My dd was a champion nurser from the get-go. I was so happy. Then when we were getting her all ready to leave the hospital and go home, she was WAY upset, we tried everything, nothing worked, the nurse (without asking, but hey, she's a nurse, right, she knows what she's doing, we're clueless new parents) plonked in a binky.
Blessed silence. Whew.
Drove home, got out the baby, brought her inside, settled down to nurse -- no go. Just couldn't.
That started one of the top 10 worst 24-hour periods I've experienced. She was HUNGRY, she wanted milk, I had milk, I wanted her to nurse, but she'd plumb forgotten. (Nipple confusion.)
So, that was the last of the binkies around here, once we got that figured out. We had some (gifts), and she plays with them, but she's never used them. I'm generally happy about that, while recognizing that there are situations in which they are needed.
One thing that has often confused me on MDC, though, is the occasionally overwhelming emphasis on support. I mean, that's very very nice, and very very needed, and often called for. But at the same time, if I had posted here that my daughter hated to brush her teeth, so I didn't force the issue, and got a chorus of "Of course, you're being a good mom, don't worry about it"s, I'd be REALLY MAD, or at least disappointed in the advice I got, when I took her to the dentist and found 7 cavities. I come to MDC not only for support but for information.
Ideally, these can coexist -- supportive, diplomatically dispensed, accurate information -- but it disturbs me that there seems to be a vibe towards support at all costs.
Just my 2 cents.