Hi,
I haven't been on here for a while, but I could use a little help with info on the intact penis. I was hoping to ask people with experience before going to my doctor because my doctors seem to be only moderately intact-friendly and I'm not sure how that will go. Anyway....
After giving my 10-month-old a bath, I decided to gently check if his foreskin had retracted on it's own yet, (don't ask me why, I don't know. It just seemed like a good idea at the time.
) I thought it rather unlikely from everything I've read. I've also been very careful to tell everyone who changes his diaper not to retract it forceably and have never noticed any unusual irritation in the diaper area. So...
I checked and, indeed, it retracts much of the way back. I didn't even really try to push it back all the way becuase I know better than to forceably retract. I was surprised it retracted at all, but the glans looks mostly healthy except right around the, for lack of a better term, forgive me, but 'pee-hole'.
The area right there is red, compared to the rest of the glans, which is purple. It may or may not be inflamed, hard to tell, but I think so. I had my hubby there with a flashlight to see what he thought. He didn't know any better than me, (he's circ'd). He has been fussier lately, but is fine and happy most of the time. And that's not a sure-fire indicator because he's also getting a tooth.
So, is that area supposed to be redder that the rest of the glans or is that what an infection looks like? My first son was, undortunately circ'd, so I don't have experience with an intact penis.
The other thing is: Do I have to pull it back to clean it now? Is the fact that I haven't pulled it back, (because I didn't know it was ready), the reason it's like this? Something tells me I could answer my own questions here, but I'm not confident.
Is this common and what is it a symptom of? 
I am, like I said, slightly hesitant to take him to the doc right away if I can figure it out on my own. I'm not trying to substitute for medical care. If it's needed, I'll be there with the quickness, but I don't want to do that if I can help it. I have gotten a few not-altogether-intact-friendly comments, although they know enough not to forcibly retract and said they had some experience with intact penises. If anyone knows any info on this, it would be much appreciated. I can find diagrams, but not color pictures to tell me what's normal.
Thanks in advance!
I haven't been on here for a while, but I could use a little help with info on the intact penis. I was hoping to ask people with experience before going to my doctor because my doctors seem to be only moderately intact-friendly and I'm not sure how that will go. Anyway....
After giving my 10-month-old a bath, I decided to gently check if his foreskin had retracted on it's own yet, (don't ask me why, I don't know. It just seemed like a good idea at the time.
) I thought it rather unlikely from everything I've read. I've also been very careful to tell everyone who changes his diaper not to retract it forceably and have never noticed any unusual irritation in the diaper area. So...I checked and, indeed, it retracts much of the way back. I didn't even really try to push it back all the way becuase I know better than to forceably retract. I was surprised it retracted at all, but the glans looks mostly healthy except right around the, for lack of a better term, forgive me, but 'pee-hole'.
The area right there is red, compared to the rest of the glans, which is purple. It may or may not be inflamed, hard to tell, but I think so. I had my hubby there with a flashlight to see what he thought. He didn't know any better than me, (he's circ'd). He has been fussier lately, but is fine and happy most of the time. And that's not a sure-fire indicator because he's also getting a tooth.So, is that area supposed to be redder that the rest of the glans or is that what an infection looks like? My first son was, undortunately circ'd, so I don't have experience with an intact penis.
The other thing is: Do I have to pull it back to clean it now? Is the fact that I haven't pulled it back, (because I didn't know it was ready), the reason it's like this? Something tells me I could answer my own questions here, but I'm not confident.
Is this common and what is it a symptom of? I am, like I said, slightly hesitant to take him to the doc right away if I can figure it out on my own. I'm not trying to substitute for medical care. If it's needed, I'll be there with the quickness, but I don't want to do that if I can help it. I have gotten a few not-altogether-intact-friendly comments, although they know enough not to forcibly retract and said they had some experience with intact penises. If anyone knows any info on this, it would be much appreciated. I can find diagrams, but not color pictures to tell me what's normal.
Thanks in advance!
: Exactly.
: since my dh is circed. When he becomes retractable he will let u know. Most of the time they think it is super neat and come running to show it off. Like the pp's have said just let it be.
. I really think it was naturally separated as far as I pulled it back, since I am very afraid of it being forced back, (the idea of a fingernail being ripped off, YIKES! 
), so I was very gentle . I knew enough to know not to retract it FORCIBLY, but unfortunately thought that when it separates on it's own, you should pull it back and clean it. Thank goodness I have this site, or I may have hurt my lil booboFORCIBLYo at some point.
