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post #341 of 2914
liz this is how i look at things. which hasnt come just from watching the secret but from reading other books too.

and this is my personal belief. i feel the universe watches out for us. we are like the car's headlight. just able to see as far as the light goes. yet the road stretches all the way to NY and i cant see what's on the road. and so i accept when things dont go my way. when sudden hindrances happen. when sudden negatives come up. i am always open. always. to any possiblity. when there is an obstruction i say to myself - let thy will be done. so, so, so many times those obstructions either saved me or gave me a much better deal.

so i dont look at negatives as where am i failing. its teh universe stepping in saying hey i have something better for you. just open yourself to receiving it. or hold on. something not v. pleasant is coming up that might hinder construction. so lets wait a bit. now both you guys and ur builders put their best foot forward. and there are hindrances. maybe the picture might be revealed to you later.

one of the things i try not to do is put a time limit. it rarely works out for me that way. most of the thing the univ. does for me comes as a surprise. i have tried the time thing as well as maybe this way - the how thing and it has always been unexpected.

yeah. letting go and trusting is not a v. easy thing to do is it?!!! for me that is the toughest too. i am going thru a really bad spot now. yet the univ always comes thru for me. ALWAYS. gosh wish it wouldnt do it at the last moment like that... but that's my lack of belief. am still struggling with that so dont know how to help ya.

uhmmm the other thing. remember you are human. i dont think i am a happy parent the whole day. i have my moments. i dont like them but i recognise them. when they are coming up i do eiter two things. now that my dd is older i tell her i need some time to myself so she has to leave me alone. she too needs her alone time so she totally understands this. or when she was younger i would get down on my knees and join her in play. really one to one play. i was frustrated not having time to myself but i recognised since i didnt have any time to myself and i didnt have help i would have to look deep within me to find how to not separate time. how to make my time the same as my dd's time. and a miracle happened. at 5pm when i no longer wanted to be a parent i started playing with my dd - sometimes suggesting stuff i liked to do. and as i watched my dd play - my fav. expression is this concentrated scowl she has when focusing really deeply - and joined her i started having fun. i would look forward to that time of the day and unwind with her. we'd be in the bath taking an hour long bath. or in her pool. i love water. and as i got more into it - more into enjoying her i found we could do anything - even things i didnt quite like doing - because i was so falling in love with my child just watching her.

and those times really helped me connect with her. today i can more or less guess v. accurately her next movement and her likes and dislikes. even the online games on the computer. she can go to the diego page and i play which game she will choose and i am usually right.

BUT the key is dont be too harsh with yourself. what you are feeling i feel is v. normal. and if you feel it at the end of the day then it is v. natural.

also i always read the ames book series for 1 thru 8. your one year old. it gave me a guideline of expected behaviour. so i learnt that this was a natural way for my dd to be and also to truly understand she wasnt out to get me. that she was trying to figure things out in this new world. what worked for me were two things. imagining her as a martian who is tryingto figure out what the heck earth is like. adn second. i always posted 3 pictures of her on my fridge. my fav. pictures from birth to now. and it was a constant reminder how fast seh was growing and how this too shall pass.
post #342 of 2914
I'm on a queue to receive a copy of the Secret, but I've participated in discussion about the law of attraction, etc.

I am a bit concerned about materialism, but I haven't felt the materialistic vibe from any of the women with whom I have been engaged in discussion.

I believe I have manifested some of this in the past six or so years, and I have been very blessed from Heaven as well (the two are the same in my opinion.)

Here are a few of my observations;

I have thought about money much less since I have moved from poverty to financial security. I can only imagine this evolves into the ease that some people are blessed with in their lives.

I do not want to do any of what I am working toward for materialism. Money and things are only tools whose purpose is to serve people. People and the relationship an individual has with friends and loved ones is true wealth. Nothing else matters. If we can manage to create a resonnance with the mechanics of the universe to create a physical security that liberates us to focus on cultivating relationship and ministering to others through our activities throughout our life here on this Earth, so much the better.

