the next time the season were to come along. After doing this for a couple of years, I finally had to face reality and keep all of her clothes--I know she will be back in 2 and 3Ts this fall, even as she approaches the age of 5. How bad is it when a parent gives the clothes away in hopes that the child won't need them the next time the season rolls around? That was me!

I didn't read many of these posts, but I have to say that I really have had some bad days that I wish I could have taken back as a parent.
And some of them have been bad days in the public eye--when I could not avoid being in public. Especially during the tube days.
And I don't recall ever feeling such a deep sense shame in my employment (before my children were born and when I was working) when I did something stupid or something that I later regretted as an employee for a company.
But parenting is the one place where people feel like it's OK to shame or degrade a parent (especially a mother!) for something that they've done.
Granted, some of these situations are probably really bad (I haven't read them all, just a couple here and there), but sometimes I don't think that as parents we (meaning anyone "we") don't know what to do to correct ourselves so that we can do better. I love the Oprah comment: when you know better, you do better.
Yes, there are books and classes that you can take to improve your parenting skills, but there are so many mixed messages thrown out there (CIO, don't CIO, spank, don't spank, etc.) that parents (especially those are ill-equipped with life skills in general) may not know what to do, how to start, and how to be consistent in their approach to raising their children.
Some of these people came from poor role models and are repeating what they know. That seems to be what happens with many people when they find themselves in situations in which they do not have the skills to change the outcome.
I am not saying that people should not be held accountable for what they do--I just sometimes think that we all have such high expectations for what others should do (without knowing their life skill level, common sense level, emotional IQ, etc.) that we sometimes forget that MOST parents (even the really bad ones) are really doing the best they can.

Anyway--it's that same tone that I see in the posts of feeding kids junk food, etc. Come to my house, and g-tube feed my kid for a few years (which is lovely if you have to do it in public; God forbid you should see the horrible looks people give you--I don't know if they aren't sure what they are seeing or just horrified at seeing a kid with a tube sticking out of their tummy) and then post away about how bad I am as a parent because I'm so happy when my kid eats a hotdog and a few tortilla chips. And I call it a good meal!
post #130 of 151
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Originally Posted by Joannarachel
Pre-child, I was at a BBQ with a bunch of DOCTORS. There was a woman and her husband there, both doctors, with their ten month old baby. DID I MENTION THEY WERE DOCTORS?!?!?!

When they were getting ready to leave, one of the other people asked how the baby does in his car seat on the way home, and the mother (WHO, IN CASE I FORGOT TO MENTION, IS A DOCTOR), responded, "Oh, he's fine, I just nurse him while DH drives and when he falls alseep I put him in the carseat."

DID I MENTION THEY WERE BOTH DOCTORS?!? :
Hehe.... I just want to say that some blessed women can sit in the backseat with their child in the carseat and breastfeed just by leaning over the carseat. I can't do it (not blessed) but I've heard about it.
post #131 of 151
glad to see that this post has come so far! I was really interested in finding out what you knew about older nurslings!
post #132 of 151
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Originally Posted by AmyAngel
THEN... Dad heated the baby's bottle WAY too hot and gave it to him anyway, scalding his throat. They went to the ER, of course, and in the course of things (I suspect the doctors must have had their suspicions raised), they took x-rays of the baby. Broken collarbone, broken femur, multiple broken ribs in various states of healing! The poor baby! We were all horrified that we hadn't taken our niggling suspicions more seriously! What if we had said something earlier?
I have been so sad reading this thread...so sad, but this one is the one that has really really upset me. I have struggled w/PPD & have not just yelled but screamed at my sweet, little dd. I have sought help (I knew where to get it) & will still yell sometimes, but it has gotten so much better. It is just so sad to me, b/c I can see me in these some of these people. Some of them don't want help I'm sure, but some of them don't know getting help is an option and don't know where to turn and they just keep taking it to another level much to the harm of their little ones. I am all for intervention, I think it can make all the difference in the world!
post #133 of 151
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Originally Posted by papayapetunia
I saw a series of shocking events one day, a day that I like to call "My Hell." I ran into a girl that I used to be friends with a long time ago. She had four kids. I had one. We made plans to go to this children's museum. Against my better judgment, she convinced me and dd to ride in their mini-van. So I was trapped listening to Christian contemporary music with a bunch of screaming kids for much of the day. My friend just turns up the music when the kids get loud and she sings along.

