Did MDC convert you? - Page 3

[Monkeyfeet]

Yes, it did.

However, I aways felt uncomfortable listening to people talk about it before, so I think that I was leaning that way a little to begin with.

[trmpetplaya]

Nope. Having an intact dh meant that I assumed we wouldn't have it done even before I came here and found more reasons why not to do it Though I wasn't really informed about it till I came here and was encouraged to research it more.

love and peace.

[twin monkeys]

Nope my DH is also intact from Europe. But he left it up to me I talked to my SIL about it Got to love this girl she yelled at me how wrong it was she is an RN then we calmly talked it over she explained all the lies people will tell to force moms into having it done. Then decided that hey with all the men in DH family all intact all with no problems, all the mainstream moms in my area I knew who had it done 2 needed to be redone my choice was easy to leave my little boys alone. Talked my peds office they refuse to do them so it made it easy I just loved MDC for all the support they offer in all other ways of rasing children.

[geek_the_girl]

Nope.
Ive always been against circ.

[InDaPhunk]

Originally Posted by +stella+

would you believe it was the debate board at babycenter that convinced me?!

HA me too! Well, let me be clear, it was one particular post on the board that convinced me, very very early on in my research. I wish my old laptop wasn't busted, I'd go dig it up- I kept a copy of it. It was a brilliant post that just laid everything out so clearly, it was awesome (and probably written by someone here ) and completely opened my eyes. It was just so logically written....how can one argue with logic? That's why I was so mad when BC closed the debate board, I KNEW it was doing some good bc it helped me. I would have found everything out even had it not been available, but that one post made my decision making process go much quicker....as in instantaneous. Literally. To be honest, it really rocked me. I had a complete paradigm shift. Realizing the implications of what I had learned- regarding our medical system, money, my belief system, humanity, etc etc- really blew my mind.

In my net searches under "parenting boards" and "circumcision", MDC came up way late in the game. I have no clue how net searches come upon words or how those words are listed on a website to get hits or whateva, but for some reason MDC wasn't getting a hit whenever I put those terms in seperately or together so I came upon it pretty late in my research.

[DuckyTate]

NOPE! This site had NOTHING to do with my choice not to circ any of my three sons.
I had read, studies and chose for myself in 1994 before I ever knew about MCD.

[gypsycat]

MDC definately saved my son's forskin. We were just going to do it because dh was and he only had known men who, if they were intact, had several problems and infections. DH had never had any reason to research the how and whys. Once I got on the board and started researching he definately agreed with me that we were not going to. He just wishes the info had been out there more.

[Starflower]

DH and I had already decided against circ - long before I ever found MDC - and long before DC was born. Baby ended up being a girl anyway, but I was totally creeped out by the paperwork they gave us at the hospital for circ if we'd wanted it had she been a boy. Bleah. Our insurance even covered it.

FWIW, DH is circ'd but neither of us would ever want any of our sons circ'd.

[firstkid4me]

Yes, I was going to let dh make the decision, and if dd had been a boy, we would have circ'd. (I do like to think that if we'd found out we were having a boy, I would have done a little research on it first.) MDC changed my mind, I actually posted something on this forum asking why most here are so passionate about not circing.

[kimkabob5]

No. I've been anti circ since I was around ten years old. I asked my mother what circumcision was. She said it was when they cut the skin off the end of the penis. I thought right then and there that if it was supposed to be there then why cut it off.

Then when I was pregnant with my first baby, I read Sheila Kitzinger's book and she is very anti circumcision. That cemented it for me. Now I just obsess over my friends babies and hope their parents will come to the same realizations I have. It's hard.

[Peppermint]

Yes, MDC changed me and dh, I wasn't "for" it with ds #1- but gave in, MDC helped me see the light and spare ds #2 and any future sons.

If only I had found MDC 2 years earlier

[eightyferrettoes]

Originally Posted by InDaPhunk

To be honest, it really rocked me. I had a complete paradigm shift. Realizing the implications of what I had learned- regarding our medical system, money, my belief system, humanity, etc etc- really blew my mind.
.

