Of course it's another boy

[Quirky]

Crap. Crap crap crap. My SIL and BIL, who circed their 35 week 5 pound boy just a couple of days after birth, despite all the information we gave them and despite my dh's heart to heart talk with his brother, are having another boy.

And there is nothing I can do to convince them not to circ.

[mama_at_home]

[Eman'smom]

and to you and that sweet little baby, I know that feeling all too well.

[Paper-Bag-Princess]

Oh Quirky, I'm so sorry I know how you must be feeling and I'm sorry that your il's refuse to listen..

[gridley13]

I am so sorry Quirky... Man, you have been through a lot of heartache involving circ and your family this past year.

[AntoninBeGonin]

It just doesn't make sense, does it?

Poor little baby and his big brother.

~Nay

[Slabobbin]

It's frustrating to feel so helpless.

[dnr3301]

I'm so sorry. such a year for you (and those babies).

[Mary-Beth]

I had a hard time when my nephew was circ'd despite my best efforts to change thier minds. My heart goes out to you.
Maybe some miracle will happen and something will change thier minds.

[coloradoalice]

I'm so sorry. I get disturbed by perfect strangers that circumcise their kids, I don't even know what I would do with a relative that did it, especially if they had all the information and did it anyway. :

[Peppermint]

I know exactly how you feel, my nephew was just born early and when I went to visit SIL and the babe in the hospital, I asked when he was being released, and she said, "we're not sure yet, I'll get excited when they take him in for the circumcision, then I'll know he is well enough to go home" . I just don't know why people refuse to really consider this.

[PuppyFluffer]

How incredibly sad.

I am so sorry.

[Quirky]

My dh was just up visiting my in-laws for the weekend and saw BIL and SIL with their son. He said that they were both so gentle and loving with him (even though they're total Baby-wisers, I guess they aren't spankers, thank goodness). My dh said he thought they were parenting him really well. Why oh why can't they just see how WRONG it is to harm their son this way - I know they love him??!! :

[trmpetplaya]

's I'm so sorry! for you and those poor boys... maybe you can be the sneaky aunt who informs them about restoration when they're older if it's not too weird I don't know what I would do if family circ'd.... I'm the only person in my generation with a kid (the first one married too) so far and my family is on the other side of the country.... I guess I'll find out what I'll do soon enough though My relatives are in GA where the circ rate is pretty high...

love and peace.

[imgr8ful]

i'm so sorry - i know how you feel.

[susienjay]

I'm so sorry. I know how you feel. There's a little boy being born next month that will be circed and I know nothing will change the parent's minds (I already tried with the older brother and they still circed him ). They are really awesome parents too in every other respect. It's so obvious how much they love their kids but they don't seem to think twice about putting their 2 day old through painful genital surgery.

I'm not sure if it is the case with your bil and sil but I've found that if parents have already decided to circ that they aren't very open to hearing any reasons not to do it.

[Quirky]

Originally Posted by dnr3301

I'm so sorry. such a year for you (and those babies).

Yeah, no kidding. I wish I could walk away from it for a little while but even if I don't turn on the computer I still think about it.

At least I know I've been able to help some other mamas and babies, even if not my own family. So that's good, and helps me keep going.

[leahida]

I'm so sorry, Jane! It must be so hard to feel so helpless.

[hummingbear]

So sorry!

You have been in my thoughts lately.

[Lula's Mom]

I am sorry, Quirky. That is just awful.