|Can you please share what led you to a csection in earlier pregnancies
Doctor coercion for me. Ds is my first and only child at this point. I was blissfully unaware of most things and just assumed that you got pregnant and you gave birth vaginally. It was the natural way things worked so why wouldn't it happen that way for me?
I was 37 wks pg when my female ob started telling me that ds was already big (she thought 7lbs) and that if I didn't go into labor on my own by 39 wks they would do an u/s to estimate his weight. 39 wks came and no labor so was sent off to u/s. The u/s estimated ds at 10lbs 4oz. Was told that ds was outside the ACOG guideline for vb so it would probably be safest for me to have a c/s and very soon. Was also told that I could try and wait, but that if I went to 41 wks she'd either have to induce at that point or c/s. Was also told that we'd have to try and do so when she was "on-call". OB told us to "go home and think about it" and that she'd call back later that afternoon.
OB called around 3pm ish. She told us that she felt it was safest for ds to be by c/s and that she'd scheduled our c/s for Thurs (it was Tues). I didn't question, and didn't really know what to think anyway. I mean, gosh if the OB tells you that it's safer for you to just have a c/s, then certainly it must be! Barely got the info I needed to prepare for the c/s. (BTW: my records list the reason for my c/s as maternal request/primary elective cesarean. I take issue with that as it's hard to "elect" a c/s that's already been scheduled for you.)
Went in for my c/s and ds was 9lbs even, more than 1lb less than the u/s estimation. Wasn't told until I was on the operating room table, with my innards splayed for all to see that u/s estimations are notroiously wrong in big babies and can be more than 1 lb off. (This is after the pre-op discussion ob had with the resident about baby size - both of them, both females, thought that ds felt more like 9lbs. Ob is of course quick to reassure that ds' shoulders "looked too big" to have fit anyway.
Spent the majority of ds' first day separated from him (even though lots of other people got to see him) b/c of breathing issues (due to c/s). I assumed while he was there that "they" were actually "doing something", only to find out that he was under a heat lamp for the majority of the time, all alone.
Had a VERY rough recovery. Ds lost over a pound in the nursery (duh, his birth weight was inflated due to fluids required in c/s to prevent mom's bp from dropping) and was harangued by nursery staff everytime they came in that I was starving my child and if he was their child they would be giving him formula. PP nurses refused to get LC even though we expressed several times that we wanted one. When we were actually able to get one it was very helpful. Did sucumb to pressure to give formula, although ds would always spit most of it back up. LC's told me that was probably b/c ds was already full and that he'd take whatever was offered.
Was harassed by female ped who bf'd her own children b/c ds wasn't gaining enough weight back. Ended up at the drs office four of the five weekdays after we got home from the hospital. Ds started gaining weight back, but it wasn't fast enough. Felt completely overwhelmed by the whole situation, especially b/c I could barely walk upright and had a DVT scare mid way through the first week (needing u/s to rule it out). By the end of that first week we were already supplementing at least two feedings. By the end of the second week we were down to just one bf feeding. By the end of three weeks we were completely formula.
Took me six weeks to feel more like myself, 10-12 weeks until I was actually back to "normal" for me. Have had some adhesion pains and lots of guilt over everything that happened. Had discussion re:VBAC and my uterine incision at 6wk pp appt. Dr was not very supportive at all.
|how have you come to succeed in a VBAC or in making a decision to have a VBAC.
By the time ds was three months I knew I would never want to go through a c/s ever again and would VBAC next time. By the time ds was 1 year I had found ICAN (www.ican-online.org
) and joined the email list. Got copies of my own med recs and learned all sorts of things about my pg that I never knew while I was actually pg. Started interviewing midwives by the time ds was 1 yr. Decided for sure on a HBAC for next time shortly there after.
Basically, I underwent a complete paradigm shift as far as pregnancy and birth were concerned. Next time, instead of someone who inherently distrust pregnancy and labor (thinking that it's a doomed process to being with and the cp has to rescue both mom and baby before the apocalypse of the pg world starts raining down), I will have a cp that trusts the pregnancy and birthing process. I will have someone who sees pregnancy and birth as a normal, natural process. I will have a cp who respects and supports me in the decisions only I can make about my body and my baby. I will be at home where I am most comfortable surrounded by those I know, love, and trust.
I REFUSE to be afraid! If the process was inherently flawed then the human race would have died out a long time ago. Women's bodies are made to birth babies, plain and simple. I could go on, but it's probably more than you wanted to know. I'll
get off now.
I'd suggest you head on over to www.ican-online.org
. They have lots of info available there plus a very active email list. It's really an eye opening experience and so very worth it IMO.