Yeah!

I know just what you mean. Recognizing circumcision for what it is brought a LOT of stuff into question for me-- quickly. Maybe that's why it's so hard to get people to question it in the first place.

Makes you wonder things about medical industry, religion, power structures, violence, sex, tradition, that you would probably never think about otherwise. It's a big jumping-off point, I think.

Hell, I would never even have questioned the need for vaccination if not for the circ issue. Suddenly you're looking at the doc and thinking, "I'm supposed to trust you? And you told me circumcision was no big deal? Hmmm."

[3timesamama]

MDC saved my littlest boy from circ!
After my 2nd son had adhesions I was really dreading circ for my 3rd son, but everyone told me I HAD to or he would be made fun of, feel different and weird, have problems with women, be unhealthy....
Before MDC I thought it was just something EVERYONE did, so THANK YOU MDC!!

[Robin926]

No, DS was about 7 months old when I found MDC and already blissfully intact

I started thinking about circ when a VERY mainstream friend lent me a childcare book that was written by a British author. It just casually said that circumcision wasn't necessary or medically recommended. I was floored! I thought it was something you just did; obviously I hadn't given it any thought. That one mention that it wasn't necessary was enough for me to figure, well then why do it? DH needed more convincing so we asked a nurse at my next prenatal, who gave the whole spiel of BS. Ugh. I just couldn't get past it though, so I kept digging and did the research. Once I had good solid facts, I brought it up to DH again and he readily agreed.

Reading here, though, has helped me to think about circ in a whole new way. And like a pp poster said, it has really helped me to link circ, vax, and the all the rest of the mainstream party line.

[laneylue]

Hmm. No, but I do have MDC to thank everyday for reinforcing my stance against circumcision and for helping me change my husband's mind.

I knew I wouldn't circ when I was pregnant with DD (before I knew she was a she), however, I still kind of felt like maybe it's easy to say until I am *really* faced with the decision. Now that I am faced with the decision, I still feel the same. Nobody is cutting my son.

I think that being with an intact man and finding that I didn't think it was weird or gross or dirty (in fact, it was awesome ) helped me realize that circumcision is totally unnecessary. This was before I was married or even thinking of kids, so I didn't really think too much about it back then. However, that experience was really beneficial in leading up to my current beliefs regarding circumcision.

[babygrant]

Nope, I have always been anti-circ and thankfully my husband was as well HOWEVER, I never knew a lot of things about circ before I came to MDC. I just thought it was a little snip and it was done. Oh what I've learned.

[JSerene]

I was on the fence at first and MDC helped to kick me in the right direction. Now I can't believe I ever thought of circ as anything but genital mutilation. I guess this stems from the fact that in nursing school, circ was presented as the norm and the circs I witnessed at that time were not very traumatic looking (I don't know what that hospital used for pain medicine, but many babies slept through the circs). MDC helped me to see that there are long-term ramifications. FYI: as an RN I have since seen many more circs and have seen the pain involved; I have also taken care of many babies that had too much skin taken off. Parents often ask, "I know there are potential complications, but that never really happens, does it?" and I answer with a big YES!

[whateverdidiwants]

No. I've had quite a few intact partners and knew it wasn't something I would ever do.

[veganf]

Nope, I never would have circ'd. But what MDC has done is made me wish I had tried harder to keep other parents from circ'ing. I regret not saying more to "friends" who planned to circ.

[~Jenna~]

Nope, but I love this board because I have learned so much here.

What did it for us was seeing a circumstraint in a baby care class we took at the hospital. It freaked dh out and he said no way is any son of mine being strapped down like that. It was lurking on babycenter's debate board (when Frank was there) that solidified the decision for me. And like InDaPhunk there was one post that really spoke to me. There was a poster there, I think her name was Sarah?, who was so eloquent. I wish I would have saved her posts .