But this is all beside the point. She decided to stop at McDonald's, which I don't really do, but whatever. She ordered one large Coke for the 2yo, 3yo, and 6yo to share, along with burgers and fries.

The kids were playing on the filthy disgusting play area, and she called her kids to come eat, threatening them with spankings if they didn't listen right away.

When she finished breastfeeding her 9mo, she started feeding him a burger and gave him sips of the Coke too. Gross.

But then. Then. The kids went to play again, and all I wanted to do was leave. The only reason we got to leave after 45 minutes was because the 2yo peed at the top of the jungle gym. Even though it was pouring down all over the place, she rushed the kids out to the car to leave without telling anyone what had happened.

I tried to fake a headache so I could go home, but she says, "Oh here, I have Advil." I don't remember how I fnally got out of there, but I will never ride in someone else's mini-van ever again.
Other than pee-ing in the tubes and not telling, this doesn't seem so bad to me.
post #134 of 151
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Originally Posted by illinoismommy
Hehe.... I just want to say that some blessed women can sit in the backseat with their child in the carseat and breastfeed just by leaning over the carseat. I can't do it (not blessed) but I've heard about it.
I can and did until I found out that a carseat cannot withstand the impact of a crash with an adult's weight leaning into it. Maybe not so blessed afterall.
post #135 of 151
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Originally Posted by maria423
I was in a store and a mother was yelling at her toddler (maybe around 2 years old), shouting, "Shut the fu*k up! Just shut the fu*k up!" over and over again.
I just witnessed this behavior on Saturday as we were walking through the mall. A little boy under 2 was being carried by his father and mom was walking along side telling him to shut the ef up through gritted teeth.

Jayne
post #136 of 151
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Originally Posted by mz_libbie22
Parents letting their young kids wander around on their own .
I see this all of the time. I live in the Orlando area (can you say crowded). I see children wandering around without adults quite frequently.

Jayne
post #137 of 151

zenenlightened that sounds straight out

of the pearls book. It sounds exactly like some of their
"training" methods.
Pink pixie I forgot the search was disabled. I will go look in a bit and see what I can dig up
post #138 of 151

Pink Pixie

http://www.healthatoz.com/healthatoz...n_disorder.jsp


http://www.incrediblehorizons.com/se...ntegration.htm

These are not from our sn forum here -i need a little more time to figure out another way to search.

I can tell you a bit about my son. He can't standeating green things-to him he can literally "feel" the colour. To him it has a certain texture
And textures of certain foods are a problem.
Have you have seen those hanes socks with the red lines? He can feel those lines. As the OT put "to you and me they are just red line thread in a sock. To him they are something pushing into his skin making him wanting to jump out of it"
There's more but I am too tired to be coherent.
post #139 of 151
I was at McDonalds not too long ago (I know, bad enough in and of itself) where I saw a boy who looked to be probably around 8 years old. He was extremely heavy (more than baby fat, he was obese) and was with two women, I'm guessing mom and grandma, who were also severely, I would even say morbidly, obese. They sat down with their food outside by the playplace. The boy wanted to go play, but the women told him he had to finish all his food first! : I'm just like, let the kid play!!!
post #140 of 151
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Originally Posted by CerridwenLorelei
http://www.healthatoz.com/healthatoz...n_disorder.jsp


http://www.incrediblehorizons.com/se...ntegration.htm

These are not from our sn forum here -i need a little more time to figure out another way to search.

I can tell you a bit about my son. He can't standeating green things-to him he can literally "feel" the colour. To him it has a certain texture
And textures of certain foods are a problem.
Have you have seen those hanes socks with the red lines? He can feel those lines. As the OT put "to you and me they are just red line thread in a sock. To him they are something pushing into his skin making him wanting to jump out of it"
There's more but I am too tired to be coherent.
the seams of socks make me sooooooooooooo mad, I hate wearing socks, i hate tags on clothes, seams in underwear and pants lol i to cant do some textures of food, i gag at the texture.

i wonder if i have a mild form of it but was never diagnosed.
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