I know I shouldn't be so upset, but...

[Wolfcat]

My SIL was due in three weeks. She started getting irregular ctx and lost her mucus plug on Thurs. My bro flew cross country to be with her "just in case" (he is getting them moved, she's stuck for a while). Well, early Sat. they decided that it would just be easier to induce, so she had a 6 lbs boy for father's day.

Why am I upset?
They said that it would be better if they had theirs first so they could have the first grandson on both sides.
The baby went into distress during labor (prob b/c it was a hard/fast labor due to pitocin) and SIL had to be put on O2. :


I don't do the competition thing. But I am always getting these little insinuations that I'm a bad person and not good enough. I don't really like my bro or SIL; nothing against them, I just wouldn't ever CHOOSE to be friends with them, yk?

Plus, being a single mom-to-be is a lot more mentally stressful then I had ever anticipated... : not that I regret my decision either way. But then I'm "supposed" to keep up w/ them and their two-income family? Um, no. But they rub it in that I can't. That holier-then-thou attitude is really pissing me off.


So I can't seem to let go of the feeling that they put their child in potential danger just so that I wouldn't give birth first. :

Perhaps I should just feel special that I'm apparently the center of their competitive universe, etc. But I just want to cry every time I think of taking my son to visit them, and the things that they say and do. I want to hide when I think of all the family gatherings with their snide little comments.:

I don't think they are intentionally mean, they just think that they are/should be better then me. Maybe they have esteem issues or something, b/c I don't compete or anything, but I can't feel happy about anything they accomplish, b/c I'm afraid of giving them... energy, when they spend so much time trying to take it from me.

I feel like a beaten mongral today. :

[littlemama06]

Sarah, I dont know what to say , just wanted to send you some hugs!!

love, Kaitlin

[OwensMa]

I'm sorry

[Starr]

Sounds like my family. Hugs to you it aint always easy. We were politely asked if it would be out of the question to turn down the referral of out daughter, on Oct. 15th, because she was born on the 6th and BIL and SIL had a baby girl on the 11th. They REALLy wanted to have the oldest grandchild...:

[Wolfcat]

Originally Posted by Starr

They REALLy wanted to have the oldest grandchild...:

I just don't get that idea. What's the point? I mean, it's not like they're in competition for the crown or heir to the corporate kingdom. Inheritance just doesn't work that way any more. And when you have two cousins that close in age, the only thing is it causes confusion cause no one can remember whose oldest. :

[Starr]

In our case it was a comment that my MIL made about since she had 3 boys she wanted the first grand daughter to inherit her wedding/ engagement ring and some family pin. I could really care less. And although it IS quite naughty of me now whenever we are together I try to remind them that Olivia is older

[bratmobile]

Wow. How Raise the Red Lantern of them! I feel for you, i have a SIL who is really competitive this way with me. She has to do EVERYTHING we do and try to do it bigger and better. Its lame. I try not to care and i don't care about competing with her about these things but it makes interactions uncomfortable and I just don't want to be around her. She straight up told me she wanted to get married before me and got married on my birthday on purpose I guess. I don't care about that either but it was like, just her intention make it uncomfortable to be around her. I think it must be esp hard being pregnant and feeling like someone is racing you to have a baby. Its tough enough at the end without that kind of drama to deal with. Even the well meaning family members can get on one's nerves, let alone the nasty, petty ones.