Am I making any sense to anyone else?
post #343 of 2914
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Originally Posted by meemee
uhmmm the other thing. remember you are human. i dont think i am a happy parent the whole day. i have my moments. i dont like them but i recognise them. when they are coming up i do eiter two things. now that my dd is older i tell her i need some time to myself so she has to leave me alone. she too needs her alone time so she totally understands this. or when she was younger i would get down on my knees and join her in play. really one to one play. i was frustrated not having time to myself but i recognised since i didnt have any time to myself and i didnt have help i would have to look deep within me to find how to not separate time. how to make my time the same as my dd's time. and a miracle happened. at 5pm when i no longer wanted to be a parent i started playing with my dd - sometimes suggesting stuff i liked to do. and as i watched my dd play - my fav. expression is this concentrated scowl she has when focusing really deeply - and joined her i started having fun. i would look forward to that time of the day and unwind with her. we'd be in the bath taking an hour long bath. or in her pool. i love water. and as i got more into it - more into enjoying her i found we could do anything - even things i didnt quite like doing - because i was so falling in love with my child just watching her.
This is beautifully said. Thank you.
post #344 of 2914
Kerry - on the one hand, I agree that seems to happen to me, too. But I wonder: is it the Universe "testing" us or is it the Universe meeting our expectation that we will be tested? It's like you said, I cut out sweets and there are free sweets to be had everywhere! But how much of that is me feeling put upon and therefore manifesting what I *don't* want.

Meemee - thank you so much for your post. It really uplifted me and made me look at the whole house situation so much differently. See, in my head I have this vision. I'm standing in my new house cradleing a cup of warm tea (from a mug that I found THIS weekend at an artfair, that appeared in these visualizations from weeks before, BTW) and there's a christmas tree in the corner, and I'm watching DD play outside in our newly dug up muddy not-yet landscaped backyard, wearing these silly polka dot golashes, getting covered in mud head to toe and loving it. It's just this perfection, perfect warmth and contentment in my heart. I really thought it must translate to a real moment in time - our house being real this Christmas - but maybe it is just a representation of a feeling. I don't know. It just seems so REAL. Of course our tree usually stays up until April, so who knows.

I do know that I just need to stick with the vision, and not translate it to a specific demand. Just know it will come to be.

I'm human? Really? I forget that sometimes... I secretly suspect I'm a reject from a secret alien race of super-parents living here on earth. They erased my memory and set me out among the ordinary humans because of my tendency toward frustration - very unnatural, almost an abbhorence, really, in our species. :

But seriously, it's really about accepting yourself, warts and all, isn't it? : whew :

I love your idea of "not separating time". Oh, and my DD has the very same scowl - the level of concentration she exudes could move mountains. It's also my very favorite expression!

Thank you so much for bringing me back toward the source!

Anyway, I have an amazing experience to share... I will put it in a seperate post below:
post #345 of 2914
Marathon posting, part 2:

So today I went in to train for the class hosting volunteer position I just got at my local eco-garden center. If you read my previous posts to this thread, you'll see that this position was my first concrete example of attracting what I really want from life - a chance to learn horticulture inside & out, and the chance to meet like-minded folks was my specific desire.

So I go for my day and I sit down with Patricia, my new supervisor. A wonderful, warm lady with a huge smile and a great 'vibe'. We're talking about the center's big anniversary dinner, and she tells me how she's been saying affirmations all day, intending that all the people involved are having a good time and also making it a success. So, I'm kind nervous to bring it up, but I say to her "so, do you follow the law of attraction?". She says, "yes, exactly!" I say "wow, I just learned about it and found this position using LOA"

Well, she jumped out of her chair and hugged me! She was so thrilled and told me all about her amazing experiences since finding this 4 years ago. It turns out that there was a tape of Abraham-Hicks playing in the background the whole time!!! I was listing to it without even realizing. AND - several people there are LOA'ers, including their maintenance guy and several of their teachers. Talk about meeting "like-minded people". WOW WOW WOW WOW WOW!!!
post #346 of 2914
thanks liz and annikate

hey liz - there you have it. it may not be christmas but by april u will definitely be moving into ur new house. definitely come back and post then. i am sure after the hiccup ur builders will start working on ur house soon and i am sure it isnt gonna take as long as 3 or 4 months for the plans to be approved. so HOLD on to your dream. you are doing the right thing. just not paying lip service but actually feeling it from the v. depths of your being. it will happen. i know it will happen.

i am sooooo happy for you you found your community. that really means so much doesnt it. its something i havent found yet. IRL. but isnt it amazing. i read ur other post and remember about how u manifested this position. but see how much better it turned out didnt it. isnt that so amazing. did u specifically think and dream for like minded people IRL? so do u see how the univ. pays back double fold. i am soooo happy for you.
post #347 of 2914
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Originally Posted by darwinphish

