Spinoff - sensation and damage

[minkajane]

I have a question about my circ’d DH. Our sex life is ok – it takes him around 15 minutes to climax, more or less, depending on the situation. But we can never have sex more than once. He can get aroused again, but he’ll just go and go and go and never climax and after a while it starts to hurt him. Could this be a result of the circ? I’ve never thought about it before because it’s never been an issue with the first time, only if we try to go again the same day.

I’ve talked to DH about restoring (our library even has The Joy of Uncircumcising!), but as much as I’d love him to restore, he’s not interested. I’m ok with him being circ’d, I just want him to have as much pleasure as possible, KWIM? I hate to think that he’s missing out because of his foreskin being missing and I know that he is. Is there anything I can do to help him?

[Yoshua]

not being able to orgasm more than once in a session happens some time after 25.


occasionally we get lucky, but I used to be able to have 2-5 sessions in one night. Now? 1 or 2. I think it has to do with libido's and how guys 'suposedly' top out in their early 20's.



Has he NEVER been able to go more than once? I still can today, once in a blue moon.



I'm 25 btw and circed

[phatchristy]

I think the fact that is hurts him might have to do with the circ. Before DH had gained some skin from restoration he used to have a lot of chafing/even skin splits from our activities/manual stimulation.

BTW, I started out doing restoration by doing manual restoration on him (yep...that's me...I started out doing it on him ). Just think of some creative ways to make him enjoy it. DH knew what I was doing, he was fine with it too. And, I can say, now that he has noticed some of the benefits of having all the loose skin...well, now he is the one doing nearly all the manual stuff (and talking other methods as well).

As he said a week ago...masturbation doesn't hurt anymore...I don't know how to put it any other way other than he is excited that having more skin makes EVERYTHING easier.

Even if your DH isn't into the idea of a complete restoration he may find that having that extra skin makes a huge difference for his comfort level (and yours too ).

[minkajane]

He's 23 and we've been having sex for 5 years. It's always been this way. He's actually cut fairly loosly - he still has his frenulum and some inner foreskin and some bunching behind the glans when flaccid.

[Lara vanAEsir]

DB is uncircumcised. He can orgasm twice in one session always if we try for it. He's 42.

Some men can do it, some men can't. It stands to reason that a circumcision can increase the chances that a man can't do it.

He's not interested in restoring, so have you tried aphrodisiacs? I once heard of a Swedish aphrodisiac which could make a man have multiple orgasms. I don't know the name though.

[iris0110]

Dh has this same problem. We are 24, and we have been together since we were 18. He has never been able to go more than once. Now if we wait for four or five hours then we can start again, but never twice in a row. I have also noticed that we need lots of lube, especially when I am nursing. Dh has tossed the idea of restoration around, but hasn't decided yet.

OT but yesterday he asked me the oddest question. Just out of the blue he asks "Do you think my life would be different if I were intact?" I had no idea what to say. I didn't know if he was joking or serious or even how he meant different. So I jokingly said "Sure, you would have a foreskin." We laughed and that was the end of it. But I am still not sure if that was what he was asking or not.