can you direct me to a simple site?

[TeaghansMama]

Hi Mamas,
I'm due with #2 in a few weeks. We will NOT be circing if this baby is a boy. DH is fine with the decision even though he knows nothing about it. He is deferring to me since I'm the one who reads about it on this wonderful place I've found called MDC.
Anyways... I have read a lot of info over the last few years but I don't have any resource that's simple, concise and to the point. Can anyone direct me to a site that explains the benefits to not circ'ing and risks of circ'ing so that I can show him and also have a reference when we are questioned by various family members which we are bound to be?
Thanks Mamas!!

[frenchie]

I don't have any links for you, but I wanted to respond to the last part of your post. You don't owe *anybody* an explination as to why your son is intact. Unless you tell them, or they see him naked, they will not know anyhow. If they ask, all you need to say is "We are comfortable with our decision to leave our son intact." and leave it at that. Nobody in my family has ever questioned me about my son's penis. Partly because I don't ever bring it up...there is no need to, and the people that do know he's intact either don't care, or know better than to question my decisions. They all know that I do a lot of research.
I know that you will get great links from the other mommas and dads on this board....even Revamp (our resident teenage intactivist) is a wealth of info. Don't overwhelm yourself, just pick a few very important points to remember, and leave it at that. Again, you don't NEED to defend your decision, you just need to be *confident* that you made the right decision.

[paquerette]

The Nocirc pamphlets are easy to print out and pretty short and to the point. http://www.nocirc.org/publish/ For a bit more conversational, casual approach, I like Nocirc of Oklahoma's page: http://oknocirc.blogspot.com/

Make sure your husband, any medical personnel who come in contact with your son (including the hospital or birthing center, if applicable) and any caregivers who might change a diaper or bathe him know, in no uncertains terms NOT TO RETRACT OR MANIPULATE HIS FORESKIN AT ALL, EVER, IN ANY WAY. I don't think this can be said often or loud enough. That's probably the biggest thing you have to worry about.

Congrats!

[A&A]

http://www.stopcirc.com/

[kxsiven]

http://www.infocirc.org/index-e.htm

[Daisie125]

I have been questioned by EVERY member of mine and DH's family. (They are all a bunch of nosy busy bodies, like me LOL)

My responce EVERY time is something along the lines of "No WAY! That's not even reccomended anymore! I didn't even realise that was still legal! *shakes head* all those poor babies whose parents don't know any better!" Hug my son and shiver.

I usually make a bit production of it LOL

[dynamohumm6]

My response is a shocked "uh, NO?!?", and like Daisie, I make it a bit of a production.
My dh says to questioners "we're not jewish and it's not the 1970s."

[Belle]

Originally Posted by frenchie

I don't have any links for you, but I wanted to respond to the last part of your post. You don't owe *anybody* an explination as to why your son is intact. Unless you tell them, or they see him naked, they will not know anyhow. If they ask, all you need to say is "We are comfortable with our decision to leave our son intact." and leave it at that.

While I agree she doesn't owe anyone else an explanation it might be good to explain her reasons for not cutting in case there are other potential parents in her family that could have sons in the future.

Sometimes parents who know no other intact boys will cut just because "everyone else is doing it" Bad reasoning I know, but if they know what harm can be caused by circing then maybe they'll do better in the future.

[Lula's Mom]

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[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

If it is someone aksing that obviously wont change there mind then i love the making a production out of it idea. but if it is someone who might be influinced then giving them facts is great. maybe a bit of both mixed together.

[Tinijocaro]

While I agree with the idea that you don't have to defend your choices to others, I also feel that there is lots of opportunity to educate and get the word out that circ is wrong. This is the only way circ will end. Yes, it's easier to just not bring it up, but think of how many people have changed their minds about circ, due to a relative or friend who educated them.

Originally Posted by frenchie

I don't have any links for you, but I wanted to respond to the last part of your post. You don't owe *anybody* an explination as to why your son is intact. Unless you tell them, or they see him naked, they will not know anyhow. If they ask, all you need to say is "We are comfortable with our decision to leave our son intact." and leave it at that. Nobody in my family has ever questioned me about my son's penis. Partly because I don't ever bring it up...there is no need to, and the people that do know he's intact either don't care, or know better than to question my decisions. They all know that I do a lot of research.
I know that you will get great links from the other mommas and dads on this board....even Revamp (our resident teenage intactivist) is a wealth of info. Don't overwhelm yourself, just pick a few very important points to remember, and leave it at that. Again, you don't NEED to defend your decision, you just need to be *confident* that you made the right decision.

[TeaghansMama]

Originally Posted by Tinijocaro

While I agree with the idea that you don't have to defend your choices to others, I also feel that there is lots of opportunity to educate and get the word out that circ is wrong. This is the only way circ will end. Yes, it's easier to just not bring it up, but think of how many people have changed their minds about circ, due to a relative or friend who educated them.

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EXACTLY!~!! I am not looking to defend my choice, my baby, my choice. end of discussion. ... but I'd like clear, honest info reference that I can reference so I can use the fact that my son.. (if indeed this babe is a son! ) is not circumcised to explain why in an intelligent, knowledgable way that may start someone else's wheels turning and start questioning why?
I also want to educate anyone who might watch him and do a diaper change how to care for him properly.
Thanks for the links I did receive. Very helpful!!

[Kim22]

I love the page that my signature is linked to!
12 Reasons to Say No to Circumcision