Meemee - thank you so much for your post. It really uplifted me and made me look at the whole house situation so much differently. See, in my head I have this vision. I'm standing in my new house cradleing a cup of warm tea (from a mug that I found THIS weekend at an artfair, that appeared in these visualizations from weeks before, BTW) and there's a christmas tree in the corner, and I'm watching DD play outside in our newly dug up muddy not-yet landscaped backyard, wearing these silly polka dot golashes, getting covered in mud head to toe and loving it. It's just this perfection, perfect warmth and contentment in my heart. I really thought it must translate to a real moment in time - our house being real this Christmas - but maybe it is just a representation of a feeling. I don't know. It just seems so REAL. Of course our tree usually stays up until April, so who knows.
Love it! Visualizing and feeling with all the senses, I'm going to try that! The taste of the tea, the hot temperature of the tea, the feel of the warm mug in your hand, the smell of the evergreen Christmas tree and the smell of the mud, the sight of the twinkly lights and your dd's smile...love it, love it, love it.

And having a discussion about the LOA at work...just the topper!
post #348 of 2914
Liz, that is so cool about your new job! Anyone who doesn't believe in "meant to be" can't deny that!

Does anyone know of any books/materials that would be good for children?

DD#1 is almost 9, and she is really getting into this. She is shedding her negativity (which she probably got from me in the first place)!! Yesterday at school, her teacher asked the class to write their name on the board with one word to describe themselves and she chose "optimistic"--that's a huge step for her!

I'd really like to get something that would introduce it to her 5yo brother and almost-3yo sister. A really positive children's book maybe.

Anyone?
post #349 of 2914
I wouldn't say it's a *fabulous* book, but I just got Wayne Dyer's Incredible You: 10 Ways to let your Greatness Shine Through to read to my 6-year-old. (I think the text, while it's good info, is sorta clunky, insisting on rhyming. It may have been an afterthought: I notice that Amazon.com lists the title as "Incredible You! 10 Ways to Be Happy Inside and Out" ... which doesn't rhyme like the actual title.) The book is basically a kid's version of his 10 Secrets for Success book for grownups, so it's got good information in it, I think. If you're not a "God" person, you might want to preview it: I consider myself more a Buddhist than a Christian, and as I was reading along, I kind of choked on the "God" lines.

I see from the Abraham-Hicks website that they've got some kids' books, but I haven't seen them yet (I've asked the library to order the first one so I can review it without having to buy it, not knowing how well it would appeal to my 6yo and 4yo boys.)

I'll be curious about other people's recommendations.

And off-topic, but if anyone's looking for a good book for kids on reincarnation, I can *wholeheartedly* recommend The Mountains of Tibet. My little guy loved it so much I bought us a copy, after having renewed and renewed it at the library. (The library's other kid books on reincarnation mostly treated it as a joke: "Grandpa's in the Litterbox." Eesh.)
post #350 of 2914
I'm on the list to get the movie. I can't wait to see it. I'm going through a very trying time as me, dh and dd are now homeless. We've had to barge into my parents' home and I am forever grateful for their help. I'm finding it very difficult to let go; I feel that we will not find a home that will be right for us. There is a shortage of places here and we're having a really difficult time finding a new home. I want to get rid of all of these negative thoughts, but I'm so stressed, pregnant, taking care of dd and it's so difficult.
post #351 of 2914
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Originally Posted by vamp127
Does anyone know of any books/materials that would be good for children?
i dont have a kids book to refer to you but wanted to say deepak chopra has a parenting book i think called 6 principles of how to raise your child. something liek that. gives a guideline age wise which can be taken loosely.

recently i joined a new fellowship. and my dd got to go to their sunday school for the first time. it almost boggles my mind just how much she understood from just being in sunday school. it is not a christian fellowship.

as she grows up i notice like minded community is becoming more nad more important. even though we have kinda read children's books (about different religions, different ideas of death, god) she totally doesnt get it until she is around adults.

unimatrix -
post #352 of 2914
I stumbled on this thread a week or so ago...DH and I watched The Secret over the weekend and loved it. He thought most of the presenters were wackos but that their information was right on. I think for him it was more of a reminder/reinforcement of principles he already knows and practices; for me the whole concept is a bit more foreign. I'm a "prove it to me" person. But it's definitely starting to sink in a little and make a difference for us.

Last night I was thinking of my mom, who died last year, and opened myself to hearing from or seeing her during my sleep. (I had a lot of dreams about her a while ago, including a very intense one in which I physically felt her presence.) No dreams, but today in the course of doing something else, I was led to some letters she had written that I hadn't found before and reading them was very enlightening and wonderful. I felt her presence as I read. I still feel it now. I am grateful indeed to the universe today.

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Originally Posted by vamp127
Since we've watched What the Bleep, we've been incorporating the "create your day" idea into our morning routine. The dc really enjoy this too. DD#1 has always been ensconced in negativity and this is helping her dramatically to put a positive spin on things. She has become a much more relaxed and cheerful person, instead of her usual "doom & gloom."
Did your DD watch the movie with you? It's on our list of things to see soon. I'm really curious to know how to help a child of that age understand the LOA and the need to stay positive. DS is 9 and is also a very negative person...I'd like to help him. Any suggestions you can offer would be gratefully received!
post #353 of 2914
I was poking around the main site for What The Bleep last night. They specifically said they don't recommend the movie for kids under about 13 but there is a different version they made especially to be kid friendly (took out the swearing and stuff). Turns out there are actually several versions of it? : Anyway the posters looking for kid-friendly materials might want to check it out.

And maybe I would change my mind when ds is older but I haven't seen anything in The Secret I would really object to a kid seeing. I've been watching it a lot and my toddler has seen bits an dpeices and I never worried about it. I guess hte problem would be if it might go over childrens heads a bit? Not really at their level....I don't know, like I said I only have a 2 1/2 year old.
post #354 of 2914
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Originally Posted by vamp127
Does anyone know of any books/materials that would be good for children?
The books I can recommend would be for your older kids - I'm sure your 6 yo would understand, too. They're the Sara books by Abraham-Hicks. I bought all three about three years ago, and my oldest was too young to be interested in them (he was 4 yo) so I read them all myself. I then bought the first one for a nephew of mine who really needs to know the power he has to create his world. I don't know if he's ever read it, though, as I rarely see or speak to him. I gave it to him when he turned 10, as that seems to be a real turning point in children's lives (like, when they forget about their creative powers ).

Also, a book I bought when my oldest was even younger, but that we've started reading several times and never get through (for some reason ) is Herman's Magical Universe. Even I haven't gotten through it myself.

I look forward to reading the other recommendations here!

Oh, I recently read the Wayne Dyer book to the kids - they weren't impressed, and surprisingly, neither was I. But I read another book I really liked, that was about the power of gratitude. Ah, here it is - The Secret of Saying Thanks. It reminded me of how I was when I was a kid.

Hope those are helpful!
Barb
post #355 of 2914
Thanks for the recommendations.

DD#1 did watch What the Bleep with us, a couple of times. The swearing is minimal and there is one little segment that talks about hard-ons. She just said, "oh, yuck" and kept on watching. The rest of the sexual attraction stuff just seemed to gross her out. I don't mind the dc seeing stuff that refers to sex, they are already aware of it.

I'll be checking out the library this weekend.
post #356 of 2914
In the version of What The Bleep that I saw, there is a *very* brief scene where she walks in on her dh having sex with another woman. I'm assuming that was taken out in the sanitized version.
post #357 of 2914
About the Secret and kids:

In the Secret there is a part about gay man who is being treated badly. Someone calls him the "F" word. The movie presents this as bad, mean etc.

In the *outtakes* of the Secret one of the guys talks about the scene from When Harry Met Sally where the woman pretends she is having a very happy experience, and the "O" word is used.

I show it to my kids, preteen and up. I'd say it's good for any child old enough to know you don't repeat certain words.

(Trying to stay within the UA here! )
post #358 of 2914
I realized yesterday as I was scanning my bookshelf that I have been on this journey for quite a long time! But never stayed with it before -- gave up too early. I have EIGHT different books about "positive thinking, visualization, Law of Attraction" -- call it what you will. I bought the first of these 10 years ago and have used them on and off. The only one I ever used frequently was Sonia Choquette's Your Heart's Desire, which I used when I had a specific goal I was working toward. I guess that was laying the groundwork for the transformation I have been undergoing the last month. This thread just hit me at the right time when I was ready to move forward (and by the looks of it, I am not the only one!!).

So I bought the Secret, then Ask and it is Given, then What the Bleep, and just 2 days ago I bought the book Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting. The combination of the 4 of these have really changed me. The Secret was a kick in the pants to really get into the Law of Attraction. Ask and it is Given was incredibly informative. What the Bleep was kind of the "scientific proof" that my analytical subconscious needed. And Excuse Me gave me an incredible gift. . . the ability to "buzz".

I don't know if anyone else has used this tool from the book, but I have found it much easier and quicker to raise my vibrations using a "buzz" then through any of the processes in Ask and it is Given. I can create a "buzz" for myself in seconds and keep it going for up to a half hour. And it makes me feel incredible!! Today I was on a high all day doing this, and other people definitely noticed! If using Law of Attraction is all about raising your vibrations to be in tune with your higher self, then I feel I have found the "real" secret.

If you haven't read the book, Lynn Grabhorn describes it as riding a rollercoaster, and getting that "whoosh" in your stomach. To me, it truly does feel like a vibration, and the hairs on my arms stand up and I can't help but smile and I feel warm. And it comes so easily to me!! I am just amazed and thrilled.

The other thing I liked about the book is that she describes how to use these principles to make the world a better place. I started doing that this morning watching the news (waiting for the weather report -- otherwise I hate the news!). A story about Iraq came on. Normally I would turn it off so I wouldn't be exposed to the pain of it, but instead I focused on one of the Iraqi women. She was only on the screen a second, but I closed my eyes, kept her in my mind and bathed her in love and light and joy. I would really like to try to do this every time I see someone suffering. I'll never know if it is helping or not, but I have to believe it helps, even if in a very small way.

Enough rambling -- I am just so excited and wanted to share!
post #359 of 2914
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Originally Posted by loveandkindness
I realized yesterday as I was scanning my bookshelf that I have been on this journey for quite a long time! But never stayed with it before -- gave up too early. I have EIGHT different books about "positive thinking, visualization, Law of Attraction" -- call it what you will. I bought the first of these 10 years ago and have used them on and off. The only one I ever used frequently was Sonia Choquette's Your Heart's Desire, which I used when I had a specific goal I was working toward. I guess that was laying the groundwork for the transformation I have been undergoing the last month. This thread just hit me at the right time when I was ready to move forward (and by the looks of it, I am not the only one!!).

So I bought the Secret, then Ask and it is Given, then What the Bleep, and just 2 days ago I bought the book Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting. The combination of the 4 of these have really changed me. The Secret was a kick in the pants to really get into the Law of Attraction. Ask and it is Given was incredibly informative. What the Bleep was kind of the "scientific proof" that my analytical subconscious needed. And Excuse Me gave me an incredible gift. . . the ability to "buzz".

I don't know if anyone else has used this tool from the book, but I have found it much easier and quicker to raise my vibrations using a "buzz" then through any of the processes in Ask and it is Given. I can create a "buzz" for myself in seconds and keep it going for up to a half hour. And it makes me feel incredible!! Today I was on a high all day doing this, and other people definitely noticed! If using Law of Attraction is all about raising your vibrations to be in tune with your higher self, then I feel I have found the "real" secret.

If you haven't read the book, Lynn Grabhorn describes it as riding a rollercoaster, and getting that "whoosh" in your stomach. To me, it truly does feel like a vibration, and the hairs on my arms stand up and I can't help but smile and I feel warm. And it comes so easily to me!! I am just amazed and thrilled.

The other thing I liked about the book is that she describes how to use these principles to make the world a better place. I started doing that this morning watching the news (waiting for the weather report -- otherwise I hate the news!). A story about Iraq came on. Normally I would turn it off so I wouldn't be exposed to the pain of it, but instead I focused on one of the Iraqi women. She was only on the screen a second, but I closed my eyes, kept her in my mind and bathed her in love and light and joy. I would really like to try to do this every time I see someone suffering. I'll never know if it is helping or not, but I have to believe it helps, even if in a very small way.

Enough rambling -- I am just so excited and wanted to share!
Thanks for sharing that. Funny, I've been doing this for a long time too (but never seem to REMEMBER it for some reason.) I used this before I met dh. I visualized *exactly* him and then used it again for the sale of my house before we got married. Those were the *big* ones. I'm ready to do it again!

I've watched The Secret but haven't yet read any of the books you listed above. I want to get one/all of them. Which one would you recommend reading next?
post #360 of 2914
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Originally Posted by Annikate
Which one would you recommend reading next?
Excuse Me...! I've also recommended it to sooooo many people. I first got it from the library and HAD to have it in my personal library. Just reading it is a vibe-raiser! I've got to remember who I've lent it to so I can read it